By Emma L. Wells

You know what they say: Two’s a party, but three’s a painfully awkward and quiet crowd. Kelsey and Ashley I. weren’t exactly audience favorites on The Bachelor season 19, but it certainly was enjoyable to watch them face-off on a two-on-one date during last night’s episode of this popular reality TV show. Rather than using their alone time with Chris Soules to grow their relationships and love, the ladies complained and gossiped about each other. According to Fox News, The Bachelor star saw through their games and took their accusations seriously, ultimately sending both women home.

The Bachelor season 19 contestants Kelsey and Ashley I. played Chris Soules like a prize to be won during their two-on-one date. Why can playing games cause more harm than good to your relationship and love?

Cupid’s Advice:

Dating can often feel like a game; after all, there’s players and a field, scores and a strategy. But it can be harder to reach your goal and find a relationship and love if you get too wrapped up in the sport. Here’s why you should take Cupid’s dating advice and stop playing games when it comes to love:

1. It’s not a competition: If you’re out to win the game like these two contestants from The Bachelor season 19, you’ll never win his heart. Ask yourself what winning would even look like to you. If you’re always focused on the final outcome, you can’t enjoy the here and now properly. You’ll end up missing the best parts of your own relationship!

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2. You don’t need a strategy: While there are some helpful tips to playing the field, the most important rule to follow is trusting your heart. Make moves based on your own emotions and don’t feel like you have to play hard to get. You can’t expect to have a real partnership if you’re not acting like your true self. Remember that if it doesn’t work out, then it’s not meant to be.

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3. The stakes are real: If you’re out to just play the field, you’ll never find something serious, and you’ll most certainly end up hurting someone along the way. When dating, the stakes are high. You should have some idea of what you want in a relationship before you dive into it, and you should be honest about your priorities as you go along.

How do keep from playing games in your relationship and love? Tell us in the comments below!