Jesse James, ex-husband of Sandra Bullock and West Coast Choppers CEO, won the first round of his custody battle with second wife, the New York Post reported Monday.  James and ex-wife Janine Lindemulder, an ex-porn star, both provided statements against each other, including James claiming Lindemulder told him she was on anti-depressant drugs.  For now, James has sole custody of their daughter, Sunny.

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Cupid’s Advice:

A custody battle should end up with the child placed in the best home possible.  A messy fight between parents doesn’t help an already hard situation, especially if the child(ren) aren’t old enough to understand what’s going on.  Keep them away from the proceedings when you can.

1. Lips are sealed: Don’t talk about the custody issues outside of the courtroom unless lawyers are present.  This protects both parties from bringing any private matters into the battle later on, and also protects the kid from becoming involved.

2. No place likes homes: Make both parents’ living arrangements a real home for the child.  Regardless of how the custody proceedings end, the youngster should feel comfortable living with either parent.  A stable home environment for the child must be provided when all is said and done.

3. No one new: This is not the time to bring any new relationships into the child’s life, especially a romantic one for either parent.  In a time of uncertainty for a kid, including a new face in the home will only add to the confusion.