On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to writer, speaker, and author Zan Perrion about the best way to start a conversation with a man. He’s worked with thousands of men and really knows what they want from women. The problem, he says, with women approaching men to start a conversation is “they’re damned if they do, and they’re damned if they don’t.” If they don’t say hello to that cute guy in the corner, they go home alone because he’s not doing his job and being the man. But if you do make the first move as a woman, even if the relationship works out, you may forever be holding up his end of the bargain. Listen up for more great dating tips from Perrion!
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about ways you’re being unavailable and how to attract love in your life. Here are some things you may be doing to block love from entering your life: You’re not really trying to meet the right man; you complain to your friends and family that there are no good men out there; you think all men are cheaters; you think it’s impossible to meet a man because there are more women than men in your city; you keep making excuses as to why you can’t meet someone; you’re stuck in a past relationship; you’re using your looks or work to hold you back; you think men your age just want to date younger women; you think of yourself as a victim; or you’re afraid of the love you deserve, being vulnerable, and/or intimacy.
Sure, it’s hard to meet the right guy, but it’s not impossible. If you’re feeling hopeless, it’s time to look inward and consider the advice in the video above!
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I know. You’re about to unlock the inner bad girl version of you for Halloween. Some of you love to dress up as sexy school girls. Some of you are even more rambunctious and like to dress up as a naughty nurse. Maybe you’re the dominating dominatrix, the meanest witch, or the cutest little ghost a man has ever seen. That’s what I love about this holiday. It allows the inner woman, that naughty version of you, to come flying out. To you, it’s just staying in costume all night long.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Robert Manni, author of The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, about how to get a second date. It’s easy to get him to say yes to a first date, but securing another night out with the right guy can be a bit trickier. Here are some tips that Manni recommends following: have confidence; don’t drink too much; dress the part; talk about your dreams; have a conversation and really get to know him; and send a “thank you” text afterwards.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to Ms. Solomon, dating coach at TheDatingTruth.com, about conquering your fear of talking to a handsome man. We’ve all been there: We’re approached by an incredibly good-looking guy, and before we know it, we’re tongue-tied or babbling, looking down at our feet, and feeling like a fool. Here are a few tips from Ms. Solomon to help you gracefully handle this situation: Talk to every man, not just the attractive ones; have a prop or a conversation topic in mind; and recognize and acknowledge that you’re nervous.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Sandra Fidelis about common first date mistakes that women make. So often, we immediately dismiss a guy if we don’t feel an instant attraction to him…but doesn’t he deserve another chance? Here are four things women often think after a date that hold them back from finding love: I want amazing chemistry from the start; I just wasn’t attracted to him; he’s great, but I don’t want to go on a second date; and if I’m not going to date him, I don’t need to be his friend.
Style and beauty expert Bobbie Thomas knows a thing or two about fall fashion. First, that there’s no need to feel like you have to redo your entire wardrobe for the season. “There’s something for everyone,” Thomas explains in our celebrity interview. “I really like that seasonless style is around, where you can take a spring or summer item — like a bright color or floral pattern — and winterize it.” Of course, the best tip is always confidence. “You need to walk into a situation with…a mission to actually like what you see in the mirror instead of already assuming you’re not going to like that,” she shares.
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This time of year, the one must-have for every girl’s closet is boots. “Riding boots happen to be my personal favorite because they just look so polished. You could be in leggings and a sweater, and they give you just enough heel, but they’re still so comfortable,” she says.
Thomas shares love advice too and encourages practicality for your date night looks. “If you’re looking to have a good time with someone, don’t be uncomfortable!” she reveals. “Make sure you can move around and wiggle in your clothes. You really want to wear something that you’ll be so comfortable in that you’ll be able to be yourself on that date.”
Just like you want to find a loyal man, the TODAY Show style editor also encourages you to look for a loyal retailer. She’s teamed up with Kohl’s for their Yes2You rewards program. “In order to really expand your wardrobe, you want to shop smart,” she says. “That’s why I think it’s a really great idea to have a retail relationship as well as a real life one!”
You can keep up with Bobbie on Twitter @BobbieThomas. Check Kohl’s for the best fall fashion finds!
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Question from Amelia S.: This guy who my friend has been hanging out with a lot will randomly message me on Facebook whenever I’m online. It’s always harmless stuff like, “What are you up to?” but it still catches me off guard. Should I tell her, and if so, what’s the best way to bring up the subject?
