By Abiola Abrams
Some of us view Hollywood stars as lifestyle role models. You want Sofia Vergara’s lipstick, Beyonce’s curly hair or the Balenciaga bag that everybody and their mother was rocking on the red carpet recently. While it’s cool to mix celeb style with your own once in a while, it’s important to remember that the people who entertain us with movies, TV and music are just that — people.
That said, the famous are more human than we realize, and some of our favorite celebrities have one thing in common that we should never seek to emulate — their tumultuous relationships. In fact, let’s learn from the love, sex and dating mistakes of the stars.
Here are some celebrity relationship snafus to avoid:
Love Mistake: Never Being Single.
It seemed like Jennifer Lopez was barely divorced from her crooner hubby Marc Anthony before stepping out with sexy back up dancer Casper Smart. Before that, she made a seamless transition from her Bennifer engagement to her JenAnthony marriage. What’s up with that?
Going from relationship to relationship is a mistake. Taking a break between longtime loves is the best way to heal and ensure that we come to the next marriage or engagement as whole human beings.
Love Mistake: Marrying too soon.
Kim Kardashian and what’s-his-face Humphries had the 72-day fairytale heard ‘round the world. It seemed like Kimmie was set to continue the Dash girls tradition of meeting and immediately ending up happily ever after. Look at her little sister Khloe and her b-baller Lamar Odom. Their less than one month courtship has yielded a relationship that’s still going strong.
Bottom line? Khloe and Lamar are a wonderful fluke. Marrying someone before you’ve even had the “where will we live” conversation is a huge mistake. Sorry, Kris Humphries!
Love Mistake: Stealing someone else’s lover.
Man and woman stealing is a time honored Hollywood tradition. See LeAnn Rimes, Tori Spelling, Angelina Jolie and even old school movie star Elizabeth Taylor. It’s a big world out there. If your love cheated to be with you, then how can you ever trust that this pattern won’t be repeated? The answer is, you can’t.
Karma is a mean goddess, and hell hath no fury like karma scorned. Just sayin.’
Love Mistake: Getting a mistress pregnant.
Arnold Schwarzenegger sure did seem preachy about family values as the Republican governor of California, didn’t he? Little did we know that the Governator was not only sleeping with the maid, but he’d had a love child with her as well. Oy vey.
Obviously, this is a relationship no-no to be avoided at all costs.
Love Mistake: Bashing your ex.
When we watched Kelsey Grammer’s previous wife Camille Grammer battle the divorce demon on “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills,” our hearts broke for her. Her A-list husband cheated and ran. Sure, she had choice words about him on her reality show, but then Mr. Grammer behaved deplorably by bashing his former Mrs. in an interview with Pierce Brosnan.
A smarter move is always to take the high road. See Jennifer Aniston for lessons on grace under fire. Okay, it didn’t work out, and she moved on. Sure, it’s probably messy. Life is a contact sport.
What are some other celeb love snafus? Dating different versions of the same jerk a la Halle Berry, returning to the scene of the crime like Rihanna or falling apart after a breakup like Demi Moore are all examples not to follow.
Ah, le love. You’re much better off copying a celebrity hair cut than imitating their love styles. Here’s to shiny, happy and healthy relationships!
Abiola Abrams is a lifestyle expert and host of “Abiola’s Kiss and Tell TV.” Her next book is entitled The Official Bombshell Handbook. Find her fun and scandalous love advice and interviews at http://www.AbiolaTV.com. She tweets @abiolatv.