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Dec 5, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: Can I Change a Man?

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about whether or not you can change a man. “They all come in to change each other,” she says of her clients. “Women especially think they can change their man.”

Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Best Dating Advice

1. You’re not his mother: You don’t want to be in a relationship where you’re the mommy and he’s the child. You have to accept him for the way he is. “You don’t get to shape him. You don’t have a say in whether he measures up or not,” Benrubi explains.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: How to Find Love

2. Any change that he makes for you isn’t sustainable: One of the top two mistakes that women make is falling in love with a man’s potential. “If only he would…” If he starts communicating more because you want him to, not because it’s part of who he is, it’s never going to last. “Have you ever tried to get fit or go on a diet for somebody else?” the relationship expert asks. “It doesn’t last that long because the motivation isn’t in there.” If a man wants to change something about himself, great. Otherwise, accept him where he’s at, or move forward if he can’t be what you need.

3. Be clear about what you want: If a guy who dresses nice is important to you, then make that known. If not, let it go. “You have to decide what you’re looking for,” Benrubi says. “Are you looking for the external? Or are you looking for the internal — a guy who loves you and accepts you the way you are?”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Tips to Turn Around Your Dating Life

So if you can’t change a man, can you inspire him to want to change? Start by telling him how you’re feeling — that helps him be receptive to your request. Then, share what you need from him in a way that’s respectful. Finish by explaining what this change would do for you. “A good man ultimately wants to make you happy,” Benrubi shares.

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Nov 27, 2017 0

Expert Relationship Advice: When to Sleep Over

Posted In: Megan Weks Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Relationship Advice: When to Sleep Over
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By Megan Weks

When to sleep with someone is a personal decision; it must be considered for each specific situation. However, before you decide, influenced by him as the external factor, an internal overview is always the first consideration.
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Nov 28, 2017 0

Dating Advice: Be a Fantastic Date for Anyone!

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss how to be a fantastic date for anyone and offer their best expert dating advice. Newman shares three ways to present your best self on a date — so listen up!

Relationship Author Wendy Newman Shares Expert Dating Advice

1. Act as if you already know him and be energetic: Start the conversation as you would with a best friend and simply ask him how his week has been or how he’s doing. “It shows that you’re interested in him as a whole person instead of the checklist items you have that you want to check off,” Newman explains. “And it has the conversation start so organically that it can go anywhere.” Oftentimes, if you zip your lips and just listen, he’ll open up quickly and let you get to know him right off the bat. Of being energetic, Oshima adds, “Enthusiasm attracts people — it brings them in.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: The Biggest Dating Pitfalls

2. Focus on broad questions: Avoid interview questions: Don’t ask him how many people he manages or how long he’s worked somewhere. Instead, ask questions like, “What do you love about your life?” or “What’s coming up that you’re really looking forward to?” “Ask really broad questions where he can go shallow or he can go deep,” the relationship author says. “And if the answer is ‘nothing’ to all of those questions, that’s really important information for you to have.”

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: Don’t Be a Rules Girl!

3. Give him 30 seconds of silence: Be willing to be engaged in the conversation, but after he’s done talking, give him a little bit of time to see if he has anything else to add. “This is completely counterintuitive to women,” the relationship author shares. “Women are squirming in their seats after five seconds, but men’s brains are designed differently than our’s.” If you want him to say more, you have to give him a chance.

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Nov 21, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: The Questions You Should Be Asking Him

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the questions you should be asking him and offer their best relationship advice. Here, Bradford shares the top three questions that women should ask on early dates to weed out the men who aren’t worth their time.

Relationship Author Gives Dating Advice


1. Are you looking for a long-term relationship? “That is a question that you have to ask,” Bradford says. There’s no use in wasting your time with someone who tells you up front that they just want to have some fun or date casually. If you know you’re looking for something long-term, then you should be dating someone who’s looking for the same thing. Unfortunately, a lot of men get scared by this question, so it’s helpful to start with a disclosure statement: “I don’t want to scare you or make you think I’m jumping too far ahead, but I’d love to know if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.”

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: 5 Biggest Turn-Ons for a Man

2. Why are you interested in me? This question, which you should ask after several dates, will help you figure out if he’s interested in the way you look or if he’s truly interested in who you are. For it to last, it has to be more than just your physical attributes.

