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Dec 10, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: Busting the Soul Mate Myth

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

In this week’s video post, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House chats with Expectation Hangover author Christine Hassler about soul mates and why she believes you don’t have only one. “Soul mates are anyone that we learn a lesson from,” Hassler explains. “We think our soul mate is this person who’s going to come and make our soul feel whole and complete, but that’s not the case.” She adds, “Your true soul mate is you. Anything you want from someone else is something you’re really yearning to give yourself.”

Related Link: Author Christine Hassler Teaches Us How to Deal with an ‘Expectation Hangover’

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What do you think about the soul mate myth? Tell us in the comments below!

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Dec 10, 2014 0

Prince William and Kate Middleton Meet Jay-Z and Beyonce

Posted In: Celebrity Relationships, Forever or Fling?
Cupid's Pulse Article: Prince William and Kate Middleton Meet Jay-Z and Beyonce
Prince William and Kate Middleton met Jay-Z and Beyonce at a Brooklyn Nets game. Photo: FameFlynetUK/FAMEFLYNET PICTURES

By Whitney Johnson

It looks like the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are enjoying their time stateside so far! On Monday evening, the royal couple attended the Brooklyn Nets vs. Cleveland Cavaliers basketball game. According to UsMagazine.com, Prince William and Kate Middleton “got a standing ovation” when they took their seats during the third quarter, showing just how excited fans are to welcome the pair to New York City. Before the fourth quarter started, the pair met Hollywood royalty when Jay-Z and Beyonce walked across the court to say hello. After the game, they were introduced to players LeBron James and Kevin Garnett, who gave them a tiny jersey for Prince George.

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Dec 9, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: How to Talk About Being Exclusive with Your Partner

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima and dating coach Robert Manni discuss how to talk about being exclusive with your beau. The author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love shares five important things to remember when you bring up this subject: make sure it’s a good time to have a serious conversation; do it in person; let him know it means a lot to you; never give him an ultimatum; and remember that it’s about what you both want.

Related Link: Robert Manni on How to Get a Second Date

Ultimately, it’s a conversation between the two of you. Although you may be focused on sharing your feelings with your partner, be sure to listen to him in return. Pay attention to how he responds. If he says he’s just not ready, respect his wishes and be patient. However, if he says he doesn’t want to be exclusive with you, it may be time to move on.

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What’s your best tip for talking about being exclusive with your partner? Share your comments below!

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Dec 2, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: 5 Biggest Dating Mistakes Women Make with Men!

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon from TheDatingTruth.com about the five biggest dating mistakes that women make with men. Ladies, here are things you often do that are keeping you single: You think you can’t be beautiful and smart; you always have to prove a point; you lead with your credentials and accomplishments; you can’t give a good sound bite and tend to dominate the conversation; and you put down other women.

Related Link: Ms. Solomon on How to Talk to a Guy

If you can avoid making these five dating mistakes, you’ll have a more successful love life in no time!

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How do you avoid making these dating mistakes? Share your tips in the comments below!

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Nov 27, 2014 0

Q&A: Should I Be Concerned About My Man’s Social Network Activity with Other Women?

Posted In: Relationship Experts, Suzanne Oshima, Paige Wyatt and Robert Manni Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Q&A: Should I Be Concerned About My Man’s Social Network Activity with Other Women?
Upset girl looking at her boyfriend's computer. Photo: Feel Photo Art / Bigstock.com

Question from Jane C.: This guy and I have been dating for a few months now, and everything is going great, but I sometimes get bothered by the way he interacts with other girls on social media. It will pop up on my Facebook Newsfeed that he’s liked a bunch of girl’s photos or commented on some girl’s picture. Should I read into this, or am I just being paranoid?

Related Link: Is It Okay If My Boyfriend Texts His Ex?

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: When you’re dating someone exclusively, it just means that you’re not going to date other people. It doesn’t mean that he can’t be friends with other women or like their photos on Facebook.

However, that being said, his behavior could be inappropriate based on the type of photos he’s liking or commenting on. If the photos are innocent in nature, then I wouldn’t be so worried. But if the photos are sexy or provocative photos of the women and he’s making inappropriate comments, then it’s definitely a red flag that he may have a wandering eye. Not to mention the fact that it’s completely disrespectful to you! If the tables were reversed, I’m sure he wouldn’t appreciate you liking and commenting on photos of other men with their shirts off or flexing their muscles.

It’s not something that I would say you should break up over. However, it is something that you should keep an eye out for.

Paige Wyatt, Reality Star: The way people interact online can give you a good insight to their personality. In your boyfriend’s case, he seems to be flirty and outgoing. He doesn’t think twice when he comments on girls’ pictures or posts on their walls because that’s his personality. He probably doesn’t see anything wrong with it. His online interactions are completely innocent to him because he doesn’t think too deeply into them. Although it may not be a problem to him, it is for you. It’s important to be open and honest with your feelings and opinions, so let him know what you’re thinking. Otherwise, he may never change his behavior.

