On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to writer, speaker, and author Zan Perrion about the best way to start a conversation with a man. He’s worked with thousands of men and really knows what they want from women. The problem, he says, with women approaching men to start a conversation is “they’re damned if they do, and they’re damned if they don’t.” If they don’t say hello to that cute guy in the corner, they go home alone because he’s not¬†doing his¬†job and being the man.¬†But if you do¬†make the first move as a woman, even if the relationship works out, you may forever be holding up his end of the bargain. Listen up for more great dating tips from Perrion!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about¬†ways you’re being unavailable and how to attract love in your life. Here are some things you may be doing to block love from entering your life: You’re not¬†really trying to meet the right man; you complain to your friends and family that there are no good men out there; you think all men are cheaters; you think it’s impossible to meet a man because there are more women than men in your city; you keep making excuses as to why you can’t meet someone; you’re stuck in a past relationship; you’re using your looks or work to hold you back; you think men your age just want to date younger women; you think of yourself as a victim;¬†or¬†you’re afraid¬†of the love you deserve, being vulnerable, and/or intimacy.
I know. You’re about to unlock the inner bad girl¬†version of you for Halloween.¬†Some of you love to dress up as sexy¬†school girls.¬†Some of you are even more rambunctious and like to dress up as a naughty nurse.¬†Maybe¬†you’re the dominating dominatrix,¬†the meanest witch, or the cutest little ghost a man has ever seen.¬†That’s what I love about this holiday. It allows the inner woman, that naughty version of you, to come flying out. To you, it’s just staying in costume all night long.
In this week‚Äôs video, dating expert Laurel House talks about how Halloween can influence your time spent between the sheets with your partner. ‚ÄúHalloween is a great excuse to dress up, to play a role, to be something a little different, to be edgier, to be sexier, to be more demure, to be more discreet, to be dangerous,‚ÄĚ she shares. This idea extends beyond what you wear to that Halloween party too. If you‚Äôre in a serious relationship, this is a great opportunity to dress up in a costume for just your man to see. Even if your chemistry is still off the charts, ‚Äúchanging it up is always a good idea,‚ÄĚ House explains. ‚ÄúIt‚Äôs not just about being scary or having crazy teeth. It‚Äôs about fulfilling fantasies.‚ÄĚ
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, about how to get a second date. It’s easy to get him to say yes to a first date, but securing another night out with the right guy can be a bit trickier. Here are some tips that Manni recommends following: have confidence; don’t drink too much; dress the part; talk about your dreams; have a conversation and really get to know him; and send a “thank you” text afterwards.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, dating coach at TheDatingTruth.com, about conquering your fear of talking to a handsome man. We’ve all been there: We’re approached by an incredibly good-looking guy, and before we know it, we’re tongue-tied or babbling, looking down at our feet, and feeling like a fool. Here are a few tips from Ms. Solomon to help you¬†gracefully handle this situation: Talk to every man, not just the attractive ones; have a prop or a conversation topic¬†in mind; and recognize and acknowledge that you’re nervous.
In this week’s video, dating coach Laurel House talks to Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life¬†author Christine Hassler about a simple question: What’s wrong with you? When faced with that question, what do you think? There’s generally a common theme of “judgment,” says Hassler. “We’re terrible critics of ourselves.” Instead, the answer should be, “Absolutely nothing.” As Hassler explains, “We forget our fabulousness and look to our flaws.”
Love songs can pull at your heartstrings for various reasons: It may be a melody that reminds you of a sweet memory, lyrics that seem like they were stolen from your most private thoughts, or a voice that touches your soul.¬†So when two talented singers fall in love, we can’t help but imagine what sweet duets fill their homes. Here are some of our favorite musical couples — we can’t wait to see what duets they record next!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about common first date mistakes that women make. So often, we immediately dismiss a guy if we don’t feel an instant attraction to him‚Ä¶but¬†doesn’t he deserve another chance? Here are four things women often think after a date that hold them back from finding love: I want amazing chemistry from the start; I just wasn’t attracted to him; he’s great, but I don’t want to go on a second date; and if I’m not going to date him, I don’t need to be his friend.
