By Brea Gunn

Everyone knows the formula: boy meets girl, boy flirts with girl, boy asks girl out and boy and girl become an item.  But what happens when girl meets boy and girl pursues said boy?

While it’s not unheard of for a woman to have a crush, it’s becoming more fashionable for her to be the pursuer, rather than the pursued.  Take Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber, for example.  The pair met at the Metropolitan Museum of Art’s Costume Ball, and the rest is history, as they say.  Or, actually, it’s HERstory.

The thing is, unlike other couples, Naomi actually persued Liev.  That’s right.  The actress made up an excuse, flew to New York and now the couple have two beautiful children.  A woman pursuing a man isn’t necessarily a new phenomenon in Hollywood, though.  In fact, it’s starting to feel like the norm.

For example, Rachel Weisz married Daniel Craig after meeting the super-hunk on the set of their new movie.  LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian couldn’t keep their hands off each other (their very married hands!) when they met.  Jessica Alba thought Cash Warren was a stud, and now they’ve got a beautiful family.  And sometimes life even imitates art…or art imitates life.  Even Anna Paquin couldn’t keep her eyes off of costar Stephen Moyer.  And ironically, Sookie, her character on their show, True Blood, pursued his character, Bill.

So what’s a woman to do?  Here are some tips:

1. Make the first move: Go talk to him. Compliment his awesome dancing ability.  Hey, it worked for Naomi Watts!

2. Set up the next date: Take a lesson from Anna Paquin, and tell him when you want to see him again.  Don’t wait the obligatory 48 hours to text and/or call.

3. Don’t be shy: Even if you tend to be on the quieter sell, go outside of your comfort zone and show your outgoing side.  There’s no place for hesitation when your’e going after a man.

So, next time you’re out with your girlfriends and you see a cute guy across the room, channel Naomi, Rachel, Leann and Anna … and send him a drink.

Brea Gunn is a monthly contributor for Cupid’s Pulse and also writes about the best Westchester wedding venues. Check out what these wedding business marketing insiders have to share.