Related Link: Should I Delete or Unfriend My Exes on Social Networks?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: It’s called social media for a reason. People connect online and socialize. Unfortunately, a lot of guys raised on social media think the way to score dates is sitting in front of their laptops in their tightey whiteys and hitting on random women. And that could be the case here. Without knowing the parameters of Jane’s relationship, it’s easy to condemn this guy for blatantly flirting while he’s dating Jane.

If they’re in an exclusive relationship, Jane might ask why he’s so friendly with these other women. If he’s evasive or she doesn’t buy his answer, she has some choices. She can put up with it (not recommended), return the favor and also flirt online, or start dating other people — at least until he realizes what’s good for guys can be very good for the ladies.

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How do you handle concern about your partner’s social media habits? Share with us in the comments below!

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Nov 26, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: Do THIS When Meeting His Family Over the Holidays

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

If you’re meeting your partner’s parents or introducing him to your family for the first time over the holidays, dating coach Laurel House is here to help. “There are several things you can do to make that greeting less stressful and actually fun for everyone,” she explains. “You just have to remember to keep the romance and connection alive.” Listen up to find out everything you need to know before your beau joins your family’s Thanksgiving table!

Related Link: Laurel House on Meeting Your Partner’s Family Over the Holidays

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How do you prepare for meeting your significant other’s family over the holidays? Tell us in the comments below!

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Nov 25, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: Why You Can’t Make Him Love You

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Duana Welch, PhD, author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do!, about why you can’t make a man fall in love with you. Usually, if a woman asks the question, “How can I make a man love me?,” it’s because the relationship is one-sided. It’s impossible to make a man see you as his perfect match if he simply doesn’t have feelings for you. Remember that love is reciprocal — you can’t make him love you if he doesn’t!

Related Link: 5 Signs He’s Interested in You

Listen up to find out what a man looks for in a woman, what a woman wants in a man, and more great dating advice!

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Do you agree with Duana’s thoughts about making a man fall in love with you? Tell us what you think in the comments below!

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Nov 25, 2014 0

Exclusive Interview: Eric Berniker on Pirate’s Booty Float in Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade: “We’re Excited to Be a Part of That Family Tradition”

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Exclusive Interview: Eric Berniker on Pirate’s Booty Float in Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade: “We’re Excited to Be a Part of That Family Tradition”
Pirate's Booty unveiled their "Treasure Hunt" float at Macy's Studio. Photo: Mark Tully/Pirate's Booty

By Cortney Cordero

Each year, on the morning of Thanksgiving, many families around the country tune in to watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. This year, the parade embarks on its 88th journey through the streets of Manhattan, but some floats are making this well-known trek for the first time. Pirate’s Booty, an American smart snack food company best known for their rice and corn puffs, is debuting their first float for the event, a pirate ship named the “Treasure Hunt” that measures 40 feet tall, 38 feet long, and 8 feet wide. …Don’t miss the rest! Click here for more.

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Nov 18, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: How to Meet a Guy

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So many women struggle with the first step when it comes to dating: how to meet a great guy. You can’t just do one or two things and expect the right man to come along; you need to put yourself out there in a variety of ways if you really want to find someone special. On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp to answer this elusive question. If you want to meet men, he recommends that you: go out more; try online dating; make eye contact and smile; compliment him; and always look your best.

Related Link: Tripp on Top 5 Dating Mistakes that Women Make

Listen up for more great dating tips!

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Ladies, what’s your best tip for how to meet a guy? Share with us in the comments below!

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Nov 12, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: How to Make a Guy Fall in Love with You

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

 

At home, you may be the independent woman who fixes that leaky faucet by herself and lights up the grill without a second thought. At work, you may be the boss who oversees a team of employees and keeps everyone in line. While these two roles show off your strength, in order to make a guy fall in love with you, you need to be willing to assert your…weakness. “Yes, men are attracted to confidence and beauty, inside and out. They’re attracted to fun, to enthusiasm,” author of Screwing the Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love and dating coach Laurel House explains. “But if you want them to fall in love, you need to show your vulnerability; you need to surrender; and you need to show your humanity.”

Related Link: Laurel House Reveals Your Must-Have Mantra

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What’s your best tip for making a guy fall in love? Tell us in the comments below!

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Nov 11, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: Best Ways to Start a Conversation with a Man

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to writer, speaker, and author Zan Perrion about the best way to start a conversation with a man. He’s worked with thousands of men and really knows what they want from women. The problem, he says, with women approaching men to start a conversation is “they’re damned if they do, and they’re damned if they don’t.” If they don’t say hello to that cute guy in the corner, they go home alone because he’s not doing his job and being the man. But if you do make the first move as a woman, even if the relationship works out, you may forever be holding up his end of the bargain. Listen up for more great dating tips from Perrion!

