The survival of  TomKat just may prove to be “mission impossible” for Tom Cruise after learning Katie Holmes filed for divorce on Thursday. Despite their never-ending rumors of a split, the soon-to-be separation of the couple is a shock to Hollywood, especially after the actor told People just days ago that his perfect day is “the time with Kate.” The actor confirmed through his rep that it was indeed his wife who filed the papers, just five days before his 50th, and asked for privacy during this time. The end of TomKat marks divorce number three for Cruise.

What are some ways to tell it’s time to get a divorce?

Cupid’s Advice:

Choosing to get a divorce is the most heart-breaking decision you could possibly face in a marriage. Here are some signs it’s time to call it quits:

1. Cheating: Unfaithfulness is completely unacceptable in any marriage or relationship. Cheating destroys trust and without that, a relationship cannot thrive.

2. Physical or verbal abuse: Abuse is a big no-no, being one of the biggest sign of an unhealthy relationship. The sooner the relationship ends, the better off everyone is in the long run.

3. Become strangers: People change over the course of their lives, even spouses. If you both no longer share the same important aspirations, such as having kids, it may be time to call it quits.

How did you know it was time to get a divorce? Share your experiences below.