Though she was formally married to a rock star, Jenny Craig spokeswoman Valerie Bertinelli says her upcoming wedding to financial planner Tom Vitale won’t be over the top.  According to People magazine, the couple – who both had prior nuptials – are focusing on the marriage itself instead of the ceremony this time around.

Does the ceremony make the marriage?

Cupid’s Advice:

While celebrity weddings today only seem to get bigger and better, Bertinelli and Vitale go against the mold by concentrating on their relationship.  While the wedding shouldn’t set the tone for a marriage, it is somewhat of a reflection of the couple; make sure you send the right message at your ceremony.

1. Plan your guests: If you want an intimate wedding ceremony but don’t want any friends or family to feel left out, plan ahead to maintain balance.  Keep the wedding small, and go for a larger reception.

2. Location, location, location: If you’re a more adventurous couple, try a destination wedding in a unique spot.  Whether it’s on a beach or in a 16th century castle, make it a place you’re comfortable in.

3. Do a us a favor: Your wedding favors give guests a final, lasting impression of your wedding – and your marriage.  Let these tokens illustrate who you are as a couple, and remind the guests of the fun time they had at your wedding.