Though we women pride ourselves on how â€˜weâ€™ve come a long way, baby,â€™ we still fall prey to the charms of bad boys. Â Why? Â It all starts with Daddy â€” the first man weâ€™ve ever loved. Â If this relationship was dysfunctional, such as with a father who was abusive, depressed, a workaholic, or simply divorced and unavailable, we feel unlovable and grow up with a penchant for bad boys.
The Dozen Dangerous Devils, or 12 types of bad boys, include the: Fixer-Upper Lover, Compulsive Flirt, Grandiose Dreamer, Misunderstood and Married, Mr. Power Mad, Commitment Phobe, Wounded Poet, Self-Absorbed Seducer, Man of Mystery, Dramatic Daredevil, Prince of Darkness and Lethal Lover. Â We are attracted to one or more of these types in an unconscious effort to turn our disappointment with Daddy into a fairytale happy ending.
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For example, if a little girlâ€™s father abandoned her, such as by death, divorce or emotional distance, she would likely grow up to be attracted to a Fixer-Upper Lover (also named the Frazzled Frog), who seems like he would be the least likely man to abandon her because his life is in need of much repair. Â But, once she provides him with the nurturance he craves and helps him get his act together, he hops away to find a more discerning princess. Â All Dozen Dangerous Devils are heartbreakers. Â They just break a womanâ€™s heart in 12 different ways!
Headlines are perpetually filled with celebrity bad boys â€” from Brad Pitt, who claimed to be Misunderstood and Married when he fell for Angelina Jolie; to Chris Brown, an abusive Prince of Darkness who Rihanna still canâ€™t resist; to Bachelor Ben Flajnik, whoâ€™s become a Compulsive Flirt despite his engagement.
Some bad boys can be tamed, but a woman must be careful not to lose her self-respect or sanity in the process. Â Look where it got Catherine Greig, the woman who harbored mob boss James â€˜Whiteyâ€™ Bulger, a Lethal Lover. Â Sheâ€™d laughed about liking bad boys until it landed her in jail!
Dr. Carole Lieberman is anÂ internationally renowned “Media Psychiatrist.” Â On TV, Radio, the Internet, in Film, Print, as a Speaker and as the first “Shrink on Board”Â airline in-flight entertainment, Dr. Carole’s insights help people seize the moment to live happier, more fulfilling lives. Â She’s also the author ofÂ Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them and When to Leave Them.Â