After a three-year relationship, and despite rumors of a breakup, actress Jessica Biel and singer Justin Timberlake seem to be going strong.  According to a source close to the couple, Biel is even pressuring Timberlake to start a family.  The source said Biel is so desperate she would settle for a child out of wedlock. Can a baby lead to a marriage?

Cupid’s Advice:

Biel would not be the first woman to have a baby first and a marriage second.  As long as both parties are aware of the plan and have similar goals, this situation can work.

1. Make it a discussion: Having a child should never be the choice of one person, and a woman shouldn’t secretly try to get pregnant in hopes it will lead to marriage.  Both parties need to be involved to ensure the success of starting a family.

2. Plan it out: Having a child is a huge commitment, married or not.  Plan ahead, and evaluate the situation you and your partner are in.  If  marriage doesn’t seem to be in the picture, remember that your lives will always be connected as you are both responsible for parenting the child.

3. Don’t rush to the altar: Once a baby is born, take some time to live and work as parents before you start discussing marriage again.  If it’s meant to happen it will, but your child should always come first.