By Emma L. Wells

The Bachelor season 19 “The Women Tell All” special brought all the women back together to reminisce about their time on the reality TV show and clear the air. They had many grievances with each other — and many more with The Bachelor himself, Chris Soules. Kelsey came under attack from all the contestants (yet again) for being conniving and fake. After taking the hot seat, Britt Nilsson immediately called out Carly for being a bad friend. Additionally, both Jade Roper and Kaitlyn Bristowe confronted Soules about why he rejected a relationship and love with them. He assured Roper that it was not because of her Playboy spread. Bristol, unfortunately, received a less clear answer. USAToday.com reported that Soules said, “I apologize….In that moment, I did the best I could and that’s all I know.”  We can’t wait to see how The Bachelor season 19 will end next week!

When it comes to past relationships and love, how can you get over old disputes and move forward? The ladies from The Bachelor season 19 need to listen to this dating advice!


Cupid’s Advice:

Holding on to old grievances isn’t good for you. Why should you dwell on the past when you can move on and find happiness again? This dating advice applies to friendships as well as relationships and love:

1. Reach an understanding: Kaitlyn made the right choice to confront Soules about her hurt feelings. It’s hard to move on when you don’t understand what really happened. The best way to do so is to have an open conversation — preferably not on reality TV! — with the person without being accusatory. Let them explain their actions in their own words. You might not get a satisfying answer, but it will help you to talk it through. 

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2. Look inward: In most cases, while you may be hurt, you’re probably not blameless. It’s equally important to understand what you did wrong and could have done better. Ask your ex about your behavior or just put yourself in their shoes and examine the situation. Either action will help you ensure that the same mistakes aren’t made again.

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3. Forgive and forget: Just because you’re at a place where you’re ready to move on doesn’t mean the other person is, so don’t expect an apology or forgiveness. The best thing you can do is say your peace, move on, and hope that, someday soon, they will be able to do the same.

How have you settled past relationship and love grievances? Tell us in the comments below.