Professional party girl and former Hills star Kristin Cavallari revealed she will marry fiancé Jay Cutler next spring.  She also recently spoke of let loose some exciting wedding details!  “I’m trying to decide between a really small, intimate wedding or a huge, blowout party-type wedding,” Cavallari told People. “If I have a big wedding, then yes, some (cast mates) will be invited,” she says.  “If I have a small, intimate wedding, it will probably just be family and really close friends.”  Cavallari decided on a Monique Lhuillier gown and takes ideas from wedding magazines.  She will meet with planners within the next few weeks.  The former reality TV star may or not be customizing her own shoes.  She and her NFL quarterback fiancé will wed at home in Chicago, Illinois, since it’s closest to their families.

How do you explain why you didn’t invite someone to your wedding?

Cupid’s Advice:

Weddings are expensive, and there isn’t room for everyone.  However, people get offended if they don’t make the cut.  Here are ways to nicely and honestly tell someone why you chose not to include them on your big day:

1. Keep it clear: Set standards and agree on them.  For example, if you agree to include strictly family and close friends, don’t invite someone you haven’t seen for a really long time.  It shouldn’t be difficult to explain why you didn’t invite someone if they’ve been a distant presence in your life.

2. Dates and children: Not everyone needs a date, and not everyone’s kids should be there.  Keep it to nieces, nephews and godchildren, but no more than extended family.  This will cut the list drastically and avoid stress.  You also don’t want too many strangers around, so don’t allow everyone to bring dates.

3. Don’t bring work home: It’s your wedding, and you deserve a good time.  Don’t feel pressured to invite every single colleague, especially if you don’t have a personal relationship.  Stick to the select few to whom you feel close.

How did you explain to people not invited to your wedding why they weren’t invited? Comment below.