Related Link: Relationship Advice: Signs You’re Settling for the Wrong Man

3. Are you single? You have to know! “Don’t wait for him to say, ‘Oh, I thought you knew when you saw the ring,'” the relationship author shares. “If he’s asking you questions that lead you to believe you won’t be exclusive with him, I’d be very skeptical.” Oshima adds, “I think women would actually be surprised at how many men are married or in a relationship already.”

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Nov 14, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Jaki Sabourin about how to stop attracting emotionally unavailable men. Don’t miss their expert dating advice!

Jaki Sabourin Shares Expert Dating Advice

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: The Secrets to Attraction

1. Stop yourself from being emotionally unavailable: As Sabourin explains, according to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like — so if you show signs of being emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract a partner with similar qualities. Instead, start creating a sense of emotional availability when interacting with men. For instance, if you go out with a guy who’s angry, don’t withdraw from him. Show compassion and try to get him to open up by asking him questions.

2. Get past your own insecurities and take bigger risks: Ask him sensitive questions that will encourage him to open up to you. Oftentimes, the cause of a man’s emotional unavailability is his own past and pain. Begin by asking him questions like, “What have you gone through?” and “Is there something that’s holding you back from finding love?”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: How to Get Men to Fall into Your Lap

3. Get over your fear of rejection: When we’re afraid of getting hurt, it’s easy to withdraw and disconnect ourselves from our partners. By talking to your partner with care and gentleness, you’ll help him realize that he’s truly missing out on love by putting up such a strong defense. Remember that there is no perfect man or woman. Relationships are all about relating to each other in ways that strengthen your connection.

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Nov 17, 2017 0

Love & Libations: Palate Pleasing Pairings & Celebrity Couple Inspiration for Thanksgiving Day

Posted In: Food, Relationship Experts, Yolanda Shoshana Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Love & Libations: Palate Pleasing Pairings & Celebrity Couple Inspiration for Thanksgiving Day
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By Yolanda Shoshana

Thanksgiving is a time for spending with the ones who we love. That also means it’s a time when wine and cocktails are flowing to celebrate gratitude and the joy of being together. Here are some beverage ideas perfect for pairing with your Thanksgiving meal, whether you’re having a special date night with your partner or a dinner with your friends and family.

Related Link: Love & Libations: Autumn Date Night Ideas Inspired by Celebrity Red Wines

A great way to butter up your mother-in-law is with a bottle of bubbles. Slip her a bottle of Carlos Santana’s Supernatural Brut. The blend of Chardonnay and Pinot grapes is a creative collaboration between Mumm Napa and Santana. The aromas of apple, fig, and vanilla are signatures of the holidays. Mumm Napa is one of the best sparkling wine houses around, so she will probably hide the bottle to save it all for herself.

Celebrity Couple Inspiration for Thanksgiving Day

Bring celebrity couple Jay-Z and Beyoncé to your Thanksgiving table by busting out a bottle of D’USSÉ. A lot of people think of Cognac as a drink for men, but women also love the brandy as well. Your relatives will be thrilled to indulge! Plus, if you aren’t married yet, maybe it’ll get you “marriage material” points. D’USSÉ has notes of caramel, spices, and honey that will excite your nose as well as your palate. Use the brandy to mix up some cocktail classics like a Sidecar or French 75, which go great with turkey, cranberries, and dressing. Above all else, Cognac is an elixir of love, mainly because it makes everybody feel good.

When you know that your partner digs Scotch, you can most certainly pair it with a Turkey Day feast. A good selection is Haig Club Scotch Whisky, a single grain scotch whisky in a striking blue bottle that is as posh as its British creators David Beckham and Simon Fuller. Think toffee and butterscotch notes with a short finish. Keep it simple by adding a touch of club soda to it to pair with dinner. If you still plan to serve wine with dinner versus the whisky, make a light Scotch-based cocktail as an aperitif to kick off the festivities.

Related Link: Celebrity Couple: David Beckham Shares Sweet Birthday Message for Wife Victoria

When your Thanksgiving meal is over, a perfect way to chill with your significant other or family and friends is by having an after-dinner drink such as a Limoncello. The Italian lemon liqueur is mainly produced in Southern Italy. While it’s slowly becoming more popular around the world, it’s the second most popular liqueur in Italy. Danny Devito’s Limoncello is the pick that will do the trick. Devito ended up getting into the Limoncello game after drinking far too many with George Clooney and showing up tipsy for an interview on The View. This is what you call turning lemons into Limoncello!

