Hollywood couple Ashley Hebert and J.P. Rosenbaum are celebrating both Christmas and Hanukkuh during their first holiday season together after recently getting engaged on the reality TV show The Bachelorette. As Rosenbaum told People, “We have been celebrating the first few nights of Hanukkuh. We lit some candles.”  Rosenbaum also introduced his celebrity love to the Jewish tradition of having Chinese food. The happy Hollywood couple spent Christmas in Maine with Hebert’s family eating and singing holiday carols.

Although this Hollywood couple had different holiday traditions, they still celebrated with each other. How do you adapt to your partner’s family traditions?

Cupid’s Advice:

When you start a new relationship and love, you and your partner may have so different traditions — and that’s okay! One of the fun things about being in a partnership is learning new things. Here is some relationship advice on how to celebrate your love’s traditions:

1. Participate: You may not understand your partner’s traditions or religion, but don’t be a Scrooge. For the sake of your relationship and love, give their family a chance and try it out. Ask for ideas about what to make or bring over. You’ll enjoy the festivities even more if you contribute!

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2. Educate:  If you’re feeling uncomfortable and don’t know what to expect from your partner’s family, the best way to learn about Hanukkuh or the Italian ‘Feast of the Seven Fishes’ is to research the tradition before you go. It won’t make you a pro, but it will surely give you some background and make you feel more comfortable.

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3. Ask questions: Show interest by asking questions about certain activities, prayers, or food. Most people love to talk about family traditions and how they got started. Being inquisitive fills the evening with nostalgia and shows how much you care.

What’s your favorite holiday tradition?  Share it with us in the comments below.