By Michelle Danzig

Kim Kardashian and Brooklyn Nets star Kris Humphries are still married, according to People. Almost a year after the divorce papers were filed to end the 72-day union, the reality television mega-star is demanding a trial as soon as possible. Kardashian’s lawyer, Laura Wasser said that Kardashian just wants to finalize the divorce and move on with her life. Humphries is seeking an annulment, claiming that the $20 million dollar nuptials were all for the more-than-successful, E! Television series Keeping Up with the Kardashians. While his attorneys gather evidence that the marriage was based on fraud, Humphries sticks to his claim that Kardashian never wanted to be married. A February 15 hearing date will determine when the divorce will go to trial.

What are some ways to remain civil during divorce proceedings?

Cupid’s Advice:

Regardless of the reasons why a couple is getting a divorce, the process is difficult and can bring back emotions that the couple simple just didn’t want to revisit. Remaining civil during a divorce can be one of the hardest aspects of severing the knot, but it is also an excellent way  to ensure that your focus remains on resolving any issues and ultimately moving on with your life. Here are a few ways you can remain civil during a divorce:

1. Make a list of talking points before you have a discussion: By making an agenda of things you would like to discuss with your spouse and what you hope accomplish by the end of the conversation, you eliminate the possibility of running off track and leaving room for arguments.

2. Make compromises: Your marriage was once about compromise, so it is only fitting to keep the divorce under the same expectations. It is unusual that two people will want exactly the same things, but be prepared to give things up. Ultimately, decide what is really important to each of you and reach an agreement based on those terms.

3. Don’t bad-mouth your spouse in front of the kids: Divorce is a very difficult thing for children to handle and they will have their own issues to deal with while their parents separate. Although you are angry and it may be difficult, try your best not to speak poorly of your spouse in front of the kids. Placing the children in the middle of the divorce can cause them to feel trapped or even choose sides. It is perfectly fine to vent to friends or family, but be cautious with what you say around the children.

What are some other ways to keep your cool in the midst of your divorce? Share your comments below.