It may come as no surprise to Real Housewives fans that Taylor and Russell Armstrong have called it quits. Â After all, the Armstrong couple likened their marriage to a business agreement. Â The two were going through “huge martial problems related to finances,” an inside source reported to UsMagazine.com in May. Â Although they have a five-year-old daughter named Kennedy, they decided that the best decision would be to split. Â On Friday, they filed for divorce.
What are ways to work on your marriage before calling it quits?
It seems like the Hollywood-inspired trend today is to file for divorce when things don’t work out. Â The roles of husbands and wives in our society has changed over the centuries. Â Although most of us do make an effort to resolve maritalÂ turbulence, it can be tough. Â Cupid has some tips on how to work out your martial issues:
1. Communicate: Often times, communication is at the heart of relationship problems. Â The next time you and your spouse start arguing, try to verbalize your points effectively before things get heated. Â Always focus on the particular situation and, by all means, avoid using phrases like “you always do this.” Â Stay calm, and try to get to the heart of the issue that’s troubling you.
2. Listen: We often complain that our partners don’t really listen to us, but we could all probably make an effort to be better listeners. Â When your spouse is mad at you, don’t get defensive or show contempt. Â Although this may sound silly, take turns rephrasing each other’s points. Â This will ensure that you both understand where each other’s anger is coming from and allow you to better work through your problems.
3. Consult a counselor: Seeking external help is always a wise step to take before calling it quits. Â It can be really hard to work through your issues without the aid of a third party. Â A marital therapist can really help you gain awareness of your communicative difficulties as a couple and give you valuable advice on how to work through your marriage.
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