On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about how to communicate effectively with a man. As every woman knows (and has been told time and time again), communication is key in any relationship. Here are Tripp’s best three tips for talking to your guy: be direct; be clear and don’t beat around the bush; and never assume. Watch the video above for more great advice!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about how to flirt with men. She shares more than just external flirting tips¬†and¬†describes bombshell flirting as exuding positive, feminine energy. Here are her tips for working on your inner flirt game: be tuned into your inner receptivity; flirt with everyone; imagine yourself as a magnet; and expect a male miracle. When you change your energy, true love will come your way!
It’s hard to keep up with Perez Hilton, as he’s always on the go trying to get celebrity gossip¬†for his own popular website. But the blogger slowed down for a moment to catch up with CupidsPulse.com at OK!¬†Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration. During a one-on-one celebrity video¬†interview, he gave us the latest scoop on living a healthy life and looking for¬†love in New York City.
On this week’s video, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House discusses your must-have relationship mantra. “‘Here I am.’ That’s it!” she shares. “Not ‘Here I am — am I good enough?’ or ‘Here I am — do you like me?’ It’s confident. It’s comfortable.” If you don’t recognize your own value and worth, then you can never expect a man to do so. Remember that you can only be who you are — and¬†someday, you’ll find a partner who loves you for you.
Interview by Ashley Pacifico. Written by Stephanie Salsini.
Fans of Jersey Shore¬†and Snooki & Jwoww recognize Deena Cortese as the hilarious little ‚Äúmeatball‚ÄĚ who is¬†best friends with Snooki. In our exclusive celebrity interview during OK!¬†Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration, CupidsPulse.com asked¬†Cortese and her boyfriend Chris Buckner¬†about¬†what we could expect to see from them on the reality TV show¬†Couples Therapy¬†as well as their best date night fashion advice.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima chats with New York City Gal blogger Melissa Braverman about tips for women dating in their 30s.¬†The ladies discuss: the biggest challenges you face as a single woman in your 30s; how to navigate those challenges; the pressure to “settle down” by a certain age; what to do if you get discouraged with¬†dating; and how to stay motivated in your search for love.
It’s every Bachelor couple’s fairytale to walk down the aisle after ¬†finding true love on ABC’s hit reality television show. For happy celebrity couple Catherine and Sean Lowe, that fairytale turned into a reality when the couple got hitched in a televised wedding earlier this year. Our executive editor and founder Lori Bizzoco¬†talked to the happy celebrity couple at OK! magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration to get the¬†scoop¬†on¬†married life, their recent appearance on Bachelor In Paradise, and plans to expand their family.
Happy celebrity couple Catherine and Sean Lowe share some details of their relationship¬†since meeting on¬†‘The Bachelor’.¬†
On Wednesday, September 10th, OK! magazine, with the help of 365 Style author Nicky Hilton, hosted their annual New York Fashion Week celebration at VIP Room in New York City.¬†Skechers showcased their latest fashionable collections; Pure Silk presented guests with samples of their new shaving cream; Morgan Taylor garnised guests with trendy nail designs; and Sobieski Vodka, Bartenura Wines and Myx Moscata provided cocktails while Peroni provided beer. Music was by provided by DJ Yo-C.
Check out our photo gallery above for the celebrities who walked the red carpet! For video interviews with many of the stars included, head over to our YouTube channel.
Kathy Wakile¬†first captured our hearts as a cast member of¬†Real Housewives of New Jersey, and now, she’s enchanting our taste buds with her dessert line Dolci Della Dea and her cookbook Indulge: Delicious Little Desserts That Keep Life Real Sweet, which was released on September 2nd. Earlier this week, the reality star did a book signing at¬†the Boulevard Books & Cafe in Brooklyn. In our exclusive¬†interview, we got the¬†latest scoop on her decadent desserts, the upcoming season of RHONJ,¬†and life at home with her family.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to writer, speaker, and romance artist Zan Perrion about what makes a woman irresistible to a man. Here are five qualities¬†that Perrion says will make a man fall in love: a woman with¬†a certain grace and elegance that implies beauty on the inside and out; someone with a feminine spirit; a woman who inspires him to be the best version of himself; someone who is supportive; and a woman who is completely devoted to him. Watch the video above to find out more about the importance of these traits!