Related Link: Zan Perrion on What Scares a Man Away

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What’s your best tip for making the first move? Tell us in the comments below!

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Nov 4, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: Are You an Unavailable Woman?

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about ways you’re being unavailable and how to attract love in your life. Here are some things you may be doing to block love from entering your life: You’re not really trying to meet the right man; you complain to your friends and family that there are no good men out there; you think all men are cheaters; you think it’s impossible to meet a man because there are more women than men in your city; you keep making excuses as to why you can’t meet someone; you’re stuck in a past relationship; you’re using your looks or work to hold you back; you think men your age just want to date younger women; you think of yourself as a victim; or you’re afraid of the love you deserve, being vulnerable, and/or intimacy.

Related Link: Abiola Abrams on Insecurity and Dating

Sure, it’s hard to meet the right guy, but it’s not impossible. If you’re feeling hopeless, it’s time to look inward and consider the advice in the video above!

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How do you make yourself available to potential partners? Tell us in the comments below!

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Oct 30, 2014 0

How to Meet A Man on Halloween

Posted In: David Wygant Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: How to Meet A Man on Halloween
How to celebrate Halloween with your partner. Photo: BluIz60 / Bigstock.com

By David Wygant

I know. You’re about to unlock the inner bad girl version of you for Halloween. Some of you love to dress up as sexy school girls. Some of you are even more rambunctious and like to dress up as a naughty nurse. Maybe you’re the dominating dominatrix, the meanest witch, or the cutest little ghost a man has ever seen. That’s what I love about this holiday. It allows the inner woman, that naughty version of you, to come flying out. To you, it’s just staying in costume all night long.

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Oct 29, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: Dress Up for Your Man

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

In this week’s video, dating expert Laurel House talks about how Halloween can influence your time spent between the sheets with your partner. “Halloween is a great excuse to dress up, to play a role, to be something a little different, to be edgier, to be sexier, to be more demure, to be more discreet, to be dangerous,” she shares. This idea extends beyond what you wear to that Halloween party too. If you’re in a serious relationship, this is a great opportunity to dress up in a costume for just your man to see. Even if your chemistry is still off the charts, “changing it up is always a good idea,” House explains. “It’s not just about being scary or having crazy teeth. It’s about fulfilling fantasies.”

Related Link: Communicating About Tough Topics

Listen up for her best tips for “adding a little spice” to your relationship!

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Cupid wants to know: What’s your favorite Halloween costume — both in and out of the bedroom?

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Oct 28, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: How to Get a Second Date

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, about how to get a second date. It’s easy to get him to say yes to a first date, but securing another night out with the right guy can be a bit trickier. Here are some tips that Manni recommends following: have confidence; don’t drink too much; dress the part; talk about your dreams; have a conversation and really get to know him; and send a “thank you” text afterwards.

Related Link: 5 Ways Women Sabotage Themselves with Men

Of course, whether or not he asks you out again is ultimately up to him, but if you follow the advice above, he’ll be more likely to do so. Good luck!

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What’s your best advice for ensuring that he asks you out again? Share your comments below!

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Oct 21, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: Conquer Your Fear of Talking to a Handsome Man

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, dating coach at TheDatingTruth.com, about conquering your fear of talking to a handsome man. We’ve all been there: We’re approached by an incredibly good-looking guy, and before we know it, we’re tongue-tied or babbling, looking down at our feet, and feeling like a fool. Here are a few tips from Ms. Solomon to help you gracefully handle this situation: Talk to every man, not just the attractive ones; have a prop or a conversation topic in mind; and recognize and acknowledge that you’re nervous.

Related Link: The One Thing Men Want from Women

Next time, armed with this advice, you’ll be ready to talk to the hottest man in the room!

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Any other tips for approaching a handsome guy? Tell us in the comments below!

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Oct 15, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: What’s Wrong With You?

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

In this week’s video, dating coach Laurel House talks to Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life author Christine Hassler about a simple question: What’s wrong with you? When faced with that question, what do you think? There’s generally a common theme of “judgment,” says Hassler. “We’re terrible critics of ourselves.” Instead, the answer should be, “Absolutely nothing.” As Hassler explains, “We forget our fabulousness and look to our flaws.”

Related Link: Your Must-Have Dating Mantra

Listen up for more tips on how to recognize your gifts and your uniqueness!

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How do you see the good in yourself? Share your tips in the comments below!

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Oct 14, 2014 0

Real Life Celebrity Duets

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By Emily Meyer

Love songs can pull at your heartstrings for various reasons: It may be a melody that reminds you of a sweet memory, lyrics that seem like they were stolen from your most private thoughts, or a voice that touches your soul. So when two talented singers fall in love, we can’t help but imagine what sweet duets fill their homes. Here are some of our favorite musical couples — we can’t wait to see what duets they record next!

