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Feb 2, 2020 0

Ask the Guy’s Guy: Can You Be Friends After A Breakup

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Ask the Guy’s Guy: Can You Be Friends After A Breakup
By Robert Manni
Question from Carrolton Q. “My girlfriend and I broke up amiably 6 months ago and we are still friends. I think she still has feelings for me, and I don’t know if it is best to give us space or should I just treat her as a friend and hope her feelings fade? “

Is it possible to spending time with an ex after a breakup?

Hi Carrolton:

Great question about an issue many daters face. Having seen my share of committed relationships, I discovered that the end is not the end until both partners get on the same page. Breaking up is tough, and regardless of the circumstances, people are creatures of habit. That makes cutting the cord with your ex a challenge. And, if the sex was good, it makes it even more challenging. When you meet up with your ex, even as friends, it’s easy to be tempted to return to old habits which are a short term fix rather than a long -term solution.

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So, I don’t recommend post-breakup hookups. This can mess with your head on many levels. When a couple breaks up, it means at least one partner was dissatisfied and probably wants to date other people. How can you move on when you see your ex, and even under the auspices of a friendly drink, you end up in the sack? It’s not a good idea. Here’s an example.

I was in a committed relationship. Over time, we drifted apart partially due to travel for our jobs. Eventually, we broke up. She moved out and got her own place only a few blocks away. So, we got together a few times for a “friendly” dinner, and each time ended the night rumpling the sheets before she went home. This went on for a few months until I texted to see if she was up for a drink. This time she said no. She told me that the last time we got together she got busted by her new boyfriend (news to me) when she returned home with her blouse on backward. That was the end of that. Happily, the breakup turned out to be a gift. I licked my emotional wounds, moved on, and dated a number of amazing, intelligent, very attractive women until I met my future wife.

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The lesson for me was that when it’s over, it’s over, and that means it’s time to move on. In the rare instance that you both want to get back together, there is no better way to sort that out than spending time apart, without the temptation of post-breakup sex.

I hope this helps,

Your Guy’s Guy

Robert Manni

 

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