You all have¬†experiences in life that are so private that¬†you¬†choose to only reveal them to a small group of close confidents. But when you start a new relationship, one of the dilemmas you’ll face is: When is the right time to share your personal secrets with a new love?¬†Sharing your private life can be somewhat anxiety-inducing, whether it regards a previous relationship, a health issue, or a family problem. It takes a lot of guts to share your secrets with your partner¬†with the hope that they are trustworthy enough to embrace what you’re telling them with an open heart and no judgement. Below are four¬†things to consider before disclosing yourself:
If you’re insecure about¬†what to chat about on a first date¬†or tired of having boring conversations, then this week’s video from dating coach Laurel House is for you! She encourages you to ask one “magic” question: Why? “That’s it! Why adds so much — it’s the one thing that you can tack onto any mundane subject and suddenly transform it into something that matters,” she explains.¬†Listen up for more great dating tips!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, dating coach and author of The Guy’s Guys Guide to Love, about how to know if the man you’re dating is The One. Here are five signs that he’s not your soul mate: He’s too jealous; ¬†he overindulges when it comes to drugs or alcohol; he¬†has different views than you about money; he doesn’t want to be around your family; and he’s abusive in some way.
You’ve won over the guy, but winning over his family is even¬†more daunting. While your feminine wiles and witty repartee may have tugged at his heartstrings, making a killer first impression and getting the stamp of approval from those closest to him takes a slightly different strategy.¬†Much like a¬†first date, the first time you meet the family doesn‚Äôt always elicit fireworks. But there are ways to prepare, calm your nerves, and set the stage for a wonderful relationship with your fella‚Äôs loved ones. So take a deep breath and let these five Dating with Dignity tips help you relax:
1. Understand his family landscape:¬†Relationships between family members are often the most deeply rooted and intricate of them all, so gaining a solid understanding of existing tensions or unconventional family arrangements beforehand will save you from surprise. Schooling yourself on your boyfriend‚Äôs step-siblings¬†or tense background with his aunt¬†will eliminate awkward situations and allow you to navigate some major conversational pitfalls.
2. Learn their likes:¬†Ever fretted before a first date about what the two of you will talk about? You may be experiencing similar anxiety before meeting the family, but in this case, you have your boyfriend to help you prep. Don‚Äôt be shy about pumping him for information about the personalities and interests of those you‚Äôre about to meet. Not only will you naturally engage in more thoughtful and free-flowing conversation, but your genuine¬†interest in your partner‚Äôs loved ones will score you brownie points with him too.
3. Avoid controversy:¬†No matter how vehemently you and your partner may agree on certain hot button issues, it‚Äôs best to err on the side of caution when meeting his¬†family. Sensitive subjects like politics or religion carry with them scores of touchy nuances that could make the conversation treacherous. If you‚Äôre worried a certain subject might come up, plan to pre-vet opinions on the issues in question with your boyfriend beforehand in case you need to prepare a PC response or gently nudge him in the ribs to jump in and change the subject.
4. Mind your manners:¬†Hold that sailor‚Äôs tongue, roll up the sleeves of your sensible yet stylish cardigan, and start setting the table. Your language and overall interaction with his family members will all roll into one well-formed opinion of your character. Of course, don‚Äôt go overboard with the manners or sensible clothing to the point where you feel stiff and unnatural. You just¬†want to¬†create a sterling (and well-deserved) first impression.
5. Be yourself:¬†You probably saw this one coming: The best way to succeed in any social situation is to relax and let others get to know the real you. Any time you find yourself getting nervous, remember that the whole reason you‚Äôre meeting these people in the first place is because your mate is enamored with you. The more naturally you act, the more likely his family will follow suit.
