Actress Nicole Kidman and husband Keith Urban welcomed the arrival of their surrogate daughter, Faith Margaret, on December 28th.  Their newborn is the second daughter to join the family, along with two-year-old Sunday Rose.  The couple kept the surrogate process secret from reporters until recently, when they issued statements to UsMagazine.com.  “Our family is truly blessed, and just so thankful, to have been given the gift of baby Faith Margaret,” said Kidman.  “No words can adequately convey the incredible gratitude that we feel for everyone who was so supportive throughout this process, in particular our gestational carrier.”

How should you welcome your surrogate child?

Cupid’s Advice:

Whether adopting or welcoming a surrogate child to your family, sometimes it’s hard to feel at home with a child you’re only just meeting.  Here are a few ways to welcome your new child to the family:

1. Throw a baby shower: Even though the baby isn’t arriving traditionally, the child will still be yours to care for and love for the rest of your life.  Take the opportunity to throw a baby shower, both anticipating the new baby and thanking the birth mother for her selflessness.

2. Make a transition: If your child experienced a lapse in time between birth and coming to live with you, the baby has probably become used to his or her environment.  Ease the transition by incorporating the smells and textures your baby is accustomed to into your own home.

3. Make a connection: Just because you didn’t physically give birth to your child doesn’t mean you aren’t the baby’s “real” parents.  Spend the time needed to establish a parental connection.