A few days before walking down the aisle, Crystal Harris had a change of heart and called off her wedding to Hugh Hefner. Â The 85-year-old Playboy founder has wasted no time weeping over his broken heart. Â According to People, a week after calling Anna Sophia Berglund his “new girl,” he introduced Shera Bechard as his new girlfriend as well.
Is it healthy to date someone new after ending a serious relationship?
Cupid’s Advice:
Just because your close relationship came to an end, it doesn’t mean that you can never date again. Â Here’s how you can decide if you’re ready to re-enter the dating world without rebounding:
1. Think “me,” not “us”: During your intimate relationship, you came to see you and your partner as one unit. Â After you break-up, it’ll take some time before you can accept that you’re single and on your own. Â Before dating someone new, spend some time alone and do whatever makes you happy, in order to rediscover who you are as an individual.
2. Don’t compare: Once you’ve gotten to know yourself again, you can start seeing new people. Â But don’t fall into the trap of comparing your new potential mate with your ex, because you may be setting yourself up for disappointment.
3. Go at your own pace: There’s no specific amount of time you need to spend alone after you split with someone, but there’s no need to rush to replace your partner. Â Remember that it takes everyone different amounts of time to gain closure after their past relationships.
How long did you wait before starting to date someone new after your split? Â Share your experiences below.
