Itâ€™s only expected for the next step in your relationship to be marriage after years of being committed together, right? Â However, sometimes boyfriends evade the big question and you end up waiting for, well, nothing. Â Even if they do plan to spend the rest of their lives with you, they tend to forget that if youâ€™re left hanging for too long, youâ€™ll move on to find someone whoâ€™s ready to get serious. Â But most of the time, it really isnâ€™t your fault. Â Here are some reasons why your boyfriend may be hopping around the big question:
1. Heâ€™s waiting for the perfect moment, financially
When a man gets married, he feels the responsibility to provide and care for his family. Â These financial responsibilities will usually push a guy to taking any opportunity in order to make the most money he can. Â Getting married without being financially stable or without having a plan isnâ€™t in the books for him.
2. He doesnâ€™t want to give up his buddies
A guy is usually obsessed with his male buddy and his â€˜guy timeâ€™ can be something he may feel like heâ€™ll be giving up entirely once he gets married. Â Especially if your boyfriendâ€™s friends are single, it will be harder for him to tear himself away from the group. Â Heâ€™ll try to get all that guy time out of his system before deciding heâ€™s ready to be 100 percent committed to marriage.
3. He might not be ready to get married yet
Getting married leads to other huge decisions that go along with it. Â Marriage means getting into the topic of having kids, possibly moving someplace different and other responsibilities he isnâ€™t ready to get into just yet. Â Itâ€™s better to know heâ€™s proposing when he is completely ready to make those decisions with you, so you donâ€™t run into any problems later.
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4.Â He doesnâ€™t want to lose all his privacy
When youâ€™re dating someone for so long, you become a huge part of each otherâ€™s lives. Â Marriage is another step ahead of that; youâ€™re around each other all the time. Â Privacy can be very important to a man, something thatâ€™s hard for them to give up and share with a female. Â Realizing that everything unites once youâ€™re married may have made your boyfriend wanting to delay the proposal a little bit longer.
What you can do to help speed up the process before he gets too comfortable is to avoid trying to change him. Â Let him do his own thing while youâ€™re together, and if he feels he has to give up too much to be with you, it wonâ€™t be something heâ€™ll want to make permanent. Â But, definitely make sure to have a talk with him about your next steps together as you always want to be on the same page.Â If you are, marriage canâ€™t be too far into the future.
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