RadarOnline has learned that TLC reality stars Jon Gosselin and Kate Gosselin have come to a custody agreement for their eight children this Thanksgiving.  After a very public divorce, the two have decided that Kate will have the kids on Thanksgiving, while Jon and his girlfriend, Ellen Ross, will celebrate Thanksgiving with the kids on a different day.  While no agreement has been set on how the divided family will spend Christmas, a similar arrangement may follow.

What are ways to make the holidays enjoyable after a divorce?

Cupid’s Advice:

Dueling parents is no way to celebrate the holidays, especially with young ones around.  As difficult as it may be, putting aside your differences for a few days will do everyone good in the long run:

1. Make a schedule: One of the best and easiest ways to avoid fights on the holidays is to make a schedule.  One parent gets the kids one year and the other gets the kids the following year.  It’s not an ideal situation, but it’s better than holiday drama.

2. Rotate: Split up the time by day.  Perhaps one parent will always see the children on Christmas Eve while the other parent gets Christmas Day.  Make it clear that Santa Claus makes exceptions and may come more than one day in their situation!

3. Look to the future: In a few years, the kids will be grown and what will have become your holiday routine will slowly disappear.  When the kids begin to decide on their own, act like Switzerland and stay neutral on the decision making process.