Marni Battista, founder of¬†Dating with Dignity, is an expert dating and life coach with a 10-step system to manifesting love for yourself and others. You can contact Marni at¬†email@example.com.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, who became a dating coach after she realized that dating came easy to her. She didn’t understand why so many women were complaining about finding love‚Ä¶and in today’s video, she¬†shares¬†some of her secrets with you.¬†So what is the one thing that men want? Fun! It’s really that simple. Here are four ways that you can be more fun:¬†learn how to flirt; be adventurous and spontaneous; radiate a positive attitude; and keep conversation light-hearted.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about four signs that your crush is falling for you. You may be looking for something that screams “He’s so into you!” but remember that subtle signals reveal his true feelings too. Here are four indications that he likes you: his actions say he wants you even if his words don’t; he becomes protective of you; he volunteers to do things for you; and he introduces you to his family.
On this week’s video, QuickieChick and Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House reveals what two little words¬†will allow you to connect more with your partner and make your next date even better than the last. “‘Me too’ is the universal connector,” she explains. “It’s what allows you to understand and be empathetic with someone else.” It also shows your vulnerability and willingness to open yourself up. This simple phrase reassures your significant other that they aren’t alone, reminding them that they have you during both the good and bad moments.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about the top five dating mistakes that women make. As someone who works regularly with men and knows what they want in a partner, he’s seen what happens after women make one of these errors: You don’t offer to pay for the date; you act like you don’t care; you don’t show any affection; you talk too much; and you don’t give him a chance to be a gentleman. Taking any of these missteps, especially in the beginning stages of dating, can turn a man off‚Ä¶so avoid these behaviors if at all possible!
Jim Parrack and Leven Rambin announced their engagement after only a few months of dating. Photo courtesy of Leven Rambin's Instagram.
By Ann Luther
We all saw True Blood alum Jim Parrack‚Äôs heartbreak when he ended his marriage to his wife of six years, Ciera Parrack. However, he quickly moved on, proposing to¬†Hunger Games star, Leven Rambin, after only¬†a few¬†months of dating. According to UsMagazine.com, they even made their big news¬†official on¬†Facebook: Parrack changed his relationship status to Engaged over the weekend. The new couple does, in fact, seem very happy in this Instagram video they posted announcing their hiatus from social media. Best of luck to the adorable pair!
How do you know when you‚Äôre ready to move on post-divorce?
Nobody can resist a celebrity baby announcement ‚Äď especially when there are two bundles of joy! As if these famous parents aren‚Äôt busy enough with their lives in the spotlight, but they‚Äôre also juggling twins and everything that comes with them: two bottles, two strollers, two wardrobes, and more. Below, we‚Äôve pulled together a list of 10 celebrity parents who were doubly blessed in the baby department:
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Mr. Locario¬†about the reasons why he didn’t call you back. He explains¬†five possible scenarios, straight from a man’s point of view: He already has a girlfriend; he never really liked you in the first place; he’s scared of or intimidated by you; he’s just a player; or he views dating as nothing more than a game.
In this week’s video from Laurel House, the¬†Screwing the Rules dating coach talks about why¬†it’s the big and little things that create¬†a happy romance.¬†“Relationships aren’t about the high notes. They’re about the in betweens,” she explains. “It’s actually the mundane, the day-to-day, the little things — that’s what a relationship is made of.” You know you really care about someone when you find yourself sending “thinking of you” texts or picking up Kleenexes¬†because you remembered they ran out.
You have a crush on that cute boy who works in the office next to yours, and after a few weeks of sneaking glances and grabbing lunch together, you‚Äôre obsessively decoding every look, smile, and text to determine if he likes you too. If you‚Äôre on the fence, it‚Äôs easy to make excuses for him or tell yourself that he‚Äôs just playing coy, but it‚Äôs important to be realistic about a future together. As you‚Äôre struggling to figure out his feelings, consider these 10 signs that he‚Äôs not that into you:
Ever wonder why the guy you were seeing suddenly stopped calling you, never to be heard from again? ¬†As author Zan Perrion explains on this week’s Single in Stilettos show, you may have scared him away by being too demanding, dramatic, needy, rejecting, or jealous.
