Sadly, Ali Fedotowsky and Roberto Martinez have called off their engagement. The couple, who met on The Bachelorette decided on a long engagement, which ultimately did not work out for the pair, according to The Huffington Post. The duo was supposed to get married this year, but Fedotowsky was recovering from knee surgery and had to postpone the wedding. They ended up calling off the wedding three times before the relationship ended. In August, Fedotowsky told People magazine, “In my mind, Roberto is my husband. We live together; we do everything together; we plan for the future together; we fight just like a good old married couple.” It looks like it’s another case of love lost in The Bachelor community.

How do you know when it’s time to call off your engagement?

Cupid’s Advice:

Ending an engagement is one of the hardest things for a couple to do. Marriage is a big step, and it’s not meant to be taken lightly.  If you’re feeling unsure about saying those vows, proceed with caution. Cupid has some tips:

1. Take a step back: A break from one another can give you a new perspective. You might end up appreciating each other much more, and realize that you are meant to be together. It could also go the other way, and you’ll realize you are much better apart.

2. Assess the situation: If it feels like you’re just not on the same page anymore and your partner is headed in one direction while you are going the other way, it may be time to call it quits. Unless you can somehow focus and anchor your relationship, there’s no point in staying in it.

3. Nothing is the same: Maybe you and your partner have just outgrown one another. This happens frequently, and as heartbreaking as it may be, don’t stay in a relationship that you know won’t work anymore.

How did you know when it was time to call off your engagement?  Share your experiences below.