Regardless of what you may think of the Kim Kardashian/Kris Humphries whirlwind marriage, you have to admire a woman who knows how to play to her strengths. Ever since Kim’s life became the subject of an E! reality TV show, her life became a business. Like any good businesswoman, she knew when to cut her losses.
Whereas most women in the non-reality world may have ignored the inner voice that told us we were making a mistake with our marriage and then spent years trying to make it work, Kim called it quits before anyone invested any more time or money.
How many of us would have stuck it out because our parents spent a ton of money on the wedding and 400 guests bought us presents? How many would have been embarrassed to admit they made a mistake? Maybe we would have let it go on for years, had an affair, or brought a child or two into the equation in an effort to do what we thought was the right thing.
After it ended, we’d tell our friends how we knew it wasn’t right from the beginning. We just got so caught up in the wedding preparations and the desire for a fairy tale ending that we ignored the nagging inner voice of wisdom that told us we were on a road to nowhere with Mr. Wrong.
It’s a given that allowing your life to be put on display is probably not the best idea if you want your marriage to succeed, but for Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, I suspect they’re no different from the thousands of other people who get married every year without enough forethought, only to wind up divorced. It’s just that most of us would tie ourselves in knots trying to make it work and spend years in therapy avoiding the inevitable. We’d continue putting on a show for the sake of everyone around us, instead of acknowledging the reality of our lives. After a respectable amount of time passed, we’d finally give in and end it–an undefined amount of time that told society we at least gave it a shot.
Instead of judging Kim’s 72-day marriage, perhaps we should admire her for being a little more real than the rest of us, having the savvy and the courage to play a starring role in her own life, and writing a script where the happy ending isn’t the marriage, but in this case, a divorce.
Amy Beth O’Brien is the author of four-time-award winning book Stuck with Mr. Wrong? Ten Steps to Starring in your own Life Story. Visit her web site at www.amybethobrien.com.