On this week’s Singles in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Abiola Abrams, author of The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self Love, about insecurities and dating. We all have insecurities, but it’s important to fill those holes of self-doubt so you can be your best self. Remember that he can’t love you if you don’t love yourself. In the video above,¬†Abrams shares her best tips for overcoming¬†insecurities when it comes to dating, including: journaling; writing a list of what makes you beautiful; accepting who you are; being grateful; looking within; and surrounding yourself with positive people.
In this week’s video, Screwing the Rules¬†dating coach Laurel House shares why using filler words — like, um, well, anyway — will instantly turn a guy off. “You’re not stupid, so don’t act like it,” she says. “Or rather, don’t sound like it.” While it’s natural to want to fill every moment of silence, she encourages you to use this time wisely: “Think about what you’re going to say next.”
Jamie Otis appears on 'Married at First Sight.' Photo courtesy of A + E Networks.
By Sanetra Richards
A new reality show is taking the saying “love is blind” to an entirely new level. As revealed by¬†UsMagazine.com,¬†Bachelor alum Jamie Otis recently married a complete stranger on¬†Married at First Sight. The show¬†includes a¬†line of experts — a sexologist, a spiritualist, a psychologist, and a sociologist — who pair participants with their “ideal” romantic partners. To add to the mystery, the contestants¬†are completely unaware of who their future spouses are until they are introduced at the altar. On Tuesday’s premiere episode, Otis was set to marry software salesman Doug Hehner. Before the nuptials, she was all for finding her soul mate from the experiment — that is, until the moment of truth arrived.¬†“She was freaking out. And it seems like she doesn’t know what’s going on,” the 31-year-old groom said¬†“It was a tense moment.” In the meantime, there were a number of thoughts going through the 27-year-old’s head.¬†“I’m getting married right now to someone I don’t know,” she said in her voice over. “I’m thinking I just made the ‘worst decision of my life’. I am so scared.” Viewers will have to watch next week to see how the rest of their¬†“blind wedding” turned out!
What are some perks to going on a blind date?
Going on blind dates may seem kind of taboo in today’s world.¬†However, with the right attitude, you may just find yourself up for the idea. Below, Cupid shares¬†a few benefits that are attached to blind dates:
1. You have no¬†preconceived notions:¬†Typically, when you’re going out with someone for the first time, you already know something about your date, whether it be because you’ve met, talked online, or simply Googled him. But in this case, you probably don’t know anything about your potential partner.¬†Go into the date¬†with¬†an open mind — you never know who you might meet!
2. You can put your best foot forward:¬†Now is¬†your chance to make a great first impression.¬†The person sitting or standing across from you has no idea what you’re like — they may not even know your last name! So show off your best characteristics and really impress them.
3. It makes a good story: There are¬†two reactions to the people who go on blind dates: You either laugh at the disastrous horror stories they share, or you “aw” at the romantic endings that sometimes result. Whichever one your blind date ends up being (or if it’s somewhere in the middle), your closest friends will be excited to hear the details.
Have you ever been on a blind date? Share your experience below.
Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes are having a baby. Photo: Emiley Schweich / PR Photos; Marco Sagliocco / PRPhotos.com
By Sanetra Richards
Yes, you read the headline right!¬†UsMagazine.com¬†reveals¬†a source has confirmed that pregnant Eva Mendes and longtime boyfriend Ryan Gosling are expecting a bundle of joy. The news was¬†verified¬†shortly after rumors circulated around the web about the 40-year-old actress’ seven month pregnancy. This will be the first child for the Mendes and Gosling. In an interview with Ellen Degeneres at the beginning of the year, the¬†Hitch¬†star joked about the pregnancy rumor frenzy that was happening:¬†“It’s so ridiculous,” she said. “It all started because I didn’t want to go through the scanners at the airport. You know those X-ray scanners, which are really creepy? They basically see you naked, right? And not only that, but there’s a radiation aspect to it, so I always opt out.”
