We’re excited to welcome Ellen Smoak to our expert panel! In her first video, the author of Breakups Are a Bitch But Getting Through It Doesn’t Have to Be! shares the five stages of getting over a breakup and coaches you through each one. First comes shock, followed by denial. Next, we experience anger and begin to step into our own power again. The fourth stage is sadness and depression — “the hardest stage of all.” Finally, we come to acceptance, a stage we can only reach by going through the previous four stages first.

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“We can get stuck in stages for years and not even know it,” she reveals. “It can block our ability to love again, to attract love again, to be happy in love again.”

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