Elizabeth Kitt seems to be unlucky in love, to say the least.  After being dumped by Jake Pavelka on The Bachelor and splitting from ladies’ man Jesse Kovacs after dating him on Bachelor Pad, it looks like Kitt has found another winner.  Her current squeeze, Joshua Rowley, has been spotted on Cheaterville.com, where he is listed under the headline, “Cheater is looking for easy girls online”.  Rowley denied the accusations of infidelity, telling RadarOnline, “This is hilarious.  I was only on-line dating for a week before I met Elizabeth, then I logged off.  To whomever the woman is who posted this, thanks, it is a good picture.  Elizabeth and I had a good laugh over this!”

What do you do if you keep ending up in dead-end relationships?

Cupid’s Advice:

Some of us seem to be doomed to end up in relationships that go nowhere.  Cupid has some tips on how to avoid those dead-end affairs:

1. Date outside your comfort zone: Like bad boys?  Try dating nice guys.  If you start dating people who aren’t your usual type, you might get different results.

2. Change your behavior: Love is a two way street, and after every breakup, you need to think about what you could have changed.  Take what you learned to make the next relationship better.

3. Ask for help: Your friends have been with you through all the ups and downs in your love life.  Find out their opinions about your next boyfriend or girlfriend to see if they think you’re going down the wrong path again.

How do you break the cycle of bad relationships?  Share your comments below.

By Kari Arneson

Elizabeth Kitt and Jesse Kovacs are no strangers to finding love on reality television, as they both competed on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette series respectively – Elizabeth on season 14 with Jake Pavelka and Jesse on season 5 with Jillian Harris.  The two seemed to find love as they cozied up with one another during last summer’s reality hit spin-off series Bachelor Pad, but like the majority of The Bachelor franchise unions, their relationship didn’t last after the cameras stopped rolling.

Oftentimes, lack of communication in a relationship can lead partners down two totally different paths: Kovacs wanted something more casual while Kitt wanted to fall in love.  Nevertheless, the couple’s strong bond and competitive spirit led them into the final six, just a few steps away from winning the big pot of cash.

With another season of Bachelor Pad coming this summer, we asked Elizabeth and Jesse for their insight on dating, relationships and finding love on reality TV:

1. Did being on a reality dating show change your perceptions/expectations about dating?

Elizabeth: I think watching myself on the The Bachelor and The Bachelor Pad really helped point out some areas I can improve upon in terms of my approach to dating.  With Jake I could tell I was very guarded, and unable to open myself up to finding love with him.  On the Bachelor Pad, I was too open with falling for Jesse Kovacs.  I knew he didn’t have the same feelings for me, but I chose to ignore that and I hoped it would change.  I think the more I pushed for it, it pushed him away.  (Had the roles been reversed, it would have pushed me away as well!)

Jesse: Yes, being on a reality dating show did change my perceptions and expectations about dating. You have to make the most of your time.  If you’re not feeling it, then call it like it is and shut it down.  But if you like the person and see some potential, you have to let them know so it’s not a waste of time for both parties.

2. What has your dating experience been like since The Bachelor/ette and Bachelor Pad ended?

Elizabeth: I think my dating experiences are a little different since the shows.  I am definitely stronger in who I am, and what I’m looking for in a relationship.  I keep my heart open, but I’m a little more cautious about who I give it away to.  There is a balance.  It’s a bit more challenging as well, since I don’t typically like to date guys who recognize me from the show.  I can see why real celebrities have trouble dating.  The fame aspect can be tricky.

Jesse: It’s been strange.  I found someone now that had no clue I was ever on these shows, but before that I was going out with girls who already knew me and had their opinions.

3. Based on your personal experience as a Bachelor/Bachelorette contestant, do you believe that love can be found on reality TV?

Elizabeth: I think love can find us anywhere.  A lot of people are skeptical about the Bachelor process, but I’m a believer.  Does being on the show ultimately mean you’re going to fall for the Bachelor?  No.  I didn’t fall for Jake.  But I think it CAN happen if it’s meant to be.  There are some relationships that have formed after the fact at our Bachelor reunion parties too, so you just never know.  You have to have an open mind, and you can’t be afraid to take a chance.

Jesse: Absolutely.  There is no difference from meeting someone randomly at a Christmas party that you’re not invited to, or on a TV show.  Both are weird situations, but it could happen.

4. What piece of dating advice can you give to our single visitors?

Elizabeth: Keep an open mind when it comes to finding love.  I think we decide at a young age what our life is going to look like, and sometimes it doesn’t always turn out the way we thought.  But if we keep an open mind and an open heart, it can turn out to be even better than we ever dreamed!  Be optimistic.  Learn from past relationships.  Don’t be in a rush.  And most importantly, loves finds us, we don’t find it.  In the meantime, enjoy your single life!!  Every day should be a new adventure, whether you’re alone or with someone.  Life is precious, and life is short…so live it up!!

Jesse: Stop having dating rules.  “I only do this,” or “I only date this kind of guy,” is a bad way to start.  Having an open mind and taking the pressure off finding the perfect guy on paper will allow some you to meet some really great people.