Tell us: Who is your favorite musical couple?

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Oct 14, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: He’s Great, But…

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about common first date mistakes that women make. So often, we immediately dismiss a guy if we don’t feel an instant attraction to him…but doesn’t he deserve another chance? Here are four things women often think after a date that hold them back from finding love: I want amazing chemistry from the start; I just wasn’t attracted to him; he’s great, but I don’t want to go on a second date; and if I’m not going to date him, I don’t need to be his friend.

Related Link: Do You Push for Commitment Too Soon?

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Cupid wants to know: How do you keep an open mind after a not-so-great first date?

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Oct 10, 2014 0

Bobbie Thomas on Date Night Fashion: “If You’re Looking to Have a Good Time, Don’t Be Uncomfortable!”

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By Sarah Batcheller

Style and beauty expert Bobbie Thomas knows a thing or two about fall fashion. First, there’s no need to feel like you have to redo your entire wardrobe. “There’s something for everyone,” Thomas explains in our celebrity interview. “I really like that seasonless style is around, where you can take a spring or summer item — like a bright color or floral pattern — and winterize it.” Of course, the best tip is always confidence. “You need to walk into a situation with…a mission to actually like what you see in the mirror instead of already assuming you’re not going to like that,” she shares.

Related Link: Brad Goreski Predicts Oscars Fashion

Bobbie Thomas Shares Fashion Advice in Celebrity Interview

This time of year, the one must-have for every girl’s closet is boots. “Riding boots happen to be my personal favorite because they just look so polished. You could be in leggings and a sweater, and they give you just enough heel, but they’re still so comfortable,” she says.

Thomas shares love advice too and encourages practicality for your date night looks. “If you’re looking to have a good time with someone, don’t be uncomfortable!” she reveals. “Make sure you can move around and wiggle in your clothes. You really want to wear something that you’ll be so comfortable in that you’ll be able to be yourself on that date.”

Related Link: Blake Lively’s High-Fashion Style

Just like you want to find a loyal man, the TODAY Show style editor also encourages you to look for a loyal retailer. She’s teamed up with Kohl’s for their Yes2You rewards program. “In order to really expand your wardrobe, you want to shop smart,” she says. “That’s why I think it’s a really great idea to have a retail relationship as well as a real life one!”

You can keep up with Bobbie on Twitter @BobbieThomas. Check Kohl’s for the best fall fashion finds!

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Oct 9, 2014 0

Q&A: Should I Tell My Friend Her Crush Has Been Facebook Messaging Me?

Posted In: Relationship Experts, Suzanne Oshima, Paige Wyatt and Robert Manni Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Q&A: Should I Tell My Friend Her Crush Has Been Facebook Messaging Me?
What to do if your friend's man is sending you Facebook messages. Photo: dashek / Bigstock.com

Question from Amelia S.: This guy who my friend has been hanging out with a lot will randomly message me on Facebook whenever I’m online. It’s always harmless stuff like, “What are you up to?” but it still catches me off guard. Should I tell her, and if so, what’s the best way to bring up the subject? 

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: You know that saying “you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place?” Well, guess what? You’re in a no-win situation! From what you said, it sounds like your friend just likes him and isn’t dating him yet, so “technically,” she can’t get upset that he’s contacting you. Now, I say “technically” because we both know that, if you tell her, she will be upset and hurt.

Now, while you may think that his messages to you are completely harmless, men don’t do things without some sort of intention. Without knowing the entire situation, I’m going to guess that he’s not just looking for a friend and that those harmless messages are going to lead to something more.

So here’s my advice to you: If you truly value your friendship with your friend and have no interest whatsoever in this guy, then I suggest you ignore his “harmless messages”…because it’s just going to lead to a no-win situation for everyone involved.

Related Link: Should I Delete or Unfriend My Exes on Social Networks?

Paige Wyatt, Reality Star: Absolutely tell your friend that this guy has been messaging you. If it truly is harmless, he won’t be embarrassed or upset if she brings it up. If he does have an ulterior motive, then you warned your friend, and it’s now her move. It’s much better to be honest with your friends about situations like this one. If you didn’t tell her and she found out, she may get upset with you. If it really is nothing, then what’s the harm in letting her know?

Related Link: Can You Tell By Someone’s Social Network If They’re The Relationship Type?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Some say where there’s smoke, there’s fire. In this case, it’s hard not to miss the smoke — but let’s not rush to judgement. When a guy is really interested in a woman, his focus is on her, and he curtails his flirting. Maybe this guy just wants to establish good relationships with his leading lady’s BFFs. Still, I’m not sure if this is the best way to do it. He must know that girlfriends talk. And when friends talk about the curious actions of a guy, his behavior and character go under the microscope. At this point, I’m not sure that’s in his best interests.

As for you, for now, I suggest you either ignore his Facebook messages or keep the exchanges polite. Over time, his true intentions will surface. When they do, you can determine if it’s necessary to let your friend know about his correspondence.

