By Molly Jacob and Suzanne Casamento for Galtime.com

Valentine’s Day is like the New Year’s Eve of relationships and love. There’s all this pressure to have an amazing evening, maybe even the date of a lifetime.  That’s thanks to the amazing Valentine’s Day dates in unrealistic rom-coms. But before you get all caught up in all the hype, it’s important to consider who you’re going to spend the holiday with this year. So instead of settling for just anyone’s company, set yourself up for success by spending Valentine’s Day with the right guy.

Are you still in the market for a Valentine?  Here are some signs he’s the right guy to be your Valentine’s Day date:

1. He gives you butteries: Yes, that reference rings middle-school bells, but thankfully, butterflies don’t disappear once you become an adult. When it comes to spending Valentine’s Day with someone, he should be someone you really like. First and foremost, because you want to enjoy it, but also because you don’t want to spend such a big holiday with someone you’re not truly interested in. It could be misleading and ultimately hurtful for your date. With relationships and love, if you are not excited about your date, you can be sure that that’s a warning sign you may not go on many other dates with him.

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2. He treats you with respect: This love advice sounds like a total no-brainer, but many of us have felt the whoosh of butterflies around a guy who doesn’t even know we’re in the room. In order to have a spectacular Valentine’s Day celebration, it’s important that he’s equally as crazy about you. Determine his level of interest by the way he treats you. Does he call and text you often? Does he listen when you speak? Does he ask questions about you? Does he remember details about what you say? Those are all signs that he respects you.

If you’re still not sure after answering those questions, flip them and ask yourself the following questions. Do you always have to contact him first? Does he seem distracted when you talk? Does he only talk about himself? If someone disappoints you on a regular date, rest assured he will disappoint you on love’s biggest night of the year, too.

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3. He knows how to have fun: When it comes to a big holiday like Valentine’s Day, fun is definitely the “it” factor that will take an ordinary date over the top. Sure, V-Day is all about relationships and love, but don’t let that take precedent over just having a good time. Choose a date who is relaxed, positive, and can make you laugh. Whether you enjoy a romantic dinner, go ice-skating, or see a play, your Valentine’s Day celebration is only going to be amazing if your date is someone you have fun with when you’re out (or if you stay in). Dinner at the best restaurant in town is good, but a date who makes you laugh will elevate your chocolate mousse from tasty to downright dreamy.

If you find that none of your prospects fit the date criteria above, ditch the date idea and plan an evening doing something you love. Don’t let cheesy rom-coms make you think you have to spend this day with someone just so you’re not alone. Don’t worry, Valentine’s Day will come again next year.

Cupid’s wants to know about your Valentine’s Day plans! How did you know your date was the one to spend this holiday of love with?