Stay tuned tomorrow as we hear from Bachelor Pad power couple, Tenley Molzahn and Kiptyn Locke.

For more information on The Bachelor, The Bachelorette and Bachelor Pad, visit ABC.com.

Cupid Exclusive!

With The Bachelor final rose ceremony less than a week away, single women are placing their bets on who they think ABC’s two-time Bachelor, Brad Womack, will give that final rose to on March 14.

It’s down to this season’s two fan favorites: soft-spoken southern mother Emily Maynard and sassy, slaphappy divorcee Chantal O’Brien.  Based on Womack’s infamous dumping of both DeAnna Papas and Jenni Croft in season 11, many fans wonder if he’ll leave his final two picks heartbroken as well.

While everyone has an opinion, nobody can be sure what will happen.  Even Bachelor reality TV spoiler sites like Reality Steve have reported different endings before next week’s season finale.  That’s why Cupid’s Pulse took this question to the experts: six rose-loving revelers from past seasons – David Good, Natalie Getz, Tenley Molzahn, Kiptyn Locke, Jesse Kovacs and Elizabeth Kitt.

After all, who better to ask than former Bachelor and Bachelorette contestants who appeared not once, but twice (just like Womack) on the Bachelor franchise?  Each of them competed last summer for a chance to win $250,000 on ABC’s Bachelor spin-off show, Bachelor Pad – which Chris Harrison officially announced will return this year for a second season during last night’s The Women Tell All episode.

The verdict: None of the former reality stars chose fan favorite Emily Maynard, who 83 percent* of Cupid’s Pulse readers picked as their favorite for Brad in this week’s poll.

Here’s who the former contestants chose and what they had to say about it:

1. Elizabeth Kitt (The Bachelor, season 14): Brad should choose Chantal O’Brien.  They really seem to have a connection.  Chantal seems really down to earth and open to falling in love.  It looks like he feels natural and comfortable with her.

2. David Good (The Bachelorette, season 5): Chantal O’Brien has a great family and a beautiful mother.  Her father seemed legit like someone I could hang out with and that’s huge, so I go with her.

As we saw in the hometown episode, Brad met Chantal’s dad, Mike, and the two bonded over past issues with their own father’s and the fact that they’re both self-made men.  Compatibility with your partner’s family is a strong sign that your relationship has staying power.  Given that Emily’s daughter took a while to warm up to Brad, Chantal scores higher in this category.

However, Cupid believes the most important aspect in a relationship is the compatibility that you have with one another, which is what Kiptyn Locke and Tenley Molzahn found at the end of Bachelor Pad.  In fact, they both agreed with Elizabeth and David and said Chantal would be a good pick for Brad.

3. Kiptyn Locke (The Bachelorette, season 5): Who Brad will choose is on him; it’s all about compatibility.  Judging by what I’ve seen on TV, I’m liking Chantal O’Brien for him.

4. Tenley Molzahn (The Bachelor, season 14): I adore Emily, like everyone.  But I don’t see Brad and Emily together.  I see him with a more bold personality like Chantal O’Brien.

Tenley also mentioned that Shawntel N. could have been a possible choice.

5. The next person to pick Chantal was Jesse Kovacs (The Bachelorette, season 5), but Chantal wasn’t Jesse’s only pick; he also favored Michelle Money.  “I seem to like the ones who are a little tilted.  I just think that would be some entertaining TV,” he said.  This was definitely true while Michelle’s reign on the show lasted, but Brad sent Ms. Money packing before hometown dates.

6. Only one person didn’t mention Chantal at all: Natalie Getz (The Bachelor, season 13).  She thought Shawntel N. would have been the right choice because she is so “sweet and simple.”   Unfortunately, Shawntel’s hometown tour of her family’s funeral parlor wasn’t the type of romantic introduction Brad had in mind when he committed to meeting her family.

What’s more interesting than who they chose is who they didn’t – early front runner Emily!  Elizabeth summed this up by saying, “Emily is beautiful and sweet, but she seems very guarded, and I think that scares Brad.”

While Cupid has made it no secret that we are also “Team Emily,” we tend to agree with the others – Chantal is Brad’s best pick.  From what we’ve seen on the show, it seems like Brad is never going to be himself with Emily – how can you be comfortable with someone who constantly makes you sweat and stutter?

However, during last night’s Women Tell All episode, Michelle said that after watching this season, she thinks that Brad needs someone like Emily.  “She’s soft,” she said.  “She’s not me.”

So – is Michelle on the “Money” with this one?  Did Brad propose to southern belle Emily in South Africa or did he choose sassy and confident Chantal?  Be sure to watch ABC on Monday, March 14 at 8PM/7PM Central Time for season 15’s finale of The Bachelor to find out!

Visit us daily for more in-depth interviews with these six former contestants as they dish about dating, relationships and love after reality TV!  We’ll have something Bachelor-related every day until the final rose ceremony!

Percentage as of post publication on March 8, 2011*