Style¬†and beauty expert Bobbie Thomas knows a thing or two about fall fashion. First, there’s no need to¬†feel like you have to redo your entire wardrobe. “There’s something for everyone,” Thomas explains in our celebrity interview. “I really like that seasonless style is around, where you can take a spring or summer item — like a bright color or floral pattern — and winterize it.” Of course, the best tip is always confidence. “You need to walk into a situation with…a mission to actually like what you see in the mirror instead of already assuming you’re not going to like that,” she shares.
Bobbie Thomas Shares Fashion Advice in Celebrity Interview
This time of year, the one must-have for every girl’s closet is boots. “Riding boots happen to be my personal favorite¬†because they just look so polished. You could be in leggings and a sweater, and they give you just enough heel, but they’re still so comfortable,” she says.
Thomas shares love advice too and encourages practicality for your¬†date night looks. “If you’re looking to have a good time with someone, don’t be uncomfortable!” she reveals. “Make sure you can move around and wiggle in your clothes. You really want to wear something that you’ll be so comfortable in that you’ll be able to be yourself on that date.”
Just like you want to find a loyal man, the TODAY¬†Show style editor¬†also encourages you to look for a loyal retailer. She’s teamed up with Kohl’s for their Yes2You rewards program. “In order to really expand your wardrobe, you want to shop smart,” she says. “That’s why I think it’s a really great idea to have a retail relationship as well as a real life one!”
You can keep up with Bobbie on Twitter @BobbieThomas. Check Kohl’s for the best fall fashion finds!
What to do if your friend's man is sending you Facebook messages. Photo: dashek / Bigstock.com
Question from Amelia S.: This guy who my friend has been hanging out with a lot¬†will randomly message me on Facebook whenever I‚Äôm online. It‚Äôs always harmless stuff like, ‚ÄúWhat are you up to?‚ÄĚ but it still catches me off guard. Should I tell her, and if so, what‚Äôs the best way to bring up the subject?¬†
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker:¬†You know that saying ‚Äúyou‚Äôre stuck between a rock and a hard place?‚ÄĚ Well, guess what? You‚Äôre in a no-win situation! From what you said, it sounds like your friend just likes him and isn‚Äôt dating him yet, so ‚Äútechnically,‚ÄĚ she can‚Äôt get upset that he‚Äôs contacting you.¬†Now, I say ‚Äútechnically‚ÄĚ because we both know that, if you tell her, she will be upset and hurt.
Now, while you may think that his messages to you are completely harmless, men don‚Äôt do things without some sort of intention. Without knowing the entire situation, I‚Äôm going to guess that he‚Äôs not just looking for a friend and that those harmless messages are going to lead to something more.
So here‚Äôs my advice to you: If you truly value your friendship with your friend and have no interest whatsoever in this guy, then I suggest you ignore his ‚Äúharmless messages”‚Ä¶because it‚Äôs just going to lead to a no-win situation for everyone involved.
Paige Wyatt, Reality Star:¬†Absolutely tell your friend that this guy has been messaging you. If it truly is harmless, he won’t be embarrassed or upset if she brings it up. If he does have an ulterior motive, then you warned your friend, and it’s now her move. It’s much better to be honest with your friends about situations like this one.¬†If you didn’t tell her and she found out, she may get upset with you. If it really is nothing, then what’s the harm in letting her know?
Robert Manni, Guy‚Äôs Guy:¬†Some say where there’s smoke, there’s fire. In this case, it’s hard not to miss the smoke — but let’s not rush to judgement. When a guy is really interested in a woman, his focus is on her, and he curtails his flirting. Maybe this guy just wants to¬†establish good relationships with his leading lady’s BFFs.¬†Still, I’m not sure if this is the best way to do it. He must know that girlfriends talk. And when friends¬†talk about the curious actions of a guy, his behavior and character go under the microscope. At this point, I’m not sure that’s in his best interests.
