While appearing on Ellen this week, Selena Gomez had to defend some comments she made about her alleged boyfriend, Justin Bieber, according to People. Last September, when Ellen DeGeneres asked Gomez, 18, about Bieber, 17, she replied, “He’s little.  He’s like my little brother.”  This time around, DeGeneres put her on the spot and asked, “He’s like your little brother? …  What do you have to say now?” The couple was spotted kissing in the Caribbean in January and a month later, they attended the Vanity Fair Oscar party together. However, the Disney star still refuses to confirm they’re dating, telling Ellen, “He’s just sweet.”

How do you stay quiet about a relationship without lying?

Cupid’s Advice:

Sometimes you just need some privacy in a relationship, but it’s hard to keep it a secret without hurting people’s feelings or lying.  Cupid has some ideas on what to do in this kind of situation:

1. Change the subject: When someone asks about your relationship, casually change the subject. They should get the hint and stop asking about your significant other.

2. Avoid nosy people: You know that friend that can’t keep a secret?  You might want to avoid telling them about you and your mate if you want to keep it quiet. And not telling them is not the same as lying.

3. No PDA… for now: If you don’t want to get into a situation where people ask you about who you’re dating and you have to lie, avoid it all together by keeping PDA to a minimum.  Once you’re ready to tell the world about your significant other, you can get back to being affectionate in public.