By Petra Halbur

Jennie Garth and Peter Facinelli‘s marriage officially ended on Tuesday, June 11. Though the two actors filed for divorce in March 2012, their split has been amicable. Garth and Facinelli have agreed upon a 50-50 custody arrangement with their three daughters, Luca Bella, 15, Lola Ray, 10, and Fiona Eve, 6. Garth spoke to People about her initial resistance to the idea of divorce. “I didn’t want it to happen,” she said. “It took me some time to come to peace with it.”

What are some ways to keep your divorce amicable?

Cupid’s Advice:

Divorce is never fun, but there is a way to keep the separation amicable. Cupid has some ideas:

1. Don’t assign blame: Holding your partner responsible for the failure of your marriage will only generate negative feelings between you two. Brooding about the past will accomplish nothing. Though it may be difficult, let go and move towards the future.

2. Hold your tongue: Just because you have something to say, doesn’t mean you have to say it. You may feel angry and hurt but for the sake of those around you, particularly if you have children, exert some self-control and keep things civil.

3. Forgive each other: It won’t be easy, but try your best to make peace with the end of your marriage and reach a point where you can forgive your spouse and yourself for whatever factors led to the separation.

Did you keep your divorce amicable? Tell us how below.