The Saturday wedding between Playboy founder Hugh Hefner and Crystal Harris never happened, and the runaway bride is breathing a sigh of relief.  “For a while, I’d been having second thoughts about everything, so I haven’t really been at peace with myself lately,” Harris told Ryan Seacrest during his Wednesday morning radio show.  Additionally, according to People, Harris said a wedding really wasn’t what Hef wanted either.  “He was doing it for me because he thought it was what I wanted.”  July’s Playboy cover girl, prematurely identified as “Mrs. Crystal Hefner” on it’s cover, is now more focused than ever on her music.

How do you know when you’re not ready to get married?

Cupid’s Advice:

Every year, people who are about to get married realize they aren’t ready.  If you’re in the same boat, here’s when you should let your partner know how you’re feeling ASAP:

1. When your bachelor/ette party feels like a funeral: The silly tradition of the bachelor/ette party should be a fun one.  If you end up forcing yourself to have fun with your friends at your party because you’re dreading the day of doom (which your wedding shouldn’t feel like), it might not be your time to tie the knot.

2. Your mind is somewhere else: If you find yourself constantly thinking about someone – or something – else, you may not be ready to walk down the aisle after all.

3. When your pre-wedding jitters turn into pre-wedding terrors: A wedding is a big event.  Not only does it mark the beginning of a new chapter in your life, but you are also the center of attentions for the entire day.  Though a little bit of nervousness is completely normal, being flat out terrified about your wedding day is something to be worried about.  Don’t force yourself to start another chapter in your life is you aren’t ready for the previous chapter to end.

How have you dealt with pre-wedding nervousness?  Share your stories below!