As for you, for now, I suggest you¬†either ignore his Facebook messages or keep the exchanges polite. Over time, his true intentions will surface. When they do,¬†you¬†can¬†determine if it’s necessary to let your friend know about his correspondence.
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The expenses for caring for children continue to rise, and that doesn‚Äôt make it any easier for divorced parents. Each parent attempts to keep their own household going, and at the same time, they often try to share expenses for their children. This may be court ordered or due to a mutual agreement between the parents.
Whether the divorcing couple is a celebrity couple in the public eye or a private couple, the children‚Äôs needs and welfare¬†should¬†be the number one priority. You must accept and embrace¬†the reality that your children‚Äôs expenses to live will not change. They are our greatest responsibility and deserve the best care and protection we can give them, whether married or divorced. Some divorced celebrity couples, like Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe, seem to put their children‚Äôs best interest ahead of their own as they co-parent together.
Routine check-ups at both the doctor‚Äôs office and the dentist are essential for your children. One of the parents should have both medical and dental coverage on the children, as the cost of this type of preventative care out of pocket is very high. If one of your children have an emergency for either place, it can be a bill you have to pay for a very long time.
Childcare is another expense that can add up when a divorce takes place. Perhaps one of the parents was the caregiver, and now both are in the workforce. The parents should decide on a childcare provider together. It may be a licensed facility, a nanny, or even a family member. The cost of childcare should be second to the quality of care that your children are receiving.
Inevitably, there will be additional expenses for your children. Who is going to pay for school clothing and supplies? Many parents who pay child support assume that they pay enough for such items with that monthly check. Yet it may be just enough to help the family with food and shelter. You don‚Äôt want your children to go without due to lack of money.
Many children love to be involved in extracurricular activities as well. It can be sports, dance, or clubs. There will be expenses involved, including special clothing and shoes needed and even enrollment fees. Parents need to be willing to share these expenses so that their children can take part in such events.
Summer is also a time when there are more expenses for children. They may want to go to swimming lessons, camping, or even to a summer camp. All of these things cost money, and someone has to pay it! Some feel the parent who makes more money should cover the cost. This is up to the parents though, as many want to do everything 50/50. Problems¬†could arise¬†when one parent can‚Äôt afford their share.
As you can see, there are plenty of additional expenses to consider for your children when you are divorced. Make sure you are willing to discuss these expenses with the other parent. You always want to do what’s in the best interest of your children. Bottom line: Get as much in writing as you can when it comes to who will cover expenses. This way, everyone involved knows what to plan for.
For more information about Hope After Divorce, click¬†here.
Michele Sfakianos, RN, BSN, is a¬†Registered Nurse, Life Skills Expert, Speaker and Award Winning Author. She is the owner of Open Pages Publishing, which includes her series of ‚ÄúThe 4-1-1‚ÄĚ books on Life Skills, Step Parenting, and Surviving Teenhood. Michele is a contributing expert for HopeAfterDivorce.org, DivorceSupportCenter.com, FamilyShare.com, and CupidsPulse.com.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Mr. Locario about how to know if a guy is interested in you. Here are the top five signs to look out for: He can’t stop staring at you; he calls or contacts you in some way; he wants to show you off to his family and friends; he tries to make you laugh; and he acts nervous around you. Don’t miss the rest of Mr. Locario’s advice in the video above!