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Nov 13, 2017 0

Dating Expert Reveals Why Online Dating Is Better Than Meeting In Real Life

Posted In: Joshua Pompey Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Expert Reveals Why Online Dating Is Better Than Meeting In Real Life
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By Joshua Pompey

So often online dating is looked upon as a medium that people turn to after running out of options in “real life.” As an online dating expert, I may be a bit on the biased side, but I personally think this is a mindset that officially needs to be put to death. Not only is online dating an incredible opportunity to meet other singles, but dare I say, it’s even better than attempting to meet people out and about. Here are five reasons why:

Online Dating Advice: Why It’s Better Than Real Life Dating

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Nov 7, 2017 0

Expert Dating Advice: Beware of These Kinds of Relationships

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Cyndi Olin about what types of relationships to beware of. Plus, they share their best expert dating advice for how to handle them.

Cyndi Olin Shares Expert Dating Advice

1. The “fast and furious” relationship: In this type of relationship, you have chemistry immediately and quickly go from one date to spending all of your time together. This guy moves from “zero to sixty.” As Olin explains, “What is common in these types of relationships is…the men who have them are inadvertently  chemically attracted to women who are really wanting to feel loved.” While it may seem like a fairy tale at first, after six weeks to three months, the man unexpectedly puts the brakes on. He may disappear completely; he may stop calling you; he may tell you he’s not ready for a relationship.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: What Attracts a Man?

But why does he do it? “It starts to become real and isn’t just a fantasy anymore,” Olin shares. “In the beginning, he’s in a drunken haze — he’s enjoying his time with you, but it’s not based on reality.” The relationship never had an opportunity to build the strong foundation that it needed to last.

So ladies, it’s up to you to control the pace of the relationship. “It’s not a race to the finish line,” Oshima adds. Don’t let the fear of losing him keep you from slowing things down. Always make sure you’re comfortable with the pace of your relationship, and remember that taking it slow allows him to truly get to know you.

2. A relationship with a narcissistic, psychopathic man: It’s no surprise that this type of relationship can be very dangerous. These men can be very charming and alluring, but everything is always about them. “They will do all of the work until they get you hooked. They can be very patient with the right women,” Olin says. Women become so attached to these men that they find themselves going back to them even though they know they’re not good for them.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Ways to Be Irresistible to a Man

Eventually, he will start to criticize you. Nothing is ever good enough, and you’ll find yourself feeling confined, almost as if you’re in a box. “Oftentimes, women will try to prove themselves in the relationship and start giving more than he is. The balance of the relationship becomes off,” the dating coach explains. “The woman becomes unhappy, and he becomes more powerful and power-hungry.”

Can either of these relationships ever work? For the first type of relationship, the answer is yes. As a woman, you can control the pace of the relationship, building a strong foundation of lasting love. For the second type of relationship, it depends on the man and just how narcissistic or psychopathic he is. If he wants to break his habits and truly find love, it is possible to have a happy partnership. It’s important to remember that, for any relationship, a man has to be willing to work on himself.

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Oct 31, 2017 0

Expert Dating Advice: How to Move a Stagnant Relationship to Commitment

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Duana Welch about their best expert dating advice for women for moving a stagnant relationship to commitment. “You don’t get this question a lot from guys because they’re in the pursuer role,” Welch explains. So ladies, listen up!

Relationship Expert Duana Welch Shares Her Tips for Commitment

It’s not as simple as just asking him. It’s tempting to approach him directly with your concern, but Welch encourages you to avoid doing so. “Studies show that guys move you from the possible Mrs. Right category to the Mrs. Right Now category when you do that,” the relationship author warns. “They think you’re low status, that you don’t have any other options.” So how can you move your relationship forward?

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: Times Women Say ‘Yes’ But Shouldn’t

1. Become slightly less available: This piece of dating advice doesn’t give you an excuse to be mean or ugly to him. Instead, if he calls and you’re in the middle of something, wait a day and then call him back. Be super friendly and warm and simply explain that you were busy. “Let him hear the smile in your voice,” Welch explains. “Men want to make you happy — they feel like crap when they make you unhappy. Pair being slightly less available with being really rewarding to be with when you’re present.”

