This past Friday, Elizabeth Hurley filed for divorce from her husband Arun Nayar. According to People, Hurley blames the divorce on husband, Nayar’s “unreasonable behavior.”  What seems to be confusing to the public, however, are the photos that surfaced in December of Hurley kissing an Australian cricket star, Shane Warne, outside a restaurant in London.  Hurley took the opportunity to explain herself via Twitter, saying, “For the record, my husband Arun and I seperated a few months ago. Our close friends & family were aware of this.”

If you’re separated from a spouse, is it okay to stray?

Cupid’s Advice:

Divorces are messy and can take months or even years to clear through the legal system. Some couples find it easier or less hassle to have a separation. Cupid has some things to think about when deciding what’s acceptable to do during a separation:

1. Reasoning for the separation: If youe separation is the first step in a divorce, it may be okay to begin to start your new life.  If the two of you separated in hopes that the time apart will bring you closer together, then you still owe your time to your current spouse.

2. What you decide: When you and your significant other decide to separate, a conversation about what is appropriate during the time apart is necessary to avoid any confusion.

3. The other person’s behavior: If your spouse is still attempting to work on things in your relationship and you’re already on to the next one, you should let him or her know before you begin moving on.