Ashley Hebert looked forward to introducing Ben Flajnik and J.P. Rosenbaum, the final two contenders on The Bachelorette season 7to her family. Her whole family loved Flajnik, but Rosenbaum didn’t have the same luck. In fact, her sister was especially disapproving of her relationship and love with the contestant. The Bachelorette star told People, “What bothered me the most was not that she didn’t approve but how aggressive and unsupportive she was. All I needed at this point was someone to be supportive of whatever I was feeling…and she wasn’t.” Although she was crushed by her sister’s reaction, Hebert decided to take her opinion with a grain of salt: “I used her uncertainty to make me ask the questions I was scared to ask but by no means did it change the way I felt about him.” Hebert followed her heart and recently celebrated her celebrity engagement with Rosenbaum.

Hebert’s sister wasn’t thrilled about Bachelorette contestant Rosenbaum. What do you do if your family doesn’t support your relationship and love?

Cupid’s Advice:

You’re torn inside. You love your partner, but your family doesn’t think he or she is right for you. If you’re really close to your family and value their opinion, it may be very difficult to be in this situation.  Cupid has some love advice on what you can do to ease the tension:

1. Get to the heart of the issue: Talk to your family members. Find out exactly what bothers them about your boyfriend or girlfriend. Do they think your partner’s not good enough for you?  Do they think they are having a negative influence on you? Maybe they’re simply afraid of losing you. It’s important to communicate!

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2. Be firm: In order to confront your family’s prejudices, you need to be firm. Tell them that you hope that they can be happy for you. Instead of asking them if they approve of your relationship and love, assert that you would be grateful to receive their support for your decision.

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3. Allow for bonding: You’ve tried convincing your folks that your significant other is a great person, and it turns out that words alone won’t do the trick. Your next best bet is to have them spend time with your beau so that they can get to know each other better. Try to find some common ground between them.

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