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Oct 8, 2014 0

Child Expenses After Divorce

Posted In: Hope After Divorce Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Child Expenses After Divorce
Mother and children. Photo: Anna Omelchenko / Bigstock.com

By Michele Sfakianos, RN, BSN for Hope After Divorce

The expenses for caring for children continue to rise, and that doesn’t make it any easier for divorced parents. Each parent attempts to keep their own household going, and at the same time, they often try to share expenses for their children. This may be court ordered or due to a mutual agreement between the parents.

Whether the divorcing couple is a celebrity couple in the public eye or a private couple, the children’s needs and welfare should be the number one priority. You must accept and embrace the reality that your children’s expenses to live will not change. They are our greatest responsibility and deserve the best care and protection we can give them, whether married or divorced. Some divorced celebrity couples, like Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe, seem to put their children’s best interest ahead of their own as they co-parent together.

Related Link: Ryan Phillippe Says He’s ‘ Proud’ of How He and Reese Co-Parent

Routine check-ups at both the doctor’s office and the dentist are essential for your children. One of the parents should have both medical and dental coverage on the children, as the cost of this type of preventative care out of pocket is very high. If one of your children have an emergency for either place, it can be a bill you have to pay for a very long time.

Childcare is another expense that can add up when a divorce takes place. Perhaps one of the parents was the caregiver, and now both are in the workforce. The parents should decide on a childcare provider together. It may be a licensed facility, a nanny, or even a family member. The cost of childcare should be second to the quality of care that your children are receiving.

Inevitably, there will be additional expenses for your children. Who is going to pay for school clothing and supplies? Many parents who pay child support assume that they pay enough for such items with that monthly check. Yet it may be just enough to help the family with food and shelter. You don’t want your children to go without due to lack of money.

Many children love to be involved in extracurricular activities as well. It can be sports, dance, or clubs. There will be expenses involved, including special clothing and shoes needed and even enrollment fees. Parents need to be willing to share these expenses so that their children can take part in such events.

Related Link: Helping Your Child Through Divorce

Summer is also a time when there are more expenses for children. They may want to go to swimming lessons, camping, or even to a summer camp. All of these things cost money, and someone has to pay it! Some feel the parent who makes more money should cover the cost. This is up to the parents though, as many want to do everything 50/50. Problems could arise when one parent can’t afford their share.

As you can see, there are plenty of additional expenses to consider for your children when you are divorced. Make sure you are willing to discuss these expenses with the other parent. You always want to do what’s in the best interest of your children. Bottom line: Get as much in writing as you can when it comes to who will cover expenses. This way, everyone involved knows what to plan for.

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Child Expenses After DivorceMichele Sfakianos, RN, BSN, is a Registered Nurse, Life Skills Expert, Speaker and Award Winning Author. She is the owner of Open Pages Publishing, which includes her series of “The 4-1-1” books on Life Skills, Step Parenting, and Surviving Teenhood. Michele is a contributing expert for HopeAfterDivorce.org, DivorceSupportCenter.com, FamilyShare.com, and CupidsPulse.com.

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Oct 7, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: 5 Signs He’s Interested in You

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Mr. Locario about how to know if a guy is interested in you. Here are the top five signs to look out for: He can’t stop staring at you; he calls or contacts you in some way; he wants to show you off to his family and friends; he tries to make you laugh; and he acts nervous around you. Don’t miss the rest of Mr. Locario’s advice in the video above!

Related Link: Mr. Locario on Why He Didn’t Call You Back

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Oct 1, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: Decide to Fall in Love

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

On this week’s video, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House talks about what it means to decide to fall in love. If you keep going out with great people but you’re just not feeling it, it might be because you’re choosing not to be open and available. “You have to decide to open your heart. You have to decide to be vulnerable. You have to have conversations that express vulnerability,” she explains. Otherwise, your relationships will continue to be one-sided. Listen up for more great dating advice!

Related Link: Your Must-Have Relationship Mantra

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What’s your best tip for opening yourself up to love? Tell us in the comments below!

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Sep 30, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: How to Communicate with a Man

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about how to communicate effectively with a man. As every woman knows (and has been told time and time again), communication is key in any relationship. Here are Tripp’s best three tips for talking to your guy: be direct; be clear and don’t beat around the bush; and never assume. Watch the video above for more great advice!

Related Link: Top 5 Dating Mistakes Woman Make

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What’s your best advice for communicating with your partner? Tell us in the comments below.

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Sep 25, 2014 0

Celebrity Couple Predictions: Ashlee Simpson, Khloe Kardashian and Mama June

Posted In: Relationship Experts, Yolanda Shoshana Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Couple Predictions: Ashlee Simpson, Khloe Kardashian and Mama June
Shoshi predicts what's next for newlyweds Ashlee Simpson and Evan Ross. Photo: LRR/FAMEFLYNET PICTURES

By Shoshi

For today’s celebrity couple predictions, we’re looking at three pairs who are in various stages of a relationship: one set of newlyweds, one rebound relationship, and one surprise split.

