ByÂ Melissa Tierney
Thereâs no denying we are a society addicted to technology.Â Â While this fact may not necessarily be a bad thing when it comes to your day-to-day life, our technological habits may be making it impossible to form ârealâ relationships with the targets of our affection.Â It seems that the days of in-person or over-the-phone conversations are gone, and instead we are left with e-mail, texting, or social networking sites as the normal way of communicating, normally in 140 characters or less.Â So although technology may make it easier to meet someone, does it really help nurture a relationship?
1. Tuning Out the World Around You: Itâs become a part of life to have our Blackberry stuck to our ear whether we are at work, running errands or even out with friends, but what does this say about us? Â Experts agree, when people are glued to their phones itâs a sign that they arenât open to meeting new people. Â This is the complete opposite message you want to be sending if you are indeed âon the market.â Â If you seem preoccupied and uninterested, no one is going to approach you in order to get to know you, let alone ask you out. Â Whether youâre out alone or with your friends, take some helpful advice and put the phone down – you never know who may be watching you, waiting to make his or her move.
2. More Likely to Cheat:Studies have proven that people who are addicted to technology and social networking are more likely to cheat. Â Since they are constantly âmeetingâ new people every day, and communicating with them via the Internet, it is more likely to turn a friendlyÂ conversation into flirting. Â The worst part of this is that others donât even consider what they are doing as âcheatingâ or âflirtingâ. Â By being able to meet someone with the click of a mouse, it makes people appreciate less what they already have.
3. Cyberstalking: With sites like Facebook, Twitter and Four Square, people are now able to track down their partnerâs whereabouts without being caught. Â By engaging in this kind of behavior, you can ruin an existing or new relationship. Â When you cyber-stalk your honey, youâre going to over-analyze everything they do:Â who they are talking to; who they have pictures with; and where they are going. Â This may indicate a trust issue in the relationship. Â While you may be tempted to cyber-stalk your beau, donât do it – Â it will cause nothing, but problems.
4. Not Paying Attention: How annoying is it to go on a date with someone who wonât turn their phone off and focus his attention on you? Â Just because you have your phone with you, that doesnât mean you should be responding to a text, e-mail, or call. Â When youâre on a date, you should be focusing your attention on the other person and what he or she is saying. Â How are you supposed to get to know someone who you might possibly have a future with if you canât even focus and pay attention in the present?
5. It’s Not Official Until It’s On the Internet: Apparently relationships are no longer âofficialâ until theyâre spread all over the internet, which makes many people feel uncomfortable. Â So it begs the question – is it necessary to plaster your relationship status all over Facebook? Â On the one hand, some believe that unless you have something to hide, you and your beau should both change your relationship status on Facebook as well as indicate who you are in a relationship with to show you are both âoff limitsâ. Â Conversely, others believe that your âstatusâ shouldnât be broadcast on a website and that it isnât anyone elseâs business. Â Either way, 5 years ago this situation wasnât something we had to deal with and itâs another reason why technology may be ruining your dating life.
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