Why are nice girls attracted to bad boys? Â Because opposites attract â€” duh! Â For decades, weâ€™ve been throwing around this clichĂ© without really investigating why it may be true. Â I mean, at one time or another, havenâ€™t we all been drawn to those who are so different from us that weâ€™d be hard pressed to actually find a similarity?
For instance, your idea of having fun is to hit the bar scene and meet new people, while he wants to sit at home and watch sports. Â Youâ€™re super bashful at a dinner party, and heâ€™s the life of the party. Â You were always a straight â€śAâ€ť student with no â€śnaughtyâ€ť record, while he struggled to pass in school and spent the majority of his time in the principalâ€™s office. Â Despite those glaring differences, the thing is, sometimes being in a relationship with an opposite personality works.
So, letâ€™s find out why those who have very little in common find each other irresistible.Â Here are five solid reasons:
1.Â Itâ€™s all in the science: A recent study shows that females are naturally attracted to men whose immune systems differ from their own. Â In fact, the more unlike a manâ€™s immune system is to a womanâ€™s, the more likely the woman is to remain faithful. Â Pretty soon, a simple DNA test may be the answer to all of our relationship problems.
2.Â Curiosity: Sometimes itâ€™s simply that we want to know how “the other half” lives, according to Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC (known as The Dating Coach and author of MANifesting Mr. Right). Â “I am the type that wants to get from point A to point B as fast as possible,” she says. Â “My husband wants to go the long way so he can see the sunset at the beach on the way to his destination. Â Learning to slow down has been very good for me.”
3. New and improved: Having a relationship with someone whose perspective on life is completely different than yours serves to bring out a spanking new, and sometimes better side, of each person.Â Plus, being with someone who has a completely different opinion than yours can keep the spark alive in a relationship.
4. Divide and conquer: “Opposites can make fabulous partners because they complement each other,” says Ryan. Â Instead of arguing over who gets to do the “good” chores and who gets stuck with the “bad,” your likes and dislikes donâ€™t overlap. Â You prefer washing the dishes, while heâ€™s totally fine with drying.
5. Itâ€™s a challenge: Letâ€™s face it: they donâ€™t call it the “dating game” for nothing.Â Yes, eventually dating can turn from a contest into a serious relationship, but it starts out as a challenge to overcome.Â It becomes even more of a feat when you add opposite personalities to the mix.Â Bottom line is â€” the Venus vs. Mars dynamic is exciting!
What are some other reasons that opposites attract? Share your thoughts below.