On this week’s¬†video, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House talks about what it means to decide to fall in love. If you keep going out with great people but you’re just not feeling it, it¬†might be¬†because you’re choosing not to be open¬†and available. “You have to decide to open your heart. You have to decide to be vulnerable. You have to have conversations that express vulnerability,” she explains. Otherwise, your relationships will continue to be one-sided. Listen up for more great dating advice!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about how to communicate effectively with a man. As every woman knows (and has been told time and time again), communication is key in any relationship. Here are Tripp’s best three tips for talking to your guy: be direct; be clear and don’t beat around the bush; and never assume. Watch the video above for more great advice!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about how to flirt with men. She shares more than just external flirting tips¬†and¬†describes bombshell flirting as exuding positive, feminine energy. Here are her tips for working on your inner flirt game: be tuned into your inner receptivity; flirt with everyone; imagine yourself as a magnet; and expect a male miracle. When you change your energy, true love will come your way!
It’s hard to keep up with Perez Hilton, as he’s always on the go trying to get celebrity gossip¬†for his own popular website. But the blogger slowed down for a moment to catch up with CupidsPulse.com at OK!¬†Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration. During a one-on-one celebrity video¬†interview, he gave us the latest scoop on living a healthy life and looking for a relationship and love in New York City.
On this week’s video, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House discusses your must-have relationship mantra. “‘Here I am.’ That’s it!” she shares. “Not ‘Here I am — am I good enough?’ or ‘Here I am — do you like me?’ It’s confident. It’s comfortable.” If you don’t recognize your own value and worth, then you can never expect a man to do so. Remember that you can only be who you are — and¬†someday, you’ll find a partner who loves you for you.
Interview by Ashley Pacifico. Written by Stephanie Salsini.
Fans of Jersey Shore¬†and Snooki & Jwoww recognize Deena Cortese as the hilarious little ‚Äúmeatball‚ÄĚ who is¬†best friends with Snooki. In our exclusive celebrity interview during OK!¬†Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration, CupidsPulse.com asked¬†Cortese and her boyfriend Chris Buckner¬†about¬†what we could expect to see from them on the reality TV show¬†Couples Therapy¬†as well as their best fashion dating advice.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima chats with New York City Gal blogger Melissa Braverman about tips for women dating in their 30s.¬†The ladies discuss: the biggest challenges you face as a single woman in your 30s; how to navigate those challenges; the pressure to “settle down” by a certain age; what to do if you get discouraged with¬†dating; and how to stay motivated in your search for love.
It’s every Bachelor couple’s fairytale to walk down the aisle after ¬†finding true love on ABC’s hit reality TV¬†show. For happy celebrity couple Catherine and Sean Lowe, that fairytale turned into a reality when the couple got hitched in a televised wedding earlier this year. Our executive editor and founder Lori Bizzoco¬†talked to the happy celebrity couple at OK! magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration to get the¬†scoop¬†on¬†married life, their recent appearance on Bachelor In Paradise, and their celebrity baby plans. ‚Ä¶Don’t miss the rest of our exclusive interview! Click here for more.
On Wednesday, September 10th, OK! magazine, with the help of 365 Style author Nicky Hilton, hosted their annual New York Fashion Week celebration at VIP Room in New York City.¬†Skechers showcased their latest fashionable collections; Pure Silk presented guests with samples of their new shaving cream; Morgan Taylor garnised guests with trendy nail designs; and Sobieski Vodka, Bartenura Wines and Myx Moscata provided cocktails while Peroni provided beer. Music was by provided by DJ Yo-C.
Check out our photo gallery above for the celebrities who walked the red carpet! For video interviews with many of the stars included, head over to our YouTube channel.
Kathy Wakile¬†first captured our hearts as a cast member of¬†Real Housewives of New Jersey (RHONJ), and now, she’s enchanting our taste buds with her dessert line Dolci Della Dea and her cookbook Indulge: Delicious Little Desserts That Keep Life Real Sweet, which was released on September 2nd. Earlier this week, the reality TV star did a book signing at¬†the Boulevard Books & Cafe in Brooklyn. In our celebrity video¬†interview, we got the¬†latest scoop on her decadent desserts, the upcoming season of RHONJ,¬†and life at home with her family.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to writer, speaker, and romance artist Zan Perrion about what makes a woman irresistible to a man. Here are five qualities¬†that Perrion says will make a man fall in love: a woman with¬†a certain grace and elegance that implies beauty on the inside and out; someone with a feminine spirit; a woman who inspires him to be the best version of himself; someone who is supportive; and a woman who is completely devoted to him. Watch the video above to find out more about the importance of these traits!
