By Linda Guma
Are you looking for a happier love life? Happiness expert, author, life coach and TV personality Sophie Keller gives us 50 key ideas for improving your relationship in her upcoming book, How Happy Is Your Love Life?: 50 Great Tips to Help You Attract and Keep Your Perfect Partner.
The book is part of a four-book series coming out November 27. Keller notes her goal for the âHow Happy Isâ brand is that [her] practical, easy to use advice will help you discard outdated attitudes, habits and beliefs in order to make more positive choices in your life.
We had the pleasure of interviewing Keller to find out just how she does it.
What motivated you to become a happiness expert?
When I was young I didnât feel particularly understood. Â But I knew I was meant to be happy, so when I searched for how, I found it inside. I realized that when you drop the masks, armors and pretenses, you will find who you are.Â The person you should be with will magnetize to you. Â Otherwise, you will magnetize people who have the same armor.Â Thatâs why relationships donât work.Â Someoneâs armor must come off.
What is happiness?
Happiness is about feeling complete within yourself, feeling like youâre making a difference in your life and the lives of others.Â Itâs about expressing yourself fully and completely.
Itâs interesting that on a worldwide scale, happiness and wealth donât correlate with each other. Happiness is about focusing on the moment.Â For example, those in third world countries focus on feeding themselves and their children. Â They value their relationships above material things. Â I always say weâre human beings, not human having or human doings. The more âhuman beingâ we are, the happier weâll be.
What sets this book apart from other love advice booksÂ on the market?
Everything is actionable. Â Also, it teaches you how to focus and work on yourself. Â Most of all, this book teaches you to break down defense mechanisms that have been holding you back.
What would you say is the most important tip you have for those who strive to be happy in their love lives?
Be yourself to the fullest and be really positive. Relax, have fun and have faith. There is someone out there for you. Â You also have to work on your self development. Clear out your insecurities. You need to shift how you think about yourself and any past issues that keep resurfacing.
How do you know when itâs right to tie the knot?
Every cell in your body says “yes,” with no doubt.Â You never know what itâs going to feel like but when it happens youâll know.Â The person you end up marrying could surprise you.
Sophie Keller is the creator ofÂ Howhappyis.com.Â She has been a featured life coach for Martha StewartâsÂ Whole Living magazine, a contributing expert for Sirius radio and she appears frequently onÂ KTLA 5 Morning News.Â She also appears on FOX, NBC, ABC, and CBS where she gives happiness tips and lifestyle advice.Â She was recently appointed the âGood Newsâ Ambassador for LG Electronics.Â She lives in Santa Monica, California.
To order a copy of her book, visit http://www.howhappyis.com/books/love-life/.