Cincinnati Bengals star Chad Ochocinco may have rushed his engagement to fiancée former Basketball Wives star Evelyn Lozada, but don’t expect to see them walking down the aisle anytime soon.  “He has four kids.  I have one.  We want to be engaged for at least a year and enjoy our time with our children, and then we’re going to plan our wedding,” said Lozada at Cosmopolitan‘s Fun Fearless Males of 2011 party.  Ochocinco thinks that his relationship with Lozada works so well because they are completely open with each other, according to People.  “I know everything about her, so there are no surprises,” said the football player.

Is it important to know your partner’s every secret?

Cupid’s Advice:

There’s no doubt that it’s important to know your partner well before you decide to spend your life with him or her, but it’s not necessary to know every last detail.  Here’s why:

1. Keep the mystery alive: There’s no fun in knowing everything about your partner right from the start, because then there’s nothing to discover or reveal throughout the rest of your lives together.

2. It’s not possible: The bottom line is that it’s not possible to fully know someone.  We don’t remember every detail of our lives, so there’s no way we can relay everything to our partners.

3. You’re entitled to secrets: If your secret has nothing to do with your partner and isn’t in any way deceiving him or her, it’s completely fine if you have a secret or two.  Being open doesn’t necessary mean you have to share every detail of your life.