You all have¬†experiences in life that are so private that¬†you¬†choose to only reveal them to a small group of close confidents. But when you start a new relationship, one of the dilemmas you’ll face is: When is the right time to share your personal secrets with a new love?¬†Sharing your private life can be somewhat anxiety-inducing, whether it regards a previous relationship, a health issue, or a family problem. It takes a lot of guts to share your secrets with your partner¬†with the hope that they are trustworthy enough to embrace what you’re telling them with an open heart and no judgement. Below are four¬†things to consider before disclosing yourself:
If you’re insecure about¬†what to chat about on a first date¬†or tired of having boring conversations, then this week’s video from dating coach Laurel House is for you! She encourages you to ask one “magic” question: Why? “That’s it! Why adds so much — it’s the one thing that you can tack onto any mundane subject and suddenly transform it into something that matters,” she explains.¬†Listen up for more great dating tips!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, dating coach and author of The Guy’s Guys Guide to Love, about how to know if the man you’re dating is The One. Here are five signs that he’s not your soul mate: He’s too jealous; ¬†he overindulges when it comes to drugs or alcohol; he¬†has different views than you about money; he doesn’t want to be around your family; and he’s abusive in some way.
You’ve won over the guy, but winning over his family is even¬†more daunting. While your feminine wiles and witty repartee may have tugged at his heartstrings, making a killer first impression and getting the stamp of approval from those closest to him takes a slightly different strategy.¬†Much like a¬†first date, the first time you meet the family doesn‚Äôt always elicit fireworks. But there are ways to prepare, calm your nerves, and set the stage for a wonderful relationship with your fella‚Äôs loved ones. So take a deep breath and let these five Dating with Dignity tips help you relax:
1. Understand his family landscape:¬†Relationships between family members are often the most deeply rooted and intricate of them all, so gaining a solid understanding of existing tensions or unconventional family arrangements beforehand will save you from surprise. Schooling yourself on your boyfriend‚Äôs step-siblings¬†or tense background with his aunt¬†will eliminate awkward situations and allow you to navigate some major conversational pitfalls.
2. Learn their likes:¬†Ever fretted before a first date about what the two of you will talk about? You may be experiencing similar anxiety before meeting the family, but in this case, you have your boyfriend to help you prep. Don‚Äôt be shy about pumping him for information about the personalities and interests of those you‚Äôre about to meet. Not only will you naturally engage in more thoughtful and free-flowing conversation, but your genuine¬†interest in your partner‚Äôs loved ones will score you brownie points with him too.
3. Avoid controversy:¬†No matter how vehemently you and your partner may agree on certain hot button issues, it‚Äôs best to err on the side of caution when meeting his¬†family. Sensitive subjects like politics or religion carry with them scores of touchy nuances that could make the conversation treacherous. If you‚Äôre worried a certain subject might come up, plan to pre-vet opinions on the issues in question with your boyfriend beforehand in case you need to prepare a PC response or gently nudge him in the ribs to jump in and change the subject.
4. Mind your manners:¬†Hold that sailor‚Äôs tongue, roll up the sleeves of your sensible yet stylish cardigan, and start setting the table. Your language and overall interaction with his family members will all roll into one well-formed opinion of your character. Of course, don‚Äôt go overboard with the manners or sensible clothing to the point where you feel stiff and unnatural. You just¬†want to¬†create a sterling (and well-deserved) first impression.