2. Test commitment with jealousy: “This is really unpopular — boy, have I received some hate mail from men!” Welch shares. But creating jealousy can be a good thing. Among women who create jealous intentionally in a male partner, it’s usually because she didn’t know if he cared or how much he cared. For instance, by accepting a date with someone else, you can easily gauge how it makes a guy feel. “If you do that and he doesn’t care, then he doesn’t care. It’s a really accurate litmus test,” says the relationship author.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: Dealing With Dating Burnout

3. Avoid ultimatums: Both Oshima and Welch feel strongly that you should never give a man an ultimatum. “It will backfire on you. Even if he goes along with it, he’ll feel like he’s backed into a corner, and he’ll probably rebel later on,” Oshima explains. “It’s always better if he comes to a decision on his own.”

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Oct 30, 2017 0

Dating & Technology Q&A: How Do I Get My Girlfriend to Stop Posting Racy Photos?

Posted In: Relationship Experts, Suzanne Oshima, Paige Wyatt and Robert Manni Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating & Technology Q&A: How Do I Get My Girlfriend to Stop Posting Racy Photos?
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Question from David T.: I’ve been with my girlfriend for a long time. We have a great relationship, but she often posts suggestive photos of herself on social media, and it makes me uncomfortable. How can I get her to keep that part of herself between us instead of for all the world to see?

Dating in the era of social media can be difficult. Parts of your relationship that were once private can now easily be shared online. So what do you do if one partner likes sharing racy photos but it makes the other person uncomfortable? Let our relationship experts help by offering their best dating advice for using technology the right way. Learn valuable dating tips from matchmaker Suzanne Oshima and relationship author Robert Manni. Here, they’ll answer your question on how to ask your significant other to keep personal parts of your relationship (like racy photos) private. Check out their dating advice below!

Dating Advice About Social Media & Racy Photos

Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: I can completely understand why it makes you feel uncomfortable that your girlfriend posts suggestive photos herself on social media, but I’m guessing that this is something she was doing well before you started dating her. While you can’t stop her from posting the racy photos, I recommend just being completely honest with her. Share your feelings with her and let her make her own decision about whether she wants to continue posting the photos. If she doesn’t want to risk losing you, I’ll bet she’ll tone it done a bit, but don’t expect her to completely stop posting those types of photos, especially on Halloween!

Related Link: Dating & Technology Q&A: My Partner Fishes For Likes — What Do I Do?

Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Millennials have little, if any, filters when it comes to posting to their social media pages. Whether they’re on Instagram showing their fitness routines and progress pictures or booty shaking on Snapchat, it’s all out there for the world to see. And for that reason, and if you and your lady share a clear understanding about your commitment to each other, I do not see this as a major issue. However, if you’re uncomfortable with her sharing too many racy photos, ask her why she does this. Is it driven by self-esteem, competitiveness, or narcissism? Or is she simply comfortable in her own skin and wants to celebrate her good looks while she’s young and beautiful? Tell her how you feel — because if you don’t the world will be watching her while you wait. Good luck.

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Oct 24, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: How to Find Love

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert Iris Benrubi about her top three tips to help you find love.

Relationship Expert Iris Benrubi Shares Her Tips for Finding Love

Related Link: Dating Advice Video on How to Attract The Right Man

1. Know your own worth: This tip is especially important for women going through a break-up or divorce, as feelings of resignation and desperation can cloud your perception of yourself. “When we own our value, we start to get clear on what it is that we’re looking for, and then, we become the chooser,” Benrubi explains. “And that gives us a lot of power.” It’s also important to build your self-confidence back up before you start dating again.

2. Trust yourself: Increase your ability to trust yourself by connecting with your intuition. “Our head can really play tricks on us,” the relationship expert says. But our intuition lives in our body, so dig deep and think about how certain things make you feel. Each person will have their own ways of understanding their intuition and how their body responds to a yes and a no. For instance, to get clear on your no’s, think about a recent ex and how he or she makes your body feel. Always remember that your intuition can’t point you in the wrong direction.

