Listen, itâ€™s not easy for men. Â We understand that itâ€™s a two-way street, this dating thing. Â Tried and true, we young professionals hit the bars, clubs, gyms, restaurants and other various hot spots perceived to be breeding ground for potential girlfriends and spouses. Â Some of us have even taken the plunge into the e-dating world. Â We come up empty handed more often than you would think. Â Maybe that isnâ€™t surprising to you, but itâ€™s routine to us. Â All too often, the cute girl on the stairmaster ends up being nothing more than just that â€” a cute girl. Â You see, we have a natural tendency to judge (harshly), and often build up our own barriers against accepting a woman into our lives past the first few dates. Â That said, we do have a few important criteria. Â Below are five things men look for in a wife:
That is, stop looking at your phone when I talk to you. Â This thing we look for can be displayed with variance in several different ways. Â When we’re describing anything to you, be it an event of the day, idea we have, or anything else, itâ€™s because we care about your opinion on the matter. Â Your focused feedback on all things is important to us. Â Weâ€™re looking for a life partner, someone to be our go-to when we need it most. Â Stay focused.
We expect honesty in dialogue. Â Even the smallest details matter. Â If you donâ€™t like that dish we ordered for dinner, say so. Â If you arenâ€™t a fan of the way we floss and sing Blink-182 simultaneously, pipe up. Â Nip things that bother you by telling the truth about how you feel. Â The more you sweep things under the rug, the bigger mess you will find yourself cleaning up later. Â No conversation is worth saving over a white lie.
That â€śKeep Calm And Carry Onâ€ť catch phrase is a beautyâ€¦ because itâ€™s rooted in reality. Â If weâ€™re surveying you as a potential wife, it means weâ€™re taking you seriously. Â Weâ€™re all about you, we love you, and weâ€™re going to spend a lot of time, money and energy making you the happiest person to have ever walked this earth. Â We are preparing to give ourselves to you. Â Just as we have to present ourselves as stable, able life mates, you must do the same. Â If youâ€™ve still yet to sow some of your wild oats, then this relationship isnâ€™t for you. Â Be here, now, and present. Â Have your job, family and money in order. Â Donâ€™t let this commitment go into the deep end if youâ€™re still wearing swimmies.
Pretty simple, right? Â No one likes a Debbie Downer, especially one that theyâ€™ll be sharing their life and assets with. Â You will be sharing a bed, bathroom, kitchen, home, family and life together. Â It would seem that the best way to approach that would be with positivity. Â Although itâ€™s still important to tell the truth about things that bother you, itâ€™s also important to beâ€¦ you knowâ€¦ enjoyable. Â Think of all of your negative friends and family. Â When youâ€™re planning a night out, you probably hesitate to call them. Â If you canâ€™t call those people, why would you marry one?
5. Love (NOTHING else)
It always comes back to love, doesnâ€™t it? Â We look for women to share love with us. Â Love is the stuff of marriage. Â If youâ€™re in need of financial help, the government has programs for that. Â Itâ€™s important to be at similar stations in life so you have a reciprocal and positive marriage experience. Â We want to marry because weâ€™re in love, not because itâ€™s a sound financial decision.
What are some other things men look for in a wife? Share your thoughts below.