To most people, winning an Oscar would be a dream come true.  For Nicole Kidman, it’s nothing compared to winning Keith Urban’s heart.  “I remember thinking, Oh, my God, if you ever gave me a man like that, I promise I would be completely devoted for the rest of my life.  Something that wild,” Kidman, 43, tells guest interviewer Jennifer Aniston in February’s Harper’s Bazaar.  Kidman’s prayers were answered when she and Urban got married in 2006.  According to People, the pair now reside on a beautiful farm outside Nashville with their daughter, Sunday Rose.  “I like to ask people if they would rather have a great love that lasts a lifetime or an amazing career where you go down in history,” Kidman says.  “Some people do answer that they want an extraordinary career.”  But Kidman and Aniston agree that great love is a “no-brainer.”

How do you choose between love and a career?

Cupid’s Advice

For Nicole Kidman, choosing love over her career was a piece of cake.  However, it’s a decision with which many successful people struggle.  When it comes to choosing between your job and your relationship, Cupid has some things to consider:

1. Think ahead: The best thing to do when making a life-changing decision is to think about the future.  If you have to make a choice between your special someone and your career, ask yourself which one will last longer.  A lot can happen in five years at a job, but if you don’t see yourself being serious with the person you’re dating years down the road, then maybe it’s not your job you need to quit.

2. Imagine yourself without one: Some people have dreamt about their wedding day since they were kids, while others wanted success.  No matter what your dreams are, don’t give up on them.

3. Follow your heart: If someone flipped a coin and said, “Heads is career, tails is love,” and didn’t show you the coin right away, which side would you have wished for more?  Sometimes the answer is already in your heart.  When in doubt, go with your gut!