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: 3 Tips to Turn Around Your Dating Life

3. Recognize when a man is emotionally unavailable: There are certain behaviors to look out for: He doesn’t follow-up or communicate between dates; he’s dismissive; he’s not interested in learning more about you. Don’t ignore these red flags! Instead, address them with him; doing so will help you determine if he’s truly capable of fulfilling your needs in a relationship. “Watch a man’s actions; don’t listen to his words,” Oshima adds.

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Oct 20, 2017 0

Love & Libations: Autumn Date Night Ideas Inspired by Celebrity Red Wines

Posted In: Food, Relationship Experts, Yolanda Shoshana Articles
Cupid's Pulse Article: Love & Libations: Autumn Date Night Ideas Inspired by Celebrity Red Wines
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By Yolanda Shoshana

Pumpkin spice isn’t the only thing that arrives during Autumn. The season brings in the cold weather, making it the perfect time to snuggle up to your boo and enjoy some red wine to keep you warm. It’s been said that red wine is an aphrodisiac for love. According to Euripides, the Greek tragedian who was a wine connoisseur, “where is no wine there is no love.”

Here are some celebrity reds and date night ideas to enjoy during the crisp and cold months:

LVE Cabernet Sauvignon, Raymond Vineyards

Soul singer John Legend has a collection of wines called LVE produced in Napa Valley. His Cabernet Sauvignon has notes of blackberries, dark chocolate, and black tea. Can’t you imagine Chrissy Teigen making a dish from her cookbook for Legend and pairing it with some of his wine? File that under relationship goals! Put on some of Legend’s slow jams, sip some LVE, and make it a very romantic night.

Related Link: Marriage Advice from Celebrity Couples Who Stay Together

Marilyn Merlot, Marilyn Wines

You know you are an icon when you’ve passed away and you end up with your own wine. Marilyn Merlot is inspired by none other than Marilyn Monroe. If Monroe’s sassy attitude could be put in a bottle, this wine would be the answer. It’s easy to assume this wine is mainly for fun, but it’s actually a high-quality wine produced in Napa Valley that’s been going strong since 1981. Vanilla and tart cherries will flirt with your palate. When you are feeling extra frisky, maybe even a bit adventurous with your partner, this wine is the one.

Pinot by Tituss, PBTB Wines

If you have ever watched the Netflix hit, The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, you are probably familiar with the character Titus Andromedon, played by Tituss Burgess. In season one, his character sang a song called “Peeno Noir.” The song became a viral hit, which lead to Burgess creating a Pinot Noir wine. The actor has said that the wine is meant to be enjoyed by all the fabulous “Kings and Kweens.” This fun and fruity wine is great for a Netflix and chill night or some hold me, let’s Hulu.

The Director’s Merlot, Frances Ford Coppola Winery

Coppola has been in the wine game for a while. His wines tend to be inspired by the art of storytelling and filmmaking, so they have unique names to reflect that. The Director’s Merlot is a juicy and succulent red that is a good example of a wine from Sonoma. Coppola has probably won more awards for his wine than his films. This Merlot is perfect to enjoy while relaxing by the fire and having a nice conversation with your love.

Related Link: Top Places Celebrity Couples Go For Date Night

Drew’s Red Blend Pinot Noir, Barrymore Wine

Drew Barrymore is the perfect celebrity to have a wine. She knows how to have fun and live it up. She created her line of wines with the help of the California-based Carmel Road Winery. Her red blend is meant for every day sipping. Since it has notes of tobacco, spice, and fruit, it would be good paired with meat or something from a slow cooker. Long story short, when you are home for a nice, quiet meal with your partner, this is the perfect wine to choose.

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Oct 17, 2017 0

Expert Dating Advice: The Biggest Dating Pitfalls

Posted In: Dating Advice Videos, Single in Stilettos Shows Articles, Videos

By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Wendy Newman to discuss the biggest dating pitfalls and offer their best expert dating advice. Newman shares the five dating pitfalls that women often fall into and how to avoid them.

Relationship Author Wendy Newman Shares Expert Dating Advice

1. Feeling obligated to please a man: Women often worry about hurting a man’s feelings or displeasing him, but it’s important to keep your own feelings in mind. For instance, say you meet a man on a blind date, and he lied about his age and appearance. Rather than accepting the lie and sitting through the date, reject him graciously. Explain that he lied and that you won’t be staying. As Oshima explains, “The one thing you can never get back is your time.”

