By April Littleton

According to People, Miranda Kerr and Orlando Bloom seem to be getting along just fine despite the fact that they’re separated. The pair were spotted in N.Y.C. Saturday with their son, Flynn, who turns 3 in Jan. The couple announced their split in October after three years of marriage. “We love each other. We’re a family,” Bloom said about Kerr days after their announcement.

What are some ways to keep your post-breakup relationship civil for your children?

Cupid’s Advice:

1. Let the relationship go: Many couples try to stay in a dying relationship for the sake of their children not realizing that they’re actions are actually making it harder on the family. Put your kids first. Naturally, they would love to see the you and your former¬†partner together, but they also want to see you both happy too – even if that means the two of you aren’t an item anymore.

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2. Communicate: Your children shouldn’t be treated as messengers. If you have anything to say to or about your ex, tell them directly. Your kids don’t need to be put in a situation that’s already hard for them to understand.

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3. Establish a schedule: Set up a schedule that works for both you and your ex. When it comes to visitations, try to be consistent on who gets to see the kids on what days. It’s OK if you need to switch it up every now and then as long as your ex agrees on the terms.

What are some other ways to keep your post-breakup relationship civil for your children? Comment below.