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Sep 23, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Weekly Show: Flirting Tips

Posted In: Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

On this week’s Single in Stilettos video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about how to flirt with men. She shares more than just external flirting tips and describes bombshell flirting as exuding positive, feminine energy. Here are her tips for working on your inner flirt game: be tuned into your inner receptivity; flirt with everyone; imagine yourself as a magnet; and expect a male miracle. When you change your energy, true love will come your way!

Related Link: Abiola Abrams on Insecurity and Dating

For more information about Single in Stilettos shows, click here.

What are your best flirting tips? Tell us in the comments below.

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Sep 18, 2014 0

Celebrity Gossip Columnist Perez Hilton on Dating in NYC: “It’s Raining Men, But It’s Exhausting”

Posted In: Celebrity Interviews, Exclusives, Our Videos, Videos

Interview by Lori Bizzoco. Written by Christina DeRosa.

It’s hard to keep up with Perez Hilton, as he’s always on the go trying to get celebrity gossip for his own popular website. But the blogger slowed down for a moment to catch up with CupidsPulse.com at OK! Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration. During a one-on-one celebrity video interview, he gave us the latest scoop on living a healthy life and looking for a relationship and love in New York City.

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Sep 17, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: Your Must-Have Mantra

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

On this week’s video, Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House discusses your must-have relationship mantra. “‘Here I am.’ That’s it!” she shares. “Not ‘Here I am — am I good enough?’ or ‘Here I am — do you like me?’ It’s confident. It’s comfortable.” If you don’t recognize your own value and worth, then you can never expect a man to do so. Remember that you can only be who you are — and someday, you’ll find a partner who loves you for you.

Related Link: Find the Love of Your Life

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What is your must-have mantra? Tell us in the comments below!

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Sep 17, 2014 0

Reality TV Stars Deena Cortese and Chris Buckner Talk ‘Couples Therapy’ on VH1

Posted In: Celebrity Interviews, Exclusives, Jersey Shore, Our Videos, Reality TV, Videos

Interview by Ashley Pacifico. Written by Stephanie Salsini.

Fans of Jersey Shore and Snooki & Jwoww recognize Deena Cortese as the hilarious little “meatball” who is best friends with Snooki. In our exclusive celebrity interview during OK! Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration, CupidsPulse.com asked Cortese and her boyfriend Chris Buckner about what we could expect to see from them on the reality TV show Couples Therapy as well as their best fashion dating advice.

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Sep 16, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: Dating Advice for Women in Their 30s

Posted In: Dating, Our Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima chats with New York City Gal blogger Melissa Braverman about tips for women dating in their 30s. The ladies discuss: the biggest challenges you face as a single woman in your 30s; how to navigate those challenges; the pressure to “settle down” by a certain age; what to do if you get discouraged with dating; and how to stay motivated in your search for love.

Related Link: Abiola Abrams on Insecurity and Dating

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What your best tip for someone dating in her 30s? Tell us in the comments below!

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Sep 16, 2014 0

‘The Bachelor’ Stars Catherine and Sean Lowe on Celebrity Baby Plans: “Not Anytime Soon”

Posted In: Celebrity Interviews, Exclusives, Our Videos, Reality TV, Sean Lowe - Season 17, The Bachelor, Videos

Interview by Lori Bizzoco.

It’s every Bachelor couple’s fairytale to walk down the aisle after  finding true love on ABC’s hit reality TV show. For happy celebrity couple Catherine and Sean Lowe, that fairytale turned into a reality when the couple got hitched in a televised wedding earlier this year. Our executive editor and founder Lori Bizzoco talked to the happy celebrity couple at OK! magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration to get the scoop on married life, their recent appearance on Bachelor In Paradise, and their celebrity baby plans.
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Sep 13, 2014 0

OK! Magazine New York Fashion Week Celebration

Posted In: Exclusives, Photo Galleries

By Whitney Johnson

On Wednesday, September 10th, OK! magazine, with the help of 365 Style author Nicky Hilton, hosted their annual New York Fashion Week celebration at VIP Room in New York City. Skechers showcased their latest fashionable collections; Pure Silk presented guests with samples of their new shaving cream; Morgan Taylor garnised guests with trendy nail designs; and Sobieski Vodka, Bartenura Wines and Myx Moscata provided cocktails while Peroni provided beer. Music was by provided by DJ Yo-C.

Check out our photo gallery above for the celebrities who walked the red carpet! For video interviews with many of the stars included, head over to our YouTube channel.

All photos courtesy of Getty Images.

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Sep 11, 2014 0

‘RHONJ’ Star Kathy Wakile Talks Desserts in Celebrity Video Interview: “Indulge. It’s Not Going to Kill You!”

