By Emma L. Wells

“The sky’s the limit…,” read Britt Nilsson’s one-on-one date card on last night’s episode of The Bachelor season 19. That’s when the 27-year-old waitress started to cry in panic due to her debilitating phobia of heights. Still, she pulled it together before their one-on-one date. People.com reported Chris Soules saying that she was “just as beautiful first thing in the morning as when she’s all dolled up for the rose ceremony.  It’s pretty incredible.” Turns out, she gets all dolled up for bed too, but oh well! The reality TV lovebirds soon arrived in the New Mexico desert to find a hot air balloon waiting for them, and Nilsson’s fears quickly disappeared with Soules’ arms around her.

This Bachelor season 19 contestant overcame her fear to get closer to Chris Soules. What are some ways you can beat your phobias when looking for a relationship and love?

Cupid’s Advice:

Whether you fear heights, spiders, darkness, or commitment, you shouldn’t let it stand in your way when you’re looking for a relationship and love. It’s completely possible to overcome your distress, no matter how big it may seem. Cupid has some dating advice for you:

1. Switch your focus: On The Bachelor season 19, Nilsson was able get over her fear because being close to Soules was more important to her. If you’re afraid of flying but have to take a trip, focus on the destination to help you get through the flight. Paying attention to your fear will only make the situation harder. That’s why having a hunky farmer by your side is always a benefit!

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2. Get your facts straight: Most fears — like the fear of sharks, for instance — aren’t based on actual statistics. Our imaginations make our phobias much worse than they should be. Do you really live in an area where you need to be worried about giant, poisonous spiders getting you in the dark, or is it just in your mind? Do some research to calm your nerves.

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3. Face your fear: You can’t just ignore it and expect it to go away. To overcome your terror, you need to take gradual steps. If you’re afraid of dogs, watch a few videos of them until you’re comfortable seeing them on the screen. Then, work your way up to being in the same room with them or passing them on a sidewalk. Keep going until you can interact with a large dog in an enclosed setting. There’s no need to rush!

Tell us about a time where you had to face your fears in the name of love!