When Taylor Swift and Reese Witherspoon chatted at the Academy of Country Music Awards this past Sunday, they found they had at least one thing in common: Jake Gyllenhaal.  But UsMagazine.com reports the 30-year-old actor was nowhere to be found when his two ex-girlfriends met and posed for pictures at the show.  Swift, 21, who won the Entertainer of the Year Award, and newly married Witherspoon, 35, showed no hostility toward each other during the event.

Should you be friends with your ex-partner’s ex?

Cupid’s Advice:

It can be awkward meeting your ex’s ex because you know you’ve both been in the same place. Cupid has some tips on whether to befriend your ex-partner’s ex:

1. When it’s complicated: It depends on both of your relationships with the ex. If either of you had a nasty breakup, or heard bad things about the other, it may be difficult to strike up a friendship.

2. When there are still feelings: If one or both of you still have feelings for the ex-flame, it’s better not to get close because you’ll probably end up resenting each other if one of you reunites with the ex.

3. When you’re over it: Sometimes, when a relationship is in the past, it stays there. If you feel like you’ve gotten over your ex, then why not make a new friend, even if it is your ex-partner’s ex?