Related Link: Expert Dating Advice: Are You Intimidating Men?

2. Approaching a man with too much information: When dating, it’s tempting to lead with your end game: that you’ll make a wonderful, loving wife someday. But for a man, that’s too much, too soon. To start, he just wants to know whether or not you’ll be a good friend. “Instead, say, ‘This is who I am as an interesting person. Who are you?'” says the relationship author.

3. Dating only one person at a time: By limiting yourself to a pool of one, you’re comparing that relationship to being alone. “And that’s not good. It’ll have us miss important things about them or not ask questions and dig in,” Newman shares. Plus, dating multiple men at once gives you a better understanding of what you want from a relationship.

4. Dealing negatively with compatibility and chemistry: Chemistry is essential to a healthy, happy relationship, but it’s not enough. It’s easy to become distracted by a handsome face or a successful career, but don’t make excuses for him if he’s not the whole package.

Related Link: Dating Advice Video: Don’t Be a Rules Girl!

5. Trying to be someone you’re not: According to Newman, this is the number one mistake. Don’t follow a set of rules or what you think you should do. Instead, figure out what works best for you as you’re building a relationship and stick with it.

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Oct 17, 2017 0

Expert Relationship Advice: First Comes Love – Now What? Creating Intimacy Without Intercourse

Posted In: Dr. Amy Osmond Cook Articles, Hope After Divorce Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Relationship Advice: First Comes Love – Now What? Creating Intimacy Without Intercourse
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By Amy Osmond Cook

The power of love can never be underestimated, but it is also often misunderstood. As one of the leading Google search topics, the matter of love and how it pairs with sex is on most people’s minds. It’s possible to have sex without love, but can love survive without sex?

Most people say yes. A study conducted at San Diego State University reported that couples who reported having a satisfying relationship also reported having less sex as the relationship progressed. In an era where sex is used to sell everything from perfume to bathroom cleaner, this study shows that people may be buying it, but they aren’t necessarily “doing it.”

Relationship Advice on How Sex Relates to Love

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Oct 3, 2017 0

Dating Advice for Dealing with the Break-Up Blues

Posted In: David Wygant Articles, Relationship Experts
Cupid's Pulse Article: Dating Advice for Dealing with the Break-Up Blues
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By David Wygant

Let me explain how I personally handle a break-up and why it’s probably one of the most amazing ways to heal. When I experience a break-up with somebody, I want to process through it very quickly. Why? Because to me, life is always about moving on.

When I was 19 years old, my mother and I had a long talk. At that time in my life, Kris, my high school girlfriend, had just broken up with me for the third time, and I was extremely upset. I was full of heartache. I was sobbing. I couldn’t believe that this was the third time we had broken up.

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Oct 3, 2017 0

Expert Dating Advice: The 5 Most Terrifying Words to a Man

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By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Dr. Jed Diamond to discuss the five most terrifying words to a man and offer their best relationship advice. Women are constantly worried about saying that right thing to men, and here, Dr. Diamond teaches you what not to say.

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Sep 26, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: 5 Biggest Turn-Ons for a Man

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By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Tinzley Bradford to discuss the five biggest turn-ons for men and offer their best relationship advice. Bradford shares five tips for how to attract men and reveals once and for all what turns a man on.
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Sep 19, 2017 0

Dating Advice Video: 5 Ways Women Sabotage Themselves with Men

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By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s Single in Stilettos dating advice video, founder and relationship expert Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship author Robert Manni to discuss how women sabotage themselves with men and offer their best relationship advice. Here are five ways that women sabotage themselves when looking for love.

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1. You’re not in it to win it: You may say you want to find love, but instead of going out to a new spot where you can actually meet someone, you find yourself in a routine of dinner at home and TV time. “You have to put yourself out there. You have to be willing to fail to be able to succeed,” Manni explains.

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2. You’re always plugged in: Put your phone down! If you’re walking around New York City with your earbuds in and music blaring, you’re presenting yourself as closed off and unavailable. It’s hard for a guy to ask an open-ended question or chat you up when you’re walled off through technology. Oshima adds, “Those are barriers to meeting someone organically.”