Posted In: Celebrity Interviews, Exclusives, Real Housewives, Reality TV

Interview by Lori Bizzoco. Video by Damian Kolodiy.

Kathy Wakile first captured our hearts as a cast member of Real Housewives of New Jersey (RHONJ), and now, she’s enchanting our taste buds with her dessert line Dolci Della Dea and her cookbook Indulge: Delicious Little Desserts That Keep Life Real Sweet, which was released on September 2nd. Earlier this week, the reality TV star did a book signing at the Boulevard Books & Cafe in Brooklyn. In our celebrity video interview, we got the latest scoop on her decadent desserts, the upcoming season of RHONJ, and life at home with her family.

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Sep 9, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: How to Make a Man Fall in Love With You

Posted In: Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to writer, speaker, and romance artist Zan Perrion about what makes a woman irresistible to a man. Here are five qualities that Perrion says will make a man fall in love: a woman with a certain grace and elegance that implies beauty on the inside and out; someone with a feminine spirit; a woman who inspires him to be the best version of himself; someone who is supportive; and a woman who is completely devoted to him. Watch the video above to find out more about the importance of these traits!

Related Link: Zan Perrion on What Scares a Man Away

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What do you think is the #1 quality in a woman that makes a man fall in love? Tell us in the comments below!

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Sep 4, 2014 0

Sharing Secrets

Posted In: Melanie Mar Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Sharing Secrets
Young man whispering secret into a cheerful young woman's ear. Photo: lightwavemedia / Bigstock.com

By Melanie Mar

You all have experiences in life that are so private that you choose to only reveal them to a small group of close confidents. But when you start a new relationship, one of the dilemmas you’ll face is: When is the right time to share your personal secrets with a new love? Sharing your private life can be somewhat anxiety-inducing, whether it regards a previous relationship, a health issue, or a family problem. It takes a lot of guts to share your secrets with your partner with the hope that they are trustworthy enough to embrace what you’re telling them with an open heart and no judgement. Below are four things to consider before disclosing yourself:

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Sep 3, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: The Best Dating Question to Ask on a First Date

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

If you’re insecure about what to chat about on a first date or tired of having boring conversations, then this week’s video from dating coach Laurel House is for you! She encourages you to ask one “magic” question: Why? “That’s it! Why adds so much — it’s the one thing that you can tack onto any mundane subject and suddenly transform it into something that matters,” she explains. Listen up for more great dating tips!

Related Link: Do THIS for Better Dates

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Sep 2, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: 5 Signs He’s Not The One!

Posted In: Dating, Our Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, dating coach and author of The Guy’s Guys Guide to Love, about how to know if the man you’re dating is The One. Here are five signs that he’s not your soul mate: He’s too jealous;  he overindulges when it comes to drugs or alcohol; he has different views than you about money; he doesn’t want to be around your family; and he’s abusive in some way.

Related Link: Robert Manni on How to Be Successful at Online Dating

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How did you know when you found The One? Tell us in the comments below.

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Aug 29, 2014 0

5 Tips for Meeting Your Partner’s Family Stress-Free

Posted In: Marni Battista Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: 5 Tips for Meeting Your Partner’s Family Stress-Free
5 tips for meeting your partner's family stress-free. Photo: Rido81 / Bigstock.com

By Marni Battista

You’ve won over the guy, but winning over his family is even more daunting. While your feminine wiles and witty repartee may have tugged at his heartstrings, making a killer first impression and getting the stamp of approval from those closest to him takes a slightly different strategy. Much like a first date, the first time you meet the family doesn’t always elicit fireworks. But there are ways to prepare, calm your nerves, and set the stage for a wonderful relationship with your fella’s loved ones. So take a deep breath and let these five Dating with Dignity tips help you relax:

Related Link: Taking Your Partner on a Family Vacation 

1. Understand his family landscape: Relationships between family members are often the most deeply rooted and intricate of them all, so gaining a solid understanding of existing tensions or unconventional family arrangements beforehand will save you from surprise. Schooling yourself on your boyfriend’s step-siblings or tense background with his aunt will eliminate awkward situations and allow you to navigate some major conversational pitfalls.

2. Learn their likes: Ever fretted before a first date about what the two of you will talk about? You may be experiencing similar anxiety before meeting the family, but in this case, you have your boyfriend to help you prep. Don’t be shy about pumping him for information about the personalities and interests of those you’re about to meet. Not only will you naturally engage in more thoughtful and free-flowing conversation, but your genuine interest in your partner’s loved ones will score you brownie points with him too.

3. Avoid controversy: No matter how vehemently you and your partner may agree on certain hot button issues, it’s best to err on the side of caution when meeting his family. Sensitive subjects like politics or religion carry with them scores of touchy nuances that could make the conversation treacherous. If you’re worried a certain subject might come up, plan to pre-vet opinions on the issues in question with your boyfriend beforehand in case you need to prepare a PC response or gently nudge him in the ribs to jump in and change the subject.