Suzanne K. Oshima, Matchmaker: You know that saying “you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place?” Well, guess what? You’re in a no-win situation! From what you said, it sounds like your friend just likes him and isn’t dating him yet, so “technically,” she can’t get upset that he’s contacting you. Now, I say “technically” because we both know that, if you tell her, she will be upset and hurt.
Now, while you may think that his messages to you are completely harmless, men don’t do things without some sort of intention. Without knowing the entire situation, I’m going to guess that he’s not just looking for a friend and that those harmless messages are going to lead to something more.
So here’s my advice to you: If you truly value your friendship with your friend and have no interest whatsoever in this guy, then I suggest you ignore his “harmless messages”…because it’s just going to lead to a no-win situation for everyone involved.
Paige Wyatt, Reality Star: Absolutely tell your friend that this guy has been messaging you. If it truly is harmless, he won’t be embarrassed or upset if she brings it up. If he does have an ulterior motive, then you warned your friend, and it’s now her move. It’s much better to be honest with your friends about situations like this one. If you didn’t tell her and she found out, she may get upset with you. If it really is nothing, then what’s the harm in letting her know?
Robert Manni, Guy’s Guy: Some say where there’s smoke, there’s fire. In this case, it’s hard not to miss the smoke — but let’s not rush to judgement. When a guy is really interested in a woman, his focus is on her, and he curtails his flirting. Maybe this guy just wants to establish good relationships with his leading lady’s BFFs. Still, I’m not sure if this is the best way to do it. He must know that girlfriends talk. And when friends talk about the curious actions of a guy, his behavior and character go under the microscope. At this point, I’m not sure that’s in his best interests.
As for you, for now, I suggest you either ignore his Facebook messages or keep the exchanges polite. Over time, his true intentions will surface. When they do, you can determine if it’s necessary to let your friend know about his correspondence.
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The expenses for caring for children continue to rise, and that doesn’t make it any easier for divorced parents. Each parent attempts to keep their own household going, and at the same time, they often try to share expenses for their children. This may be court ordered or due to a mutual agreement between the parents.
Whether the divorcing couple is a celebrity couple in the public eye or a private couple, the children’s needs and welfare should be the number one priority. You must accept and embrace the reality that your children’s expenses to live will not change. They are our greatest responsibility and deserve the best care and protection we can give them, whether married or divorced. Some divorced celebrity couples, like Demi Moore and Bruce Willis and Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe, seem to put their children’s best interest ahead of their own as they co-parent together.
Routine check-ups at both the doctor’s office and the dentist are essential for your children. One of the parents should have both medical and dental coverage on the children, as the cost of this type of preventative care out of pocket is very high. If one of your children have an emergency for either place, it can be a bill you have to pay for a very long time.
Childcare is another expense that can add up when a divorce takes place. Perhaps one of the parents was the caregiver, and now both are in the workforce. The parents should decide on a childcare provider together. It may be a licensed facility, a nanny, or even a family member. The cost of childcare should be second to the quality of care that your children are receiving.
Inevitably, there will be additional expenses for your children. Who is going to pay for school clothing and supplies? Many parents who pay child support assume that they pay enough for such items with that monthly check. Yet it may be just enough to help the family with food and shelter. You don’t want your children to go without due to lack of money.
Many children love to be involved in extracurricular activities as well. It can be sports, dance, or clubs. There will be expenses involved, including special clothing and shoes needed and even enrollment fees. Parents need to be willing to share these expenses so that their children can take part in such events.
Summer is also a time when there are more expenses for children. They may want to go to swimming lessons, camping, or even to a summer camp. All of these things cost money, and someone has to pay it! Some feel the parent who makes more money should cover the cost. This is up to the parents though, as many want to do everything 50/50. Problems could arise when one parent can’t afford their share.
As you can see, there are plenty of additional expenses to consider for your children when you are divorced. Make sure you are willing to discuss these expenses with the other parent. You always want to do what’s in the best interest of your children. Bottom line: Get as much in writing as you can when it comes to who will cover expenses. This way, everyone involved knows what to plan for.