3. You’re not fishing where the fish are: “Go where the guys are!” the relationship author says. You can find guys are at sporting events, at the football field, at a tech store, at a whiskey tasting, or at the gym. Think about your brother and his friends — where do they often go?

4. You’re always with a group of girlfriends: It’s no secret that a pack of women can be overwhelming! Guys are wondering how to handle the group dynamics and just focus on the woman they’re truly interested in. Instead, make it easier for them and single yourself out.

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5. You’re too attached to your list: This is one of the most important ways that women sabotage themselves. “If you stick too closely to your list, you’re going to narrow down your opportunities,” Manni explains. “And the longer you’re single, the longer your list grows.” Make sure your list only includes a few core qualities that are value-oriented and be flexible about your physical type.

A bonus way that women sabotage themselves with men: You throw someone back in the dating pool too quickly. One bad coffee date does not mean the relationship is doomed! “Love grows if you keep an open heart,” the relationship author says. “It can turn into something spectacular if you give love a chance.”

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Expert Dating Advice: Flirting for Fun

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By Whitney Johnson

On this week’s episode of Single in Stilettos, founder and matchmaker Suzanne Oshima talks to relationship expert PJ Dixon to offer their best dating advice on flirting for fun. Find out how you can flirt as a women over 40 with the two dating tips below!
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Sep 19, 2017 0

Expert Relationship Advice: The Stages of Soulmates

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By Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher from Project Soulmate

We all want to believe in love at first sight and the fairytale ending, but that’s not always the case. Relationships and love can grow and change with time. From your first hello to saying “I do,” here are four stages you will go through to establish if the person you’re dating is your soulmate.
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Expert Relationship Advice: How I Used a Manfunnel to Meet My Dream Husband

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Expert Relationship Advice: How I Used a Manfunnel to Meet My Dream Husband
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By Megan Weks

Once upon a time, a lonely woman centered her heart and her hopes on a certain man, whom she put on a pedestal. She wondered what he saw in her and why a man of his caliber would be interested in what she had to offer. Long after he let her go, she would obsess and compare other men to him, feel sorry for herself, and wonder why a relationship hadn’t yet worked out for her when they had for so many other women. When would it be her turn?
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Dating Advice: The Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating First Dates

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By Joshua Pompey

Ready for your very first online date? No? Well, don’t worry. If you’re nervous about meeting someone for the first time or simply need some solid dating advice, today, we are going to go over some fundamental first date information that you should abide by when you meet your next online match.

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Celebrity Relationship: Jessica Simpson Celebrates 7-Year Anniversary with Eric Johnson

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By Whitney Johnson

Congratulations are in order! As originally reported by UsMagazine.com, Jessica Simpson and her husband Eric Johnson just celebrated the seven-year anniversary of their celebrity relationship. The fashion designer marked the special occasion by posting a sweet family picture on Instagram, captioning it, “7 years, 2 kids, and a whole lotta love later.” The celebrity couple are proud parents to Maxwell Drew, 5, and Ace Knute, 3 — and they don’t plan on having any more kids. As Simpson recently shared on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, “I have two beautiful children and I’m not having a third. They’re too cute! You can’t top that.”

This celebrity relationship has lasted for seven blissful years. What are some ways to work on your relationship on a daily basis?

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Celebrity News: Bella Thorne Says Cannes Isn’t for Her After Scott Disick Hookup

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Cupid's Pulse Article: Celebrity News: Bella Thorne Says Cannes Isn’t for Her After Scott Disick Hookup
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By Whitney Johnson

And just like that, it’s over. According to UsMagazine.com, Bella Thorne is over Cannes, France after Scott Disick was spotted kissing his celebrity ex Chloe Bartoli. The actress tweeted, “Yo this #cannes fancy life isn’t for me.” As previously reported in celebrity news, Thorne and Disick were first seen at dinner in Los Angeles before they took their budding celebrity relationship to Cannes. There, they packed on the PDA and got cozy poolside. Interestingly, according to past celebrity news, Bartoli is the same celebrity ex that led to Disick’s split from Kourtney Kardashian in July 2015.

In celebrity news, that was certainly a short celebrity relationship! What are some ways to know quickly that a relationship is not for you?

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