After finding love on the reality TV hit, The Bachelorette, Ali Fedotowsky and Roberto Martinez announced that they planned to elope.  Though still head over heels for one another, the happy couple has decided not to tie the knot immediately.  As Fedotowsky recently told People, “Nothing has changed — we’re still just as happy as we were when we were finished [with the show]; we were so excited.  We were like, ‘Oh, we’re going to get married right away.’  But if you’re rushing because you’re in love, why rush?  [Just] wait.  You’re going to get married anyway.  We’re both sort of enjoying life.”  The soon-to-be newlyweds have moved to San Diego together and are considering wedding venues on the west coast.Why is it important to take things slow?

Cupid’s Advice:

Taking things slow or slowing things down doesn’t mean you are any less in love.  Couples who mutually decide to jog to the alter instead of running there are simply doing what they feel is best for them:

1. Only fools rush in: Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you have to walk down the aisle tomorrow.  Take the time to enjoy each other’s company and plan your dream wedding.  This moment should only happen once.

2. You know best when the time is right: Your gut feeling is almost always correct.  If the only rationale you have for taking it slow is that making the next move doesn’t feel right, trust yourself.  There’s probably a reason you’re internally hesitating.

3. Love knows no schedule: Don’t let anyone tell you or your partner that it’s time to get married or move in together.  There are no deadlines when it comes to love.