What are some ways to keep your pregnancy under wraps?¬†
Cupid’s Advice:¬†Expecting a baby is quite exciting! You are bringing a tiny human into the world, and there’s no feeling that could possibly compare. For now though,¬†you and your partner don’t want anyone else to know your big news.¬†Cupid has some tips to¬†help you hide your baby-to-be:
1. Don’t tell a soul:¬†If you are waiting until you’re further along in your pregnancy to break the news, your best bet is to keep your lips sealed. You can tell a couple of close friends and family members;¬†however, everyone¬†else is off limits!
2. Avoid hint-dropping:¬†You may be extremely tempted to post cute baby-related things on your social media accounts‚Ä¶but don’t!¬†People will¬†probably¬†figure out what you do not want to reveal. Remember, the ultimate goal is to keep this a secret until you’re ready to share.
3. Toss the fitted clothing:¬†Use your wardrobe to your advantage!¬†Maybe you have some flowy, shift dresses to wear when out and about; opt for those¬†instead of your¬†tight tees and button downs. No one will suspect a baby bump is underneath.
How do you keep your pregnancy under wraps? Share your suggestions below.
Justin Theroux says he fell in love in a "real, legit fashion" with Jennifer Aniston. Photo: Andrew Evans / PR Photos
By Sanetra Richards
Believe it or not, according to¬†UsMagazine.com, Justin Theroux says he fell in love in a “real, legit fashion” with Jennifer Aniston.They have a¬†normal, romantic relationship. In the August issue of¬†Details,¬†the 42-year-old¬†Leftovers¬†actor revealed they connected immediately just by reminiscing on a few memories of the “Waldorf grade-schooling they both received.” The two met back in 2007, when mutual friend Robert Downey Jr. introduced them to one another:¬†“He and Jen fell in a real, legit fashion,” the actor told¬†Details,¬†“and he was willing from the jump to make sacrifices.” Since then,¬†Theroux has been sure not to let the attention influence his ego¬†or his¬†relationship.¬†“It doesn’t feel like a hardship; it doesn’t feel difficult,” he explained.¬†“It can be an annoyance, but it’s not the end of the world. You have to center on what its core thing is, which is that you met someone you fell in love with. “
How do you know that you’re truly in love?
Cupid’s Advice:¬†Finding love is one of the greatest feelings of all time. You’ve had your fair share of admirers¬†in the past, but now, you think this special someone is here to stay. And guess what? You may actually be in love! Cupid has some¬†ways to tell if you’re feelings are real:
1. Nothing feels better:¬†Your head is up in the clouds; your heart flutters every time you see them;¬†and you can’t stop¬†daydreaming about the future — all of these feelings are undeniable.¬†A relationship has never felt so great before.¬†So what truly makes this time different? Ask yourself a few questions to see if you have indeed been shot by Cupid: What will I sacrifice for my partner? Do I see a future together? Is commitment an issue? Your responses will¬†let you know¬†if you’re in love or not.
2.¬†You have¬†a strong connection:¬†You and your partner have developed a foundation that you’re continuing to strengthen. You share the same morals and beliefs, and your bond is unbreakable. If this describes your relationship, the love bug¬†may have bitten you!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach and author Robert Manni about how to be successful with online dating. He answers the following questions: What are the three main things men look for in an online dating profile? What should you do if you’re not getting a response? How can a woman contact a man without seeming desperate?
Ever wonder if social media can reveal red flags when it comes to that new guy you’re dating? Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House¬†believes it can! If your partner asks you to unfriend your cute male friends or feels uncomfortable with you maintaining contact with your ex, it’s time for a conversation.¬†“It can really be the ruin of relationships if you let it be,” she explains.
