By April Littleton

Congratulations are in order for Christina Milian and her longtime boyfriend Jas Prince. The couple began dating in 2010 and have been engaged since May. “He’s a great match for her,” a source close to Milian told People. Milian was previously married to music producer The Dream. The pair separated in 2010 when pictures surfaced of him being straddled by his assistant. Milian was pregnant with their daughter, Violet, at the time.

How do you avoid becoming jaded about marriage after a divorce?

Cupid’s Advice:

Marriage is meant to last a lifetime, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. You’ve been through a divorce and now you’re in a relationship you can see yourself being fully committed to. After everything you’ve been though it’s tough to stay positive and remain hopeful for a long lasting commitment. Cupid has some advice:

1. Don’t repeat the same mistakes: Think about what went wrong in your previous marriage. What was your role in the downfall of your relationship? Own up to your mistakes and prevent yourself from repeating history with your new honey. Don’t blame your current partner for what your old one may have done to you in the past.

2. Talk to someone: Before you commit to your significant other, talk to a few loved ones or a therapist about any unresolved issues over your last relationship. You might not be as over the divorce as you think. You need to be able to openly express your worries and doubts over a new marriage. If you don’t, you may never move forward with your life.

3. Take all the time you need: There’s no need to rush to tie the knot again. Many divorcees wait years before remarrying again. If your honey is serious about what the two of you have and is in it for the long run, he/she will wait until you’re ready to take the next step with them.

How did you avoid becoming jaded about marriage after a divorce? Share your experience below.

Though Christina Milian will be appearing in the holiday movie Christmas Cupid December 12^th on ABC Family, she does not plan on being struck by Cupid’s arrow anytime soon.  As the singer/actress told People, there is no man in her life now, and she loves being single.  Christina Milian recently split from rapper-producer The Dream.  The two have an 8-month-old daughter together, and she is her mother’s first priority.  She says, “I’m learning about myself all over again.  And as far as my daughter, I will never bring anyone into her life that I don’t have a real connection with.  I’m going to protect her.  I don’t just bring anyone into my life or her life.”What are some of the perks of being single? 

Cupid’s Advice:

Being in a relationship is wonderful, but being single can be just as amazing.  After all, you have to love yourself before you can begin to love someone else:

1. Embrace independence: Singles can breathe a sigh of relief because the only person they have to worry about is themselves.

2. Self-reflect: Flying solo means you have time to find yourself and figure out what you want from a potential future relationship.

3. Enjoy being alone: You are always your best company.  So if your last relationship didn’t work out, remember it’s far better to be alone than in bad company.

On Monday, a rep for The Dream confirmed the separation of the producer from wife, singer Christina Milian, to US Weekly.  The confirmation of the split came shortly after the website released photos of The Dream playing on the beach with a mystery woman.  The couple married this past September, and have a daughter, Violet, who is 5-months-old.

How can you maintain the honeymoon stage through the first year of marriage?

Cupid’s Advice:

The first year of marriage can be the hardest, especially once the actual honeymoon is over.  Even if it’s rough, you can make it through as a couple and a family by keeping the spark alive, and keeping things special.

1. Survive PHD (or ‘post-honeymoon depression’): It isn’t easy to come back to the real world after spending a vacation in paradise with just you and your mate.  Ease back into your routine, and remind yourselves that just because the trip has ended, doesn’t mean the passion has to fizzle, too.

2. Pick a date night: You are getting settled into your new life together, which often means doing a lot of tedious errand running and paper filing.  Schedule dates together once a week.  Get out of the house and be a couple on the town.

3. Celebrate the small things: Once you’re married, everything can become a ‘first’ again – make each of those firsts count.  Have friends over when you are completely moved into your new place.  Start a new tradition for your first holiday season as a married couple.  In short, start making new memories together.