5. Be yourself:¬†You probably saw this one coming: The best way to succeed in any social situation is to relax and let others get to know the real you. Any time you find yourself getting nervous, remember that the whole reason you‚Äôre meeting these people in the first place is because your mate is enamored with you. The more naturally you act, the more likely his family will follow suit.
Marni Battista, founder of¬†Dating with Dignity, is an expert dating and life coach with a 10-step system to manifesting love for yourself and others. You can contact Marni at¬†firstname.lastname@example.org.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, who became a dating coach after she realized that dating came easy to her. She didn’t understand why so many women were complaining about finding love‚Ä¶and in today’s video, she¬†shares¬†some of her secrets with you.¬†So what is the one thing that men want? Fun! It’s really that simple. Here are four ways that you can be more fun:¬†learn how to flirt; be adventurous and spontaneous; radiate a positive attitude; and keep conversation light-hearted.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about four signs that your crush is falling for you. You may be looking for something that screams “He’s so into you!” but remember that subtle signals reveal his true feelings too. Here are four indications that he likes you: his actions say he wants you even if his words don’t; he becomes protective of you; he volunteers to do things for you; and he introduces you to his family.
On this week’s video, QuickieChick and Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House reveals what two little words¬†will allow you to connect more with your partner and make your next date even better than the last. “‘Me too’ is the universal connector,” she explains. “It’s what allows you to understand and be empathetic with someone else.” It also shows your vulnerability and willingness to open yourself up. This simple phrase reassures your significant other that they aren’t alone, reminding them that they have you during both the good and bad moments.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about the top five dating mistakes that women make. As someone who works regularly with men and knows what they want in a partner, he’s seen what happens after women make one of these errors: You don’t offer to pay for the date; you act like you don’t care; you don’t show any affection; you talk too much; and you don’t give him a chance to be a gentleman. Taking any of these missteps, especially in the beginning stages of dating, can turn a man off‚Ä¶so avoid these behaviors if at all possible!
Jim Parrack and Leven Rambin announced their engagement after only a few months of dating. Photo courtesy of Leven Rambin's Instagram.
By Ann Luther
We all saw True Blood alum Jim Parrack‚Äôs heartbreak when he ended his marriage to his wife of six years, Ciera Parrack. However, he quickly moved on, proposing to¬†Hunger Games star, Leven Rambin, after only¬†a few¬†months of dating. According to UsMagazine.com, they even made their big news¬†official on¬†Facebook: Parrack changed his relationship status to Engaged over the weekend. The new couple does, in fact, seem very happy in this Instagram video they posted announcing their hiatus from social media. Best of luck to the adorable pair!
How do you know when you‚Äôre ready to move on post-divorce?
Nobody can resist¬†celebrity baby news¬†‚Äď especially when there are two bundles of joy! As if these famous couples¬†aren‚Äôt busy enough with their lives in the spotlight, they‚Äôre also juggling twins and everything that comes with them: two bottles, two strollers, two wardrobes, and more. Below, we‚Äôve pulled together a list of 10 celebrity parents who were doubly blessed in the baby department:
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Mr. Locario¬†about the reasons why he didn’t call you back. He explains¬†five possible scenarios, straight from a man’s point of view: He already has a girlfriend; he never really liked you in the first place; he’s scared of or intimidated by you; he’s just a player; or he views dating as nothing more than a game.
In this week’s video from Laurel House, the¬†Screwing the Rules dating coach talks about why¬†it’s the big and little things that create¬†a happy romance.¬†“Relationships aren’t about the high notes. They’re about the in betweens,” she explains. “It’s actually the mundane, the day-to-day, the little things — that’s what a relationship is made of.” You know you really care about someone when you find yourself sending “thinking of you” texts or picking up Kleenexes¬†because you remembered they ran out.
