By Julia Slovich
Although stories of cheating men have been dominating the news lately and falling out of love seems to be happening a lot more frequently than people are falling in love, the situation isn’t exclusive to men. Losing those loving feelings for your husband or boyfriend can happen just as easily to women. If you’ve experienced this in the past or maybe you’re going through it with your partner now, the first step is to be aware of why it’s happening. Follow these five reasons your fairy-tale romance could be slipping away:
1. Feeling Adored
It’s important that a woman feels appreciated by her partner. Men are usually good at this in the beginning of a relationship when it’s still new, but as the novelty ends, the attention may die down, too. Just look at Jennifer Aniston and John Mayer. She broke up with him because he was obsessed with Twitter, telling her that he was too busy for her, but in the meantime, his Twitter page was saturated.
2. Bored to Tears
We want excitement! And, if we can’t have that, give us variety. If a relationship gets into a rut and you end up doing the same things every weekend or having sex in the same positions every time, a woman can get bored and lose interest altogether. Both people need to put some work into the relationship or they’ll find themselves quickly falling out of love.
3. Honeymoon is Over
Sometimes, we can be completely unrealistic and think that our relationship will turn out alright because “we love each other so much.” Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Once the honeymoon phase is over, the reality of the relationship can be a slap in the face. Pamela Anderson and Kid Rock were married for a mere four months before they called it quits. Both agreed that it was time to end it, and Pam said that they just weren’t meant to be together. It’s easy to ignore all of the red flags when you’re caught up in romance and passion.
4. Lack of Chemistry
Most women are looking for that spark that makes them feel all tingly and giggly whenever their man touches or looks at them. However, a relationship can’t be built on sparks alone. Eventually they will fade if the relationship doesn’t have substance.
5. Emotionally Disconnected
Poor communication (or no communication at all) is one of the main reasons women fall out of love. We need to feel connected to our partners emotionally as well as physically in order to love and be loved. When there’s little communication, some women will shut down. Maria Shriver was extremely unhappy in her marriage to Arnold Schwarzenegger. Apparently, they hadn’t been spending much time together in the last few years, and she was frequently absent from Sacramento where Arnold was the governor. If that doesn’t signal a problem, nothing does.
It happens to the best of us. Sometimes we just fall out of love, but if you don’t want to be another divorce rate statistic and want to make it work with your partner, use these five signs as a starting place to determine what may be going wrong and see if there’s a way to fix it before it’s too late.
Julia Slovich is a writer passionate about health, fitness & blogging. When she’s not running with her dog she can sometimes be found writing about laser liposuction, cooking and a myriad of other topics.