One of Ashley Hebert’s final three suitors walked away during last week’s episode of The Bachelorette in Fiji.  Although it was clear that there was no spark between Constantine Tzortzis and Hebert, it was still shocking to find out that he wanted to call it quits.  The 30-year-old restaurant owner openly admitted to People in an exclusive Men Tell All taping that he wasn’t ready to get married to Herbert.  He said, “You either have a feeling or you don’t… My feelings were not strong enough at that point to justify sticking around and possibly going through with that next step of getting engaged.”  Tzortzis’ family fully supported his decision.

How do you know when your relationship is headed toward marriage?

Cupid’s Advice:

You and your partner both hold very strong feelings of love for one another, but how do you know he or she is the one?  Cupid has some ideas:

1. Clarity about the future: A good indicator that your relationship is moving toward that next serious step is that you talk about your plans for the future together.  So, for example, you might discuss the intention to move to a new city and then have children together.  You should both be able to paint a vivid picture of the future and see yourselves together in it.

2. Part of the family: Perhaps you’ve heard the saying, ‘When you marry someone, you marry into his or her family.’  Before you move onto marriage, you should feel a sense of belonging to your partner’s family and vice versa.

3. In the friend circle: Not only is it important to be well integrated into each others’ families, but it’s also essential to share your buddies.  It’s okay if you don’t get along with a few of your partner’s friends, but it’s important that the majority of them consider you a part of the pack.  This will prevent you from having to make compromises about friendships during marriage.

What are some indicators that you’re moving toward being more than boyfriend and girlfriend? Share your ideas below.