Related Link: Meeting Your Partner’s Family Over the Holidays

4. Mind your manners: Hold that sailor’s tongue, roll up the sleeves of your sensible yet stylish cardigan, and start setting the table. Your language and overall interaction with his family members will all roll into one well-formed opinion of your character. Of course, don’t go overboard with the manners or sensible clothing to the point where you feel stiff and unnatural. You just want to create a sterling (and well-deserved) first impression.

5. Be yourself: You probably saw this one coming: The best way to succeed in any social situation is to relax and let others get to know the real you. Any time you find yourself getting nervous, remember that the whole reason you’re meeting these people in the first place is because your mate is enamored with you. The more naturally you act, the more likely his family will follow suit.

Marni Battista, founder of Dating with Dignity, is an expert dating and life coach with a 10-step system to manifesting love for yourself and others. You can contact Marni at marni@datingwithdignity.com.

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Aug 28, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: The One Thing Men Want from Women

Posted In: Dating, Our Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, who became a dating coach after she realized that dating came easy to her. She didn’t understand why so many women were complaining about finding love…and in today’s video, she shares some of her secrets with you. So what is the one thing that men want? Fun! It’s really that simple. Here are four ways that you can be more fun: learn how to flirt; be adventurous and spontaneous; radiate a positive attitude; and keep conversation light-hearted.

Related Link: Ms. Solomon Reveals Where to Meet Men

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How do you have more fun when dating? Share in the comments below.

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Aug 21, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: 4 Signs He May Be Falling for You

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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about four signs that your crush is falling for you. You may be looking for something that screams “He’s so into you!” but remember that subtle signals reveal his true feelings too. Here are four indications that he likes you: his actions say he wants you even if his words don’t; he becomes protective of you; he volunteers to do things for you; and he introduces you to his family.

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Aug 20, 2014 0

Screwing the Rules Video Dating Tips: Do THIS for Better Dates

Posted In: Laurel House Articles, Our Videos, Relationship Experts, Videos

On this week’s video, QuickieChick and Screwing the Rules dating coach Laurel House reveals what two little words will allow you to connect more with your partner and make your next date even better than the last. “‘Me too’ is the universal connector,” she explains. “It’s what allows you to understand and be empathetic with someone else.” It also shows your vulnerability and willingness to open yourself up. This simple phrase reassures your significant other that they aren’t alone, reminding them that they have you during both the good and bad moments.

Related Link: Forget the Bouquet!

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Try using “me too” on your next date and let us know how it goes! 

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Aug 14, 2014 0

Single in Stilettos Show: Top 5 Dating Mistakes Women Make

Posted In: Dating, Our Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about the top five dating mistakes that women make. As someone who works regularly with men and knows what they want in a partner, he’s seen what happens after women make one of these errors: You don’t offer to pay for the date; you act like you don’t care; you don’t show any affection; you talk too much; and you don’t give him a chance to be a gentleman. Taking any of these missteps, especially in the beginning stages of dating, can turn a man off…so avoid these behaviors if at all possible!

Related Link: Tripp on How to Be More Than a Fling to Him

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Ladies, what dating mistake do you find yourself making most often? Tell us in the comments below!

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Aug 12, 2014 0

‘Hunger Games’ Star Leven Rambin and ‘True Blood’ Alum Jim Parrack Are Engaged

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Cupid's Pulse Article: ‘Hunger Games’ Star Leven Rambin and ‘True Blood’ Alum Jim Parrack Are Engaged
Jim Parrack and Leven Rambin announced their engagement after only a few months of dating. Photo courtesy of Leven Rambin's Instagram.

By Ann Luther

We all saw True Blood alum Jim Parrack’s heartbreak when he ended his marriage to his wife of six years, Ciera Parrack. However, he quickly moved on, proposing to Hunger Games star, Leven Rambin, after only a few months of dating. According to UsMagazine.com, they even made their big news official on Facebook: Parrack changed his relationship status to Engaged over the weekend. The new couple does, in fact, seem very happy in this Instagram video they posted announcing their hiatus from social media. Best of luck to the adorable pair!

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Aug 11, 2014 0

Celebrity Baby News: 10 Famous Couples Who Had Twins

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity Baby News: 10 Famous Couples Who Had Twins
Neil Patrick Harris and David Burkta have twins Gideon and Harper. Photo: Andrew Evans / PR Photos

By Whitney Johnson

Nobody can resist celebrity baby news – especially when there are two bundles of joy! As if these famous couples aren’t busy enough with their lives in the spotlight, they’re also juggling twins and everything that comes with them: two bottles, two strollers, two wardrobes, and more. Below, we’ve pulled together a list of 10 celebrity parents who were doubly blessed in the baby department:

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