When it comes to your feelings about your partner’s social media habits, it’s important to trust them until you have a reason not to. If you continually fail to trust them, “pretty soon, that person is going to start acting in a way that’s not trustworthy. You’re blaming them for something they haven’t done.”
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about signs that you may be pushing for commitment too soon. Don’t worry — we’ve all done it! In fact, the top reason why a guy ends a relationship after only¬†a few¬†months is because he’s simply feeling too much pressure.¬†In order to not make this mistake, you need to first understand why you’re pushing him so hard. You may be¬†feeling pressure from your friends, family, the media, or even yourself,¬†thanks to your biological clock.
Girl looking at her boyfriend's phone. Photo: Innovated Captures / Bigstock.com
Question from Alex S.: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost six months. Every once in a while, I‚Äôll see a text on his phone pop up from his ex. He says they‚Äôre just friends, and he‚Äôs even introduced me to her before, but my girlfriends tell me that it‚Äôs weird and that I should ask to read their messages. What do you think?
According to WeddingWire, about one third of engagements in the United States happen between Thanksgiving and New Year‚Äôs Day. So guys, if you‚Äôre ready to pop the question, why not surprise her with an engagement ring on the Fourth of July instead? Make your own fireworks on this red, white, and blue holiday with one of these five creative Independence Day proposal ideas:
Chocolate and romance are two things that go together oh so well. The sweet, dark candy is considered to be an aphrodisiac and can add a little passion and sensuality to any relationship when used correctly. If you have a sweet tooth, these chocolate-filled date ideas are sure to satisfy it!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, dating coach and founder of TheDatingTruth.com, about where to meet men. Ms. Solomon is a proactive dater herself, so she knows the best spots to find a good guy. ¬†She even plans specific activities with the intention of meeting someone new! She encourages you to head to the following three places: the men’s department at local stores, hotel bars, and the gym.
If you’re a fan of The Bachelorette, then you know the formula is simple: the Bachelorette (currently Andi Dorfman) starts off dating 25 guys before whittling the group down to her final pick. Using the show as inspiration, in this week’s video, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House shares her best advice for¬†dating a lot¬†of guys. As House explains, “If you want to find your perfect mate, you need to date multiple people at once. How are you supposed to make a decision if you don’t have any choices?”
Interview by Brittany Stubbs. Written by Anna Averill.
Clare Galterio is the newest face on the Music Choice Network and host of the hit show “You &A,”¬†where she¬†gets the scoop on today’s hottest¬†artists while listeners play along at home by asking their own questions via Twitter. Galterio has chatted with dozens of chart-topping artists, including Hunter Hayes, NeonTrees, Nick Cannon, and Imagine Dragons,¬†just to name a few.¬†In addition to interviews with musicians, the 30-minute talk show features live performances. …Want the rest? Click here for more
Visit a tarot card reader. Photo: Creatista / Bigstock.com
By Leslie Chavez
If you‚Äôre strolling around that little beach town you visited for the weekend and looking for something different to do, check out that tarot card reader you spotted on the street. Come on — you know you‚Äôre a little curious! Take a look into the crystal ball and see what the future holds for you and your love.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, dating coach Tripp reveals how to be than just
a summer fling to your new guy. Here are his top three tips if you don’t want him to think of you as¬†a one night stand: don’t jump into bed too soon; show boundaries but still be interested in him; and stop texting and call him instead.
‚Äú…great marriages are born when two people decide to come to the party!‚ÄĚ
It‚Äôs common knowledge that most of us, at one time or another, will consider divorce as an alternative to a difficult marriage. The truth is ¬†ALL marriages are difficult to some degree, and those of us who long for the fairy tale will be sorely disappointed. I have often said that great marriages are born when two people decide to come to the party! Marriages fail because someone decides the party isn‚Äôt all that fun.