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Michele Sfakianos, RN, BSN, is a Registered Nurse, Life Skills Expert, Speaker and Award Winning Author. She is the owner of Open Pages Publishing, which includes her series of “The 4-1-1” books on Life Skills, Step Parenting, and Surviving Teenhood. Michele is a contributing expert for HopeAfterDivorce.org, DivorceSupportCenter.com, FamilyShare.com, and CupidsPulse.com.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Mr. Locario about how to know if a guy is interested in you. Here are the top five signs to look out for: He can’t stop staring at you; he calls or contacts you in some way; he wants to show you off to his family and friends; he tries to make you laugh; and he acts nervous around you. Don’t miss the rest of Mr. Locario’s advice in the video above!
In this week’s dating advice video, relationship expert and E!’s Famously Single dating coach, Laurel House talks about what it means to decide to fall in love. If you keep going out with great people but you’re just not feeling it, it might be because you’re choosing not to be open and available. “You have to decide to open your heart. You have to decide to be vulnerable. You have to have conversations that express vulnerability,” she explains. Otherwise, your relationships will continue to be one-sided. Listen up for more great dating advice!
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On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to dating coach Tripp about how to communicate effectively with a man. As every woman knows (and has been told time and time again), communication is key in any relationship. Here are Tripp’s best three tips for talking to your guy: be direct; be clear and don’t beat around the bush; and never assume. Watch the video above for more great advice!
For today’s celebrity couple predictions, we’re looking at three pairs who are in various stages of a relationship: one set of newlyweds, one rebound relationship, and one surprise split.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos video, founder Suzanne Oshima talks to passionate living coach and author Abiola Abrams about how to flirt with men. She shares more than just external flirting tips and describes bombshell flirting as exuding positive, feminine energy. Here are her tips for working on your inner flirt game: be tuned into your inner receptivity; flirt with everyone; imagine yourself as a magnet; and expect a male miracle. When you change your energy, true love will come your way!
Interview by Lori Bizzoco. Written by Christina DeRosa.
It’s hard to keep up with Perez Hilton, as he’s always on the go trying to get celebrity gossip for his own popular website. But the blogger slowed down for a moment to catch up with CupidsPulse.com at OK! Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration. During a one-on-one celebrity video interview, he gave us the latest scoop on living a healthy life and looking for a relationship and love in New York City.
In this week’s dating advice video, relationship expert and E!’s Famously Single dating coach, Laurel House discusses your must-have relationship mantra. “‘Here I am.’ That’s it!” she shares. “Not ‘Here I am — am I good enough?’ or ‘Here I am — do you like me?’ It’s confident. It’s comfortable.” If you don’t recognize your own value and worth, then you can never expect a man to do so. Remember that you can only be who you are — and someday, you’ll find a partner who loves you for you.
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Interview by Ashley Pacifico. Written by Stephanie Salsini.
Fans of Jersey Shore and Snooki & Jwoww recognize Deena Cortese as the hilarious little “meatball” who is best friends with Snooki. In our exclusive celebrity interview during OK! Magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration, CupidsPulse.com asked Cortese and her boyfriend Chris Buckner about what we could expect to see from them on the reality TV show Couples Therapy as well as their best fashion dating advice.
On this week’s Single in Stilettos show, founder Suzanne Oshima chats with New York City Gal blogger Melissa Braverman about tips for women dating in their 30s. The ladies discuss: the biggest challenges you face as a single woman in your 30s; how to navigate those challenges; the pressure to “settle down” by a certain age; what to do if you get discouraged with dating; and how to stay motivated in your search for love.
It’s every Bachelor couple’s fairytale to walk down the aisle after finding true love on ABC’s hit reality TV show. For happy celebrity couple Catherine and Sean Lowe, that fairytale turned into a reality when the couple got hitched in a televised wedding earlier this year. Our executive editor and founder Lori Bizzoco talked to the happy celebrity couple at OK! magazine’s New York Fashion Week celebration to get the scoop on married life, their recent appearance on Bachelor In Paradise, and their celebrity baby plans. …Don’t miss the rest of our exclusive interview! Click here for more.
Kathy Wakile first captured our hearts as a cast member of Real Housewives of New Jersey (RHONJ), and now, she’s enchanting our taste buds with her dessert line Dolci Della Dea and her cookbook Indulge: Delicious Little Desserts That Keep Life Real Sweet, which was released on September 2nd. Earlier this week, the reality TV star did a book signing at the Boulevard Books & Cafe in Brooklyn. In our celebrity video interview, we got the latest scoop on her decadent desserts, the upcoming season of RHONJ, and life at home with her family.
