By Abiola Abrams
Some of us view Hollywood stars as lifestyle role models. Â You want Sofia Vergaraâs lipstick, Beyonceâs curly hair or the Balenciaga bag that everybody and their mother was rocking on the red carpet recently. Â While itâs cool to mix celeb style with your own once in a while, itâs important to remember that the people who entertain us with movies, TV and music are just that — people.
That said, the famous are more human than we realize, and some of our favorite celebrities have one thing in common that we should never seek to emulate — their tumultuous relationships. Â In fact, letâs learn from the love, sex and dating mistakes of the stars.
Here are some celebrity relationship snafus to avoid:
Love Mistake: Never Being Single.
It seemed like Jennifer Lopez was barely divorced from her crooner hubby Marc Anthony before stepping out with sexy back up dancer Casper Smart. Â Before that, she made a seamless transition from her Bennifer engagement to her JenAnthony marriage. Â Whatâs up with that?
Going from relationship to relationship is a mistake. Â Taking a break between longtime loves is the best way to heal and ensure that we come to the next marriage or engagement as whole human beings.
Love Mistake: Marrying too soon.
Kim Kardashian and whatâs-his-face Humphries had the 72-day fairytale heard âround the world. Â It seemed like Kimmie was set to continue the Dash girls tradition of meeting and immediately ending up happily ever after. Â Look at her little sister Khloe and her b-baller Lamar Odom. Â Their less than one month courtship has yielded a relationship thatâs still going strong.
Bottom line? Â Khloe and Lamar are a wonderful fluke. Â Marrying someone before youâve even had the âwhere will we liveâ conversation is a huge mistake. Â Sorry, Kris Humphries!
Love Mistake: Stealing someone elseâs lover.
Man and woman stealing is a time honored Hollywood tradition. Â See LeAnn Rimes, Tori Spelling, Angelina Jolie and even old school movie star Elizabeth Taylor. Â Itâs a big world out there. Â If your love cheated to be with you, then how can you ever trust that this pattern won’t be repeated? Â The answer is, you canât.
Karma is a mean goddess, and hell hath no fury like karma scorned. Â Just sayin.â
Love Mistake: Getting a mistress pregnant.
Arnold Schwarzenegger sure did seem preachy about family values as the Republican governor of California, didnât he? Â Little did we know that the Governator was not only sleeping with the maid, but heâd had a love child with her as well. Â Oy vey.
Obviously, this is a relationship no-no to be avoided at all costs.
Love Mistake: Bashing your ex.
When we watched Kelsey Grammerâs previous wife Camille Grammer battle the divorce demon on âThe Real Housewives of Beverly Hills,â our hearts broke for her. Â Her A-list husband cheated and ran. Â Sure, she had choice words about him on her reality show, but then Mr. Grammer behaved deplorably by bashing his former Mrs. in an interview with Pierce Brosnan.
A smarter move is always to take the high road. Â SeeÂ Jennifer Aniston for lessons on grace under fire. Â Okay, it didnât work out, and she moved on. Â Sure, itâs probably messy. Â Life is a contact sport.
What are some other celeb love snafus? Â Dating different versions of the same jerk a la Halle Berry, returning to the scene of the crime like RihannaÂ orÂ falling apart after a breakup like Demi MooreÂ are all examples notÂ to follow.
Ah, le love. Â Youâre much better off copying a celebrity hair cut than imitating their love styles. Â Here’s to shiny, happy and healthy relationships!
Abiola Abrams is a lifestyle expert and host of âAbiolaâs Kiss and Tell TV.â Â Her next book is entitled The Official Bombshell Handbook. Â Find her fun and scandalous love advice and interviews at http://www.AbiolaTV.com. Â She tweets @abiolatv.Â