Sadly, Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas are divorcing after 18 years of marriage. Their news comes after living separate lives due to their conflicting work schedules. They may be saying their split is amicable and ending in a loving manner, but the reality is that they no longer choose to be a couple. They¬†will now have to face dividing their combined fortune, rumored to be worth 50 million dollars.
In talking with many divorced individuals, I’ve learned that expectations about sex, money, care taking, adoration, housekeeping, ways to spend leisure time, and a whole bunch of other individual traits are often born out of selfishness, immaturity, and insecurity and sometimes even based on a lack of experience with reality. I hope that doesn‚Äôt sound negative, but the fact is we all bring our own stuff into our marriages, and often, our stuff doesn‚Äôt exactly mesh with our spouse‚Äôs stuff.
I met a couple several weeks ago who, between them, had experienced several divorces. The husband lamented that his first wife had cheated on him, his second wife just wouldn‚Äôt give him enough attention, his third wife couldn‚Äôt accept his children, and so on…
And this is the reason I try and focus on helping people stay in their marriages if at all possible! Because the cycle doesn‚Äôt end. Issues will keep popping up no matter how many times you¬†get married, because it isn‚Äôt about the issues themselves — it‚Äôs about the people in the marriage who are creating the issues. And until we fix the people…the issues will remain.¬†In my opinion, a good counselor could absolutely help a couple facing infidelity, attention deficits, blending families, or any other problem that exists by focusing on the real issues we just talked about — selfishness, immaturity, insecurity, etc.
If you are seriously considering divorce, I want you to spend the next week asking yourself these three questions over and over until you have the answers solidified.
– Will I be better off?¬†Will you be better off emotionally? Will you be better off or at least be able to sustain yourself financially? Will you be happier in the long run? Think of these¬†questions in every possible scenario.
– Am I okay with the thought of a new life?¬†If you are forced to move from your home, will your kids be okay with a new school and new friends? Will you be able to handle all the added responsibility? Think about all of the changes that will take place for you personally and figure out if, for you, these changes are manageable.
– Have circumstances made it necessary for me to end this marriage — affairs or abuse? If the affairs or abuse has stopped, is it possible to put things back together? The roadblock often comes when one partner doesn‚Äôt want to put in the work or seek counseling and do what it takes in order to gain back the violated spouse‚Äôs trust. These are serious problems, and you need to determine for yourself if indeed you will be better off leaving the marriage.
Divorce is a big decision. Don‚Äôt move forward with it until you have exhausted every attempt to fix things in your marriage. Once you are comfortable with your decision, whatever it is, move forward with conviction. I will root for you to go for the save!
For more information about Hope After Divorce, click¬†here.
Janeen Diamond, author of¬†Save Your Marriage in 30, was a newscaster for KUTV News until 2001. Since that time, she has been actively producing commercials and special programming through her company, Your TV Spot. She has hosted several television and internet productions and has been a spokesperson for several products and companies. She is a leader over the youth in her church and takes a special interest in helping kids stay on track with their lives. Janeen is currently co-creating ‚ÄúTeen Impact TV,‚ÄĚ a website for high school students to give them a creative and emotional outlet. She is a contributing expert for HopeAfterDivorce.org, DivorceSupportCenter.com, FamilyShare.com, and CupidsPulse.com. Follow her on Twitter @janeendiamond and¬†Facebook.
Scared couple in bed. Photo: Maridav / Bigstock.com
By Leslie Chavez
Friday the thirteenth doesn‚Äôt have to be unlucky when it comes to love. In fact, you can turn the unlucky into a few unique date ideas. What are some superstitions you fear? Face your fears and spend the day together seeing how many superstitions you can prove wrong.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Mr. Locario about the reasons you may still be single. ¬†There are five things you should do if you’re ready to find love: You need to take responsibility for your love life; you need to stop being too picky; you need to give him a second chance; you need to be careful about interpreting his actions and words; and you need to¬†take initiative to meet the right man.