Valentineâ€™s Day is a great excuse to strap on your tallest heels and reserve a window seat at a chic lounge for some champagne and brie. Â Or, for the more traditional lady, thereâ€™s no greater treat than spending an evening enjoying red wine and dark chocolate with your love, be it your soul mate or your best friend. Â The only wrong way to spend this special day is with a jerk. Â Sometimes hard to spot, these heartbreakers have a pension for making their dates feel awful and are experts in keeping a relationship miserable. Â Fortunately, enough women have been there before you and there are now many easy to spot red flags. Â Keeping a lookout for these top ten signs youâ€™re with a jerk is the first step to ensuring you wonâ€™t have a Valentineâ€™s Day to regret:
1.Â He talks down to you:Â If he talks to you as if youâ€™re a child, or incapable of making smart decisions, you deserve better. Â The same goes if he acts like youâ€™re unable to live a productive life without him, speaks poorly of you in front of his friends, or treats you like a servant. Â Thereâ€™s nothing funny about a man talking to his girlfriend as though sheâ€™s less than he is.
2.Â He doesnâ€™t support you:Â So you want to be a famous ballerina who sells diamond encrusted dog collars on the side? Â Fine, your best friends support you and so should your man. Â If your beau acts like your dreams are unattainable or stupid, or if he refuses to encourage you at all, forget him. Â Everyone needs a support system and if he canâ€™t believe in your dreams, he certainly shouldnâ€™t reap the benefits of your eventual success.
3.Â He tries to make you jealous:Â If he talks too fondly about his ex, still excitedly mentions his single hook-ups or reminds you of the tanned, muscular legs on your best friend, heâ€™s trying to make you jealous. Â Heâ€™s probably insecure, and the worse you feel the more confident he becomes, meaning this behavior is never going to end. Â Move on and make a brighter future for yourself while heâ€™s stuck daydreaming about the past.
4.Â He makes you feel second best:Â We all deserve to spend a guilt-free night out with our friends and sometimes work and other real world obligations demand our immediate attention. Â That said, if your man is constantly canceling dates to grab a beer with the guys or to score some overtime at the office, then the last thing on his priority list is you and thatâ€™s not OK.
5.Â He forgets your anniversary:Â Â Itâ€™s not difficult to remember the dates that are important to us. Think of it this way â€” has your man ever forgotten his own birthday?Â If he canâ€™t find the time to recall your wedding anniversary or the night the two of you became official, then itâ€™s not important enough to him.
6.Â He doesnâ€™t make you feel beautiful:Â Whether itâ€™s waking up on the wrong side of the bed or forgetting to tweeze the brows, no one can constantly look perfect. Â But, if your date is always bringing upÂ your curves, wrinkles and bad hair days without once mentioning your great attributes, itâ€™s time to find someone new.
7.Â He never pays:Â Most partners know that their sweethearts canâ€™t afford extravagant dinners or weekend getaways more than a few times a year. Â However, if your honey refuses to ever foot the bill, then thereâ€™s a good chance he isnâ€™t taking your feelings seriously. Â It doesnâ€™t cost a lot to treat you to a movie or to share a few appetizers at your favorite restaurant and he should love seeing the look of appreciation on your face when he does.
8.Â He doesnâ€™t fight well:Â One of the greatest tests of a relationship is seeing how your partner reacts during an argument. Â If he is quick to raise his voice, insult you or, even worse, hit you, then heâ€™s a certifiable jerk. Â If he loses his cool completely during an argument, then he is losing sight of the relationship all together.
9.Â He wonâ€™t forgive you:Â We all make mistakes, but being bold enough to acknowledge your wrong doings and apologize is an attribute your date should appreciate. Â However, if your man refuses to accept your apologies, or if he constantly holds your past missteps over your head, then heâ€™s too immature and petty for a woman of your caliber.
10.Â He cheats on you:Â If your man is willing to disrespect you and disregard your feelings enough to become intimate with another woman, whether physically or emotionally, you need to drop him today. Â Every woman should require a partner that loves, respects and cherishes them.
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