You have a crush on that cute boy who works in the office next to yours, and after a few weeks of sneaking glances and grabbing lunch together, you‚Äôre obsessively decoding every look, smile, and text to determine if he likes you too. If you‚Äôre on the fence, it‚Äôs easy to make excuses for him or tell yourself that he‚Äôs just playing coy, but it‚Äôs important to be realistic about a future together. As you‚Äôre struggling to figure out his feelings, consider these 10 signs that he‚Äôs not that into you:
Ever wonder why the guy you were seeing suddenly stopped calling you, never to be heard from again? ¬†As author Zan Perrion explains on this week’s Single in Stilettos show, you may have scared him away by being too demanding, dramatic, needy, rejecting, or jealous.
On this week’s Singles in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Abiola Abrams, author of The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self Love, about insecurities and dating. We all have insecurities, but it’s important to fill those holes of self-doubt so you can be your best self. Remember that he can’t love you if you don’t love yourself. In the video above,¬†Abrams shares her best tips for overcoming¬†insecurities when it comes to dating, including: journaling; writing a list of what makes you beautiful; accepting who you are; being grateful; looking within; and surrounding yourself with positive people.
In this week’s video, Screwing the Rules¬†dating coach Laurel House shares why using filler words — like, um, well, anyway — will instantly turn a guy off. “You’re not stupid, so don’t act like it,” she says. “Or rather, don’t sound like it.” While it’s natural to want to fill every moment of silence, she encourages you to use this time wisely: “Think about what you’re going to say next.”
Jamie Otis appears on 'Married at First Sight.' Photo courtesy of A + E Networks.
By Sanetra Richards
A new reality show is taking the saying “love is blind” to an entirely new level. As revealed by¬†UsMagazine.com,¬†Bachelor alum Jamie Otis recently married a complete stranger on¬†Married at First Sight. The show¬†includes a¬†line of experts — a sexologist, a spiritualist, a psychologist, and a sociologist — who pair participants with their “ideal” romantic partners. To add to the mystery, the contestants¬†are completely unaware of who their future spouses are until they are introduced at the altar. On Tuesday’s premiere episode, Otis was set to marry software salesman Doug Hehner. Before the nuptials, she was all for finding her soul mate from the experiment — that is, until the moment of truth arrived.¬†“She was freaking out. And it seems like she doesn’t know what’s going on,” the 31-year-old groom said¬†“It was a tense moment.” In the meantime, there were a number of thoughts going through the 27-year-old’s head.¬†“I’m getting married right now to someone I don’t know,” she said in her voice over. “I’m thinking I just made the ‘worst decision of my life’. I am so scared.” Viewers will have to watch next week to see how the rest of their¬†“blind wedding” turned out!
What are some perks to going on a blind date?
Going on blind dates may seem kind of taboo in today’s world.¬†However, with the right attitude, you may just find yourself up for the idea. Below, Cupid shares¬†a few benefits that are attached to blind dates:
1. You have no¬†preconceived notions:¬†Typically, when you’re going out with someone for the first time, you already know something about your date, whether it be because you’ve met, talked online, or simply Googled him. But in this case, you probably don’t know anything about your potential partner.¬†Go into the date¬†with¬†an open mind — you never know who you might meet!
2. You can put your best foot forward:¬†Now is¬†your chance to make a great first impression.¬†The person sitting or standing across from you has no idea what you’re like — they may not even know your last name! So show off your best characteristics and really impress them.
3. It makes a good story: There are¬†two reactions to the people who go on blind dates: You either laugh at the disastrous horror stories they share, or you “aw” at the romantic endings that sometimes result. Whichever one your blind date ends up being (or if it’s somewhere in the middle), your closest friends will be excited to hear the details.
Have you ever been on a blind date? Share your experience below.
Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes are having a baby. Photo: Emiley Schweich / PR Photos; Marco Sagliocco / PRPhotos.com
By Sanetra Richards
Yes, you read the headline right!¬†UsMagazine.com¬†reveals¬†a source has confirmed that pregnant Eva Mendes and longtime boyfriend Ryan Gosling are expecting a bundle of joy. The news was¬†verified¬†shortly after rumors circulated around the web about the 40-year-old actress’ seven month pregnancy. This will be the first child for the Mendes and Gosling. In an interview with Ellen Degeneres at the beginning of the year, the¬†Hitch¬†star joked about the pregnancy rumor frenzy that was happening:¬†“It’s so ridiculous,” she said. “It all started because I didn’t want to go through the scanners at the airport. You know those X-ray scanners, which are really creepy? They basically see you naked, right? And not only that, but there’s a radiation aspect to it, so I always opt out.”
What are some ways to keep your pregnancy under wraps?¬†
Cupid’s Advice:¬†Expecting a baby is quite exciting! You are bringing a tiny human into the world, and there’s no feeling that could possibly compare. For now though,¬†you and your partner don’t want anyone else to know your big news.¬†Cupid has some tips to¬†help you hide your baby-to-be:
1. Don’t tell a soul:¬†If you are waiting until you’re further along in your pregnancy to break the news, your best bet is to keep your lips sealed. You can tell a couple of close friends and family members;¬†however, everyone¬†else is off limits!
2. Avoid hint-dropping:¬†You may be extremely tempted to post cute baby-related things on your social media accounts‚Ä¶but don’t!¬†People will¬†probably¬†figure out what you do not want to reveal. Remember, the ultimate goal is to keep this a secret until you’re ready to share.
3. Toss the fitted clothing:¬†Use your wardrobe to your advantage!¬†Maybe you have some flowy, shift dresses to wear when out and about; opt for those¬†instead of your¬†tight tees and button downs. No one will suspect a baby bump is underneath.
How do you keep your pregnancy under wraps? Share your suggestions below.
Justin Theroux says he fell in love in a "real, legit fashion" with Jennifer Aniston. Photo: Andrew Evans / PR Photos
By Sanetra Richards
Believe it or not, according to¬†UsMagazine.com, Justin Theroux says he fell in love in a “real, legit fashion” with Jennifer Aniston.They have a¬†normal, romantic relationship. In the August issue of¬†Details,¬†the 42-year-old¬†Leftovers¬†actor revealed they connected immediately just by reminiscing on a few memories of the “Waldorf grade-schooling they both received.” The two met back in 2007, when mutual friend Robert Downey Jr. introduced them to one another:¬†“He and Jen fell in a real, legit fashion,” the actor told¬†Details,¬†“and he was willing from the jump to make sacrifices.” Since then,¬†Theroux has been sure not to let the attention influence his ego¬†or his¬†relationship.¬†“It doesn’t feel like a hardship; it doesn’t feel difficult,” he explained.¬†“It can be an annoyance, but it’s not the end of the world. You have to center on what its core thing is, which is that you met someone you fell in love with. “
How do you know that you’re truly in love?
Cupid’s Advice:¬†Finding love is one of the greatest feelings of all time. You’ve had your fair share of admirers¬†in the past, but now, you think this special someone is here to stay. And guess what? You may actually be in love! Cupid has some¬†ways to tell if you’re feelings are real:
1. Nothing feels better:¬†Your head is up in the clouds; your heart flutters every time you see them;¬†and you can’t stop¬†daydreaming about the future — all of these feelings are undeniable.¬†A relationship has never felt so great before.¬†So what truly makes this time different? Ask yourself a few questions to see if you have indeed been shot by Cupid: What will I sacrifice for my partner? Do I see a future together? Is commitment an issue? Your responses will¬†let you know¬†if you’re in love or not.
2.¬†You have¬†a strong connection:¬†You and your partner have developed a foundation that you’re continuing to strengthen. You share the same morals and beliefs, and your bond is unbreakable. If this describes your relationship, the love bug¬†may have bitten you!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach and author Robert Manni about how to be successful with online dating. He answers the following questions: What are the three main things men look for in an online dating profile? What should you do if you’re not getting a response? How can a woman contact a man without seeming desperate?