On the June 11 episode of The Bachelorette, Kalon McMahon called Emily Maynard’s daughter “baggage,” greatly insulting the single mother. As reported by UsMagazine.com, McMahon apologized for his actions this week on the Men Tell All show. McMahon says he’s glad that Maynard seems happy now, although he’s sorry that things didn’t work out between them. “I’m trying to use it as a growing experience in my future relationships and I really wish the best for you,” he said to her. That said, Maynard does not seem satisfied with his apology. She still doesn’t believe him, and seems to stand by her prior statement that she loves her daughter so much that she wants to “rip [McMahon’s] limbs off and beat him with them” for insulting her.

What are some ways to tell that your partner is truly sorry about an incident?

Cupid’s Advice:

No matter how much you love your partner, you’re bound to get upset with them every now and then. However, it’s important that when they’ve made you angry, they’re genuinely sorry about it. Here are some ways to tell if your partner is really apologetic for what they’ve done:

1. They discuss what happened: Just saying “sorry” and continuing with your lives isn’t enough for either of you to happily move past the issue. Encourage a discussion about what went wrong and how you feel your beau should act in the future. If they seem willing to have this talk, they probably feel genuine remorse.

2. They’re understanding: Make sure that your partner understands why you feel the way you do. If they realize why what they did was wrong, they’ll not only be able to give a true apology but they also won’t make the same mistakes again. This will make your partnership stronger in the future.

3. They make a change: You’re not going to notice this right away, but the best way to be sure that your partner was really sorry for an incident is to see if they ever do it again. Don’t expect immediate perfection, but look to see if they at least seem on the right path. If they’re not working towards improvement, they probably were never really sorry to begin with.

How do you